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I has just realised that my ex wife has been mentally abusing me and our two kids for years. We were dysfunctional for a long time. My kids, now adults, won't speak to me, or each other but regard their mother as the only one they can trust. It's taken me half my life to realise that this wasn't my fault. I can't prove anything, no crime has been committed. But she has caused me a lot of emotional pain. At the very least, I'd like my kids to talk to me again. My question is this: What if anything can I do to achieve that goal? Thanks
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Have you spoken with them about wanting to maintain a relationship?
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Hi crusader759,
Welcome and congratulations on your realization! That is huge! I suggest you get yourself in great mental health. I suggest therapy to help undo some of what you learned in your dysfunctional marriage. You kids learned dysfunction too, but you can't fix them. However, if you role-model getting healthy, being happy, learning new ways--they may be drawn to you. They'll want what they see you living. Does that make sense? Hope so... I wish you well on your journey... ![]() |
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Welcome to psych central
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Hello crusader: Welcome to PsychCentral!
![]() ![]() ![]() https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/ My personal thinking, with regard to your concern, is that there may not be a lot you can do to get your kids to talk to you again. ![]() ![]() ![]() I don't know what your ex-wife's abuse stemmed from, of course. However here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of narcissistic abuse that may be of interest: https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhaust...-relationship/ https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recov...e-counterpart/ https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narci...use-pt-1-of-2/ https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narci...use-pt-2-of-2/ I wish you well... ![]()
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Welcome to PC
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Hi crusader!
![]() Welcome to PC. ![]() I am sorry for all you are going through. How heartbreaking to have family members not talking to one another. ![]() I hope you find the information and the support you may be seeking. Please make yourself at home. Jump in wherever you feel led to do so. Your first 5 posts are approved by a moderator before they appear. After 5 approved posts, you will also have access to chatrooms and to the Private Messaging (PM) system. I hope to see you around the forums. ![]() WC
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