Gratification for Hard Work - Can anyone help with making a plan?

I have allot of work to do and it's not easy for me, especially making priorities
I am very stressed and I want to get things done but it feels like a chore, like a non-rewarded obligation

Like when my parents would want me to get a Hi-tech job when in my heart I want to create music. I go for the best economic solution but in my heart I want to create music, and the academy feels unrewarding
I hardly have any friends. If I could I'd play on the iPad all day. I mean, I can do it but a part of me wants to work hard, too
But there is no reward, no privilege

Setting priorities is my main issue.
Things I want to do - work on academy, create music, improve my social skills
However I can't manage to take care of my basic needs - sorting items, getting them, even eating is sometimes a problem with all the accumulated stress

Can anyone please help?

The incentive in being able to manage small things like sorting out items and eating is that it can prepare you to take on bigger accomplishments, such as attending academy and improving your social skills.

When your parents encourage to take the hi-tech job, do you explain that isn't what you want to do? And what specifically would you want to do - hi-tech is super vague.

Something to consider (and perhaps explain to your parents) is how long they've been at the same job. They may not have a realistic sense of what the job market is like. Sure, there's money in technology. But the market is saturated with people getting into this industry, and its helpful for both you and your potential employers to get involved in a niche market where you are needed.

And you could always blend your love of music with technology - there are plenty of programs where you could learn about audio programming, sound mixing, music technology, and engineering, sound technician, etc. I had friends who would play in a band on the weekends and find gigs managing the audio for some cool concerts, which was fun because they were paid to be at the concert. One time I got snuck in to see Yeah Yeah Yeahs.

As for reward, you have to create that within yourself. This usually comes from life experience. Once you're doing something and feeling good about it, the reward comes through. As for priivilege, that, too, is a feeling more so than an object. And you usually feel these things when you're doing something you love.

So you have a lot to do...

The secret is not to set your short term sights very high. Choose your goal (one at a time). Take the time to make a plan. The steps should be small and concrete. The should be reasonable - they ought to be something a person can reasonably perform. They should be measurable - how will you know you are accomplishing them. And, dont forget to reward yourself when they are attained. Now move on to the next step in eventually reaching that larger goal.

OK, thanks
Let's say I have academic work, music, and a high need for stress-releasing activities such as a light video game, drawing or whichever other way to do it
I also need to make sure I contact some people at times, preferably in a kindly manner
I have a problem making priorities due to so many things I want to do
What order would you suggest I do the activities? Obviously it's work first, but... I can't. My current stressful situation wants freedom
And how can I reward myself? First thing that comes in my mind is a snack but I may need something bigger to please myself

Maybe you could simplify things by starting off by doing some things you HAVE to do each day. You don’t have to knock off your entire list in one day. Then reward yourself by doing things you enjoy doing.

Sometimes when I have things that need to get done but all I want to do is play computer games I use my phone timer. I play for 30 minutes and then do the chores for 30 minutes. Back and forth.

When I’m seriously stuck in vegetate in front of the TV mode. I make myself get up during the commercials and do stuff. It takes me 4 commercials to unload and load the dishwasher. 1 commercial to brush my teeth and comb my hair. 1 to get dressed. 2 or 3 to sort the Mail, etc.

When I’m really desperate I even use my Sims game as a way to get things done. I clean my office or the kitchen while my Sims are sleeping.

Exactly.

Start with caring for yourself and needs.

Then choose one aspect about work based on priority. Once that has been ironed out, move on to the next and so on.

PRIORITISING: (make this a daily exercise) It might be helpful to grab a pen and paper each morning.

List off those things you have/need to do for the day. Include positive things and time for yourself too. Organise this list into three groups.

A - must be done
B - should be done
C - you can get by if you weren't able to get around it.

Now put the C's aside and concentrate on the A's and B's. Re prioritise them into three groups. Then, start with that which is harder or takes more time to do so that your day gets easier as it progresses. Don't worry about the C's if you don't get to them. Don't fall into the trap of doing what is easiest first. At the end of the day look over your list. Ask yourself, if you have on it anything incomplete, if it was reasonable to expect to get it all done. Learn from each day until prioritising becomes an ingrained habit.

When it comes to distractions, don't put yourself in the position of 'contacting' them. Practise avoidance. If the phone is a problem, put it out of sight. Do the same for other things that garner too much attention and/or are habit forming (keep out of sight of game consuls, the computer, etc. Practise good sleep hygene - none of these

I forgot to mention good sleep hygene. This will keep you on track too. It is vitally important that you not have 'blue' distractions. Things like TVs, phones, and electronics should never be in your bedroom.

Why?
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I wonder if you were set alarms for yourself so you could keep track of how long you have actually been doing something because sometines it feels like you have been doing something for hours but in reality it was on 20 minutes. Also you are overwhelming yourself by examining the whole picture all the time. That makes your goals seem daunting and almost unattainable. Begin by making a list of 3 things for the day. Those are the only 3 things you have to worry about. At the end of the day when you mark the last one as finished you will feel a sense of pride in what you accomplished for the day. Then the next day make a list of 4 things for the day. And each day progressing and before you realize it the whole list is done and you feel proud of yourself. Then should make another list pushing yourself a little more. After just a bit you will have adjusted your schedule to where you know you have things to do until getting all the things you had hoped to one day get done are all finished and you find more things to do. I hope its ok me giving you my suggestion. I have seen it work exceptionally well on a person that wasnt even motivated to help herself. Good luck.