my sister needs help

my sister has been anorexic for about 3 1/2 years now and shes still losing a lot of weight. i wanna help her bc shes getting smaller and i hate seeing her hurt and i cant help her. but the thing is she doesnt want any help. some of my family members have noticed and they are always on her case to eat. i wanna help her but i dont want to nag her bc i know that wont help. the thing is im bulimic and have been doing it heavly for about 5 years. i dont know if im in any position to be saying anything to her. i dont want her to think i am a hypocrite, shes my sister and i lover her to death...i just want to see her happy. idk what i should say or when i should?

Dealing with Bulimia personally, i can share with you a little bit of my experience with family who just wanted to help.

If she says she feels fat, dont tell her shes not, just understand that that's how she feels.
If she doesnt want to eat, trying to talk her into it or force it on her will only make her try harder to not eat.
Let her know you support her fully, and that if she ever feels like she just needs to talk, you're always there to listen, and that you won't criticize.

those are all of the things i wish someone would have done for me. Knowing that you deal with bulimia too, im sure that you already know about all of that.. i dont think you would be being a hypocrit if you just let her know that you are dealing with the same things and that its easy to talk to someone who's already on that same page.

Good luck with everything

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I'm sorry you're struggling with your own ED, and that your sister is struggling with her own.

Have you read any books on the topic? There are a lot of good ones out there that discuss helping someone with an ED. Otherwise, do you/her see any sort of counsellor/therapist or some sort of professional? It sounds like having that sort of help would be beneficial to you both. I know its hard dealing with our own problems and seeing someone we love struggling and not knowing how to help. When I was faced with this, I tried to remain open and let my sister know that I was willing to listen if she ever wanted to talk. Don't engage in a power-struggle with her for control, because it is a form of controlling ones life, by controlling how much one eats.

I hope that helps.

thanks for ur advice it really did help alot. ive been talking a lot more with her and it brought us closer. we both have not sought out any type of help. i for one dont want any help. i dont think im ready for it. as or her she tells me she wants to be happy and shes ready to get rid of her disease and start all over again. she has been getting help now. thanks for reading and posting ur advice it really did help me a lot