[Resolved]

I'm a new member this is my first post. I am currently seperated from my wife. We have been married for two years and we have a two year old son. We had him while we were young. I am currently 22. My wife and I have an issue that i want to work through. At this point she is being stubburn and doesn't want to work on it. Has anyone had an issue like this. If you need details please let me know. Thanks

[bebop]

hon I really hate to say it but if she is unwilling to work on it there isn't alot you can do at this point except wait it out if that is what you want. It takes 2 people to make a marriage work. I am really sorry you are going thru this. (((hugs)))

[TYMBERWOLV]

Resolved,

hey Im with bebop im still waiting almost 2 years working on things ... Advice is to sit and listen work on things that you might not like with u and she might see that you are doing things for urself


david

[sunrise]

Resolved, I am going through a divorce right now, but a number of years ago, I wanted to work on our marriage and make it better. I asked my husband to go to marriage counseling but he refused. So that was the end of that effort, and I just tried hard on my own to make things work. What I didn't realize is that you can go to a marriage counselor BY YOURSELF and it can really help. I see a family therapist now by myself and I wish I had seen him back then. With him I have learned a lot about relationships, how to improve communication, good next "moves" to make in the relationship, how to set boundaries with my husband, self-destructive patterns I bring to the marriage from past relationships, etc. So you can really learn a lot that could help your marriage, even if you go alone.

Best of luck.

[Resolved]

Thanks for the advice it has been helpful. I feel very alone in the situation. We have been working on it and I have been open minded. I have looked into therepy and also talked with her about it. Right now I'm just taking it step by step. Once again thanks for the insight.

[LouisaLLP]

I know how you feel. At first everything is just wrong, but, bit by bit you will figure things out. Try to be creative and patient. Stubborn people just need more time to see other perspectives.