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Default Feb 25, 2013 at 12:34 AM
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I saw a facebook friend's posting on my news feed. It reads something along the lines of "I have an eating disorder. I'm gonna be eating dis order of fries and eating dis order of chicken wings." As a recovered woman, this just really really bugs me! I get it's supposed to be a joke, but I feel that it really downplays the severity and seriousness of the millions of people who struggle with or have struggled with an eating disorder and those in their lives that are also affected. I made a comment, but she hasn't said anything yet. In fact, one of her friends commented afterwards about how hilarious it was. Am I being too sensitive? I understand that people don't "get" eating disorders without personal experience in one way or another, but joking about it like this really bothers me. I made my comment and tried to move on with my evening, but I'm just stuck thinking about it. I've been solidly recovered for several years, so it's not that I'm still too raw from the past. Any advice on how to deal with this?
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Default Feb 25, 2013 at 12:50 AM
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Yes, I think there is no need to take this personally. It wasn't directed at you. This person may not know you had an eating disorder. People are insensitive and use words loosely. It was just a pun. I find it amusing, but it would be bad taste to post it say in a group of people with the disorder.

Facebook is a trashy company and the system tends to plaster things all over the place where they are unwanted. Your situation is a case in point. I had to get off there because my BPD relative would rant her questionable reactions all over the place all the time. It was painful to see her assassinating her future employment potential when an employer googles that stuff.
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Yes, I think there is no need to take this personally. It wasn't directed at you. This person may not know you had an eating disorder. People are insensitive and use words loosely. It was just a pun. I find it amusing, but it would be bad taste to post it say in a group of people with the disorder.

Facebook is a trashy company and the system tends to plaster things all over the place where they are unwanted. Your situation is a case in point. I had to get off there because my BPD relative would rant her questionable reactions all over the place all the time. It was painful to see her assassinating her future employment potential when an employer googles that stuff.
I do see how it would be amusing, though I guess I just found it more distasteful/tacky. But something about it is still bothering me and that's what I find interesting/thought-provoking. Thanks for the support. I'd like to see if/how she responds. If she's dismissive, I may delete her from my friend list (to avoid similar posts from showing up on my news feed), because we haven't spoken in years anyway. We used to run together in a group several years back, but weren't ever really close. Yeah, personally I don't put anything on facebook that I wouldn;t want others to see. I even asked a friend to take down pics of me drinking at a party, because I work with kids and you never know what might get out.
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Default Feb 25, 2013 at 01:20 AM
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You can always unsubscribe. Try to put it behind you, people make jokes about anything.

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Default Feb 26, 2013 at 10:41 AM
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I probably would have felt the same way as you did...but that's just me! I would be curious to hear your "friend"s response...but yes...I like the advice of not following her posts anymore, or even unsubscribing. You can always go back if you feel like you want to...I use an alias on FB myself, that way I reach out to who I want...no one can "find" me...(well that's my belief anyway, I am sure I could be traced if someone was that desperate!)
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