My husband is ***ing another woman

Try not to be in a hurry to find someone else immediately. But if he's really a good guy, I'm happy for you
I think in these cases there is grieving too.

Oh hools, just read this. I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. I echo others' concerns...get a lawyer. These things get messy really fast and you want protection when it does. And even if it doesn't, the lawyer will protect your sanity too.

Seesaw

I know you want revenge on your hubs, but please don't date right now. Your kids have enough crazy going on in their lives without having to deal with one or a series of boyfriends du jour! Just please think of them. I know you're hurting, but your kids need to come first.

Seesaw is right...get an attorney. You cannot trust your hubs to deal fairly with you right now.

Your hubby didn't stick to his marriage vows, so I would not trust him to stick to an agreement for an amicable divorce... Just saying.


He's a real low life idiot, you deserve so much better.


Stop playing nice and make sure your kiddos are protected financially by getting a lawyer, you may not want one, but they need one.


This whole house business?

He may be realizing he can't entertain his new flooze and maintain his responsibilities long term, so he's already looking into cutting costs.


Don't let him off the hook so easy hun

/\ This. Everything Tripp said.

It ain't about "amicable". It's about fair, manageable and realistic.
And it's about minimizing the recovery after-effects of divorce so that it's as little long-term damage as possible. Please, I know the shock hasn't worn off yet, and will keep showing up no doubt for quite some time. Life-altering loss (and this deffo is one) is like that.

Please protect yourself.

xo
Chyia

So ........

I've been meeting up with this guy quite a bit that I met on a dating website.

I really like him. He's sweet. But I acknowledge we're in the "honeymoon" phase.

Someone said it's a rebound relationship.

*sigh*

Does it matter if I'm just enjoying myself for now?

I don't think its a bad idea to have fun, as long as you can remember its just for fun....


Getting emotionally invested, now that would be a bad idea.

True ... There's nothing left within me to emotionally invest in anyone else at this stage. All I know is he's a fun person to hang out with and gets the situation/separation - he divorced his ex in 2012.

So sorry about what happened. Sounds good that you met someone else. I say go have fun!

Hitch, you are simply trying to escape the pain, which is understandable...but your kids need to come first. You're not even divorced yet, not even close. If you don't grieve this failed relationship the way it needs to be grieved, you will simply pile new troubles on top of old.

Your kids need your attention on them, not on some rebound dude. And yes, this is a rebound relationship.

Yes, I recognise that it is a rebound relationship.

My kids need me, you are right.

But compared to where I was 2 months ago I could hardly be there for them.

I'm finally starting to feel a little bit of stability.

It's usually better after a bad marriage to spend time figuring out exactly WHO you are not in terms of another person & that is better off done alone. You want fun???? Have fun with girlfriends that you don't get yourself emotionally tangled up with. I'm sure if he was divorced that long ago, he's probably looking for more than fun & once sex gets involved it's emotional involvement whether you acknowledge it or not.

You need to get STRONG on your own & for your kids

Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you.

Been there and done that hun. I feel your pain. You r not alone in this. I'd love an update on how you are doing, on how you kicked his butt or how you forgave, just what ever. I support you either way. You know that right? You have listend to me and been by my side threw all my crap, and I am still here, and when this is all said and done we will both still be right here, so hand in there.

(((HUGS)))

(((Mama))) ... there's a lot of arguing between us. Back and forth every day.

I haven't forgiven, I just don't think this is the type of thing I will forgive, ever.

He's with his mistress still to this day. She's an "amazing, awesome" women he tells me *pukes*

He wants to sell the house - like any day now - and it's freaking me out. My home is my only sanctuary.

I am so sorry you are having to go threw this. I hope it will pass soon, and your hell will end and you will have a true testimony to share. I hope some day you can share with others how to be strong and get threw the difficult stuff. That is how I see you. You are strong and you will get thru this stuff. I know it is hard to see right now. You have always given me hope where I saw none. Just hand in there. (((HUGS)))