Feeling Betrayed

Have had a bad couple of days, y'all. Let me give you a little "back story". In my family of origin, only my brother (who I would trust w/ my life) and my sister (who is an RN who also has her masters in nursing and has worked psych units before going into administration) know about my DID dx. My mother and step-father only know of the depression dx because I just don't trust them w/ that information. Well, 2 days ago my mother calls me and asks "whats this about about the multiple personalities?" You could've knocked me over w/ a feather. She was very confrontative, and I don't do confrontation well at all, especially w/ her. It seems that my sister "outed" me to her. Why, I don't know. But Mom just kept going on about was I sure that I had this and did I get a second opinion, etc. But then she delivered the clincher. She said that I hadn't been in church for a long time and that she had been concerned for my soul. Had I considered talking w/ a priest and having an exorcism done? This is a well educated woman. She has 2 masters degrees - one in history and one in education - and she thinks that I'm demon posessed! I told her as calmly as I could that, no, I hadn't thought about that and that this conversation was making me very uncomfortable so I was going to hand up the phone now. Then I said "I love you, Mom. Goodbye." and hung up the phone. She called right back - I saw her number on the caller I.D. - but I wouldn't pick up.

I felt so betrayed both by my sister and my mother. Why did my sister have to tell her? I told her not to. It wasn't her decision to make when to tell mom about my dx. And Mom -- how could she think that her own daughter is posessed by the devil! I was so hurt, so shocked that she could even think such a thing, much less voice it to me. It feels like more abuse. I feel victimized again. I just can't take it. Why would she say such a thing? -janesgang

ohh Janniebug, I am so sorry this happened to you. I have no idea why family does this stuff sometimes. I could see this happening to myself with my family. I am scared of what my dx is going to be. Anytime you put your full trust in someone and you get betrayed like this it hurts. And for your mom to think that you are posessed , I think that is just crazy.Appearently she needs to take a more educated look at things. Maybe a book or something would do her good on seeing that there is proof of what you are going thru. Or maybe she is just in denial. I dont know. Just know that we love you here and I think alot of you too. Take care hon.

((((((((JANNIEBUG))))))) if its ok.

Hugz
Tryin

Jannie, Did is very misunderstood. I am so sorry for your families ignorance and ladk of support. Keep taking care of yourself.

janesgang,

What an uncomfortable phone call to be on the receiving end of! I'm so sorry you had this happen.

I'm glad you have caller I.D. so that you can choose whether or not you're up for handling another call like that. Yikes!

I do not understand where your mother is coming from and how incredibly hurtful to have her think that about you let alone express it outloud! safe hugs if okay (((((janesgang)))))

Who knows why your sister disclosed this to you mother? I do not think that your sister would have acted out of maliciousness but more likely she either slipped and told or was concerned lately and felt the need to tell. I really don't know and am not making any excuses for either or their behaviour.

Again I'm very sorry this is what you've been contending with. I'm glad you're able to post here and share this with us.

As for possession and DID? I've heard of far too many people thinking that is the case and intelligent educated people too. So that is one more of those awful misconceptions about DID that needs mythbusting.

Janesgang~ I am soooo sorry I misread your name and called you Janniebug. And Jannie I am sorry I got you mixed up too! Please Accept my apology!!!! I really am sorry! I tried to edit it but the time lapsed already for the time allowed to edit it.
((((((((JANESGANG))))))))) Hang in there hon~

Hugz~
Tryin

Janesgang, , sorry this happened , sounds like your mom needs to learn how to be a better parent plus your sister needs to understand what confidentiality really is. Keep posting here we are our extended family and will never let you fall
Angie and the girls

((((((Janesgang))))) - I am so sorry you are having to go through this!! It is extremely abusive in my opinion, not to mention hideously irresponsible, for anyone to ever try to convince a person with DID, BP, schizophrenia, or any other mental condition, that they are demon possessed. HIGHLY irresponsible, especially considering how many of us are already tormented by religious fears and obsessions.

When I run into people like this who are so selfish and irresponsible and clearly don't care about my mental health, I run in the opposite direction -- FAST! But I understand it's not so easy to do when the person is your own KIN!

I wish someone articulate, well educated and well-studied in this area would write an article about it! Then when we ran into those irresponsible types we could whip out the article. Y'know?

I hope this gets sorted out right for you.

Thanks everyone. I knew I could count on all of you. You know the funny thing about Mom is that she is an educated woman - has 2 masters degrees! (obviously neither one is in psychology) Weird, huh? Anyway, thanks again. You all mean so very much to me. -janesgang

{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}

Maybe she thought she was trying to help. Or maybe she needed some support in dealing w/ this. We are not easy to deal with & can be very draining to a person. But still, that's no excuse w/o your permission.
Please don't let it bother you too much. You can't take back what she said but you can be responsible for how you handle it. Which you did a good job with in being calm yet assertive about it. You did good in the face of this surprise.
Love,
RhysMadison