[harrygirl]

Hi iv'e just joined this site thing cos i think i might have a slight eating problem but dont really think its an eating disorder so im not sure if im over reacting?!?
Ive never had a weight problem, always been quite slim, though recently ive wanted to lose a few pounds that ive gained since bein at uni, but for the last couple of months ive started to make myself sick after meals- not every meal and i dont binge really badly, sometimes i think ive already eaten alot so might as well eat whatever and then il be sick. Feel very crappy when i do this and since blurting it out to my mum last week when i was upset thought i cud stop when ever and promiced her i would other wise she said shed make me see someone, but it seems to just happen now, and i dont even realise im doing it till its done.
Anyone kno how i can stop doin this? i know it isnt healthy and i really enjoy singing, so probabily wont help the voice!
this is a very long msg....sorry for blabbering
xxx

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i remember when i had a "minor eating disorder" I kept ignoring it.. thinking I could control it. I could stop. I would stop. I should have sought help then. I now binge and purge daily. I advise you to get help now..even if you feel it is minor.

[Direction]

Agreed...

You made a big step already just by joining and posting at PC...so welcome...

Since you have concerns it would be best to talk to a professional...what might be minor now may not be later...

[harrygirl]

thanx for the advice, im sure that your both right but not sure how to go about this. Id be so embarrassed about talking to a doctor about it. My aunty used to be anorexic so maybe i should talk to her first?? thanks again for replying

[chloey]

you are alot like me, my auntie used 2 e anorexic,nd i am going through a really had time atm to. god bless
x

i would tell someone who can help you talk to your parents and who is on board with you getting a therapist.

[ickydog2006]

Finding a therapist or counselor would probably help some, especially if you get to be comfortable with them. My ED started as minor too and it wasn't until I tried to stop that I realized I couldn't. I have quit now, but I have to constantly watch myself so that I don't start again. Some people can quit on their own, some can't, that's why I suggest a T. Some things that can help are to eat more frequent smaller meals. Also try your hardest not to throw up, even when you feel like you can't help it. If you stay around people right after eating the chances of you throwing up are way smaller because many, even when they feel like they can't hold it in, can if there only option would be purging publicly.

I hope you find the help you need, and welcome to PC.

Good luck

[harrygirl]

I think maybe a therapist would help some people, but i just dont feel that i have a problem enough to see one...i know i need to stop, but i dont really understand where its come from. I will speak to my parents, and eat smaller meals i think that will help.
Thanks for all the advice guys, i hope i can help in some way when or if u needed it, i feel so much better for joining pc, and ive only been a member for a day

[Rapunzel]

How about just go to a nutritionist then, and let the nutritionist help you decide if you need more than that.

There are a suprising number of people who make themselves sick a few times when they are young adults, and then they don't develop a problem, but if you feel that you might do it again, please talk to someone. If you can't stop, then it's serious.

[Direction]

When do you think you will talk to your parents?

[harrygirl]

my mum told my family yesterday, my dad was really supportive, more than i expected- thought he would just be dissapointed. I havent spoken to my brother or sister yet, they were very surprised so i feel like ive let everyone down. At least they know now.

[Perna]

So, is your mum going to get someone for you to see/talk to? I wouldn't put it off as it won't get "easier" the longer it continues.

[harrygirl]

yeah im going tomorrow to see someone, tho not sure how they're gonna help really, if its all in my head?! but il go and see, todays been a better day, tho prob cos havent eaten much- its getting to the point where im too scared to

[Direction]

Don't let yourself believe you let everyone down...you have taken a big scary step...you've done good!