No, No, No, No, No ... silence...

Communication is important, yes? I have been suggesting family therapy, or couples therapy, or any kind of therapy for us parents, the kids, all of us, etc. for months. My wife's replies are all along the lines of: "Therapy is bull****", "therapy doesnt work", "I will not have my parenting questioned". At least I managed to convince her that one child would benefit. She says after 12 sessions over 5 months, "it,s not working!!!" "it won't work" etc. She believes the sheer force of will can fix everything, and what cant be fixed can be ignored.
Now she has gone totally silent: no talking, no texting, no communication of any kind. It 's very strange because we live in the same apartment with our kids.

My husband is the same way. He uses silence like punishment. I have told him how hurtful it feels to be shut out. Refuses counseling of any form. Horrible communicator. I understood that when we were married and hoped it would improve. I haven't given up but its frustrating and lonely to not be able to talk about our issues. Good Luck Mr Moose.

Hello MrMoose: Yes... my wife also adamantly refuses to participate in any type of therapy or counseling... individual, couples, group, or otherwise... I don't even broach the subject with her because I know what the answer would be. I used to be opposed to it as well. However, my mental health struggles have softened me up with regard to the process... (although I don't see anyone anymore either.) While some things can & will change, over time, others are simply immoveable. I wish you well...

An offshoot of couples counseling are retreats for couples and similar styled themes, made to get couples back on track. My next door neighbors seem to have enlisted the help of a pastor from their church.

If psychotherapy isn't for everyone, there's alternatives. An unhappy marriage trickles down.

I had a similar situation. You didn't say how long you have been married but I went thru what your going thru now for almost 40 yrs.!!! COMMUNICATION is the key . Verbally and non-verbally. There has to be a dialogue with truthfulness and trust. My wife also refused marriage counseling and came from a family that never aired out their issues. Everything was always swept under the rug. Talk about dysfunction.
What took me a very long time to realize was that she just didn't know how to communicate on an adult level.
Many times she would just turn her back to me , or walk out of the room. Do anything to avoid openness.
Look , all I know is that if she doesn't want to help better your marriage thru therapy , maybe something else will work. But in my experience if it's at the point where you guys need counseling then you must have some issues that NEED to be talked out. Hopefully in a civil manner.
And one bit of advice , if I may , try and nip this in the bud ASAP. And start thinking about all that could happen to YOU if your marriage fails. Once the silent treatment starts things can go downhill fast.
I also had to live with that ******** for years before I could file for divorce and move out. I paid dearly because of this lack of communication. And it wasn't that I wouldn't talk about things ,SHE didn't want to because she just didn't give a crap about me anymore.
Sometimes when the other person doesn't want to talk to you they are SAYING a lot ! It keeps them from telling you all the lies and true feelings that they don't EVER want you to know.
I don't mean to sound so pessimistic , I just am sharing my personal experience with this issue and want to stress how important it really is.

I couldn't figure out why my Ex H couldn't communicate until I put the pieces together & realized he was ASD (Asperger's). Didn't know until 7 years after leaving him. Therapy was useless because the unDx'ed Asperger's made the therapy communication useless also & in those days Aspergers was just becoming known about in some areas.

When I would confront him on things, silence was a typical way of responding..found out that is normal for many with ASD.