Life ? ? ? ? ? ? ?

Rhapsody · Jan 11, 2010, 01:27 AM

Life.... is life and what it means based on what others have told you to believe or is it shiat just waiting to hit the fan? - and usually when one least expects it.

Sorry for this side of me, but I am in a dark place right now and I am tired of not knowing merely because everything we ever put our trust in is based on another - what another has said... from childhood, to school, to church, to friends, from love and our spouses.

WHY cant we just know the truth from with in us?

Jan 11, 2010, 01:57 AM

I know how you feel

Rhapsody · Jan 11, 2010, 02:49 AM

Thanks for knowing..... now off to bed with one to many sleeping pills and a double douse of pain pills - I need to forget for awhile.

Jan 11, 2010, 03:32 AM

What living things have in common:

1) Living things need energy
2) Living things grow and develop
3) Living things respond to their surroundings
4) Living things reproduce

We are not obliged to believe everything we are told. If we are to grow, develop and appropriately respond to our surroundings we must participate, not simply follow.

As Rene Descartes told us, "If you would be a real seeker after truth, it is necessary that at least once in your life you doubt, as far as possible, all things."

lynn P. · Jan 11, 2010, 03:47 PM

Sorry you're in a dark place right now ((Rhapsody)).

Sounds like you're pondering something big. I hope you'll see the light soon.

Rhapsody · Jan 11, 2010, 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by lynn P.

Sounds like you're pondering something big. I hope you'll see the light soon.

When does one know 100% they are where they are meant to be and that life is as it was deemed from the beginning -
mentally, spiritually, physically, love and relationship wise?

I HATE the not knowing..... as there is to much to know (need to know out there).
- - and every person, group, religion, building, etc has different info to offer on the same subject or question.

*BIG SIGH* *DEEP BREATH* *BIG SIGH* *PONDER*

mlpHolmes · Jan 11, 2010, 07:44 PM

No man is an island.

Hope you're feeling better soon .....

((((((((((((((((((((RHAPSODY))))))))))))))))))))))))

Laugh & Be well,
Holmes

Junerain · Jan 11, 2010, 10:41 PM

Perhaps life is not a destination, rather a journey....you are in a different place than you were years ago, heading towards a different place slowly, with the key word being slowly....the journey is the true beauty, the path.........

Rhapsody · Jan 12, 2010, 01:27 AM

How does one decide what stays and what goes as you walk (live) your journey... with out any interference from the outside world, family or religion?

Junerain · Jan 12, 2010, 03:06 AM

Be true to yourself, to the point you are not hurting your family, as far as outside things, that is where you draw the line.....you are living your life, not one of the 'outsiders..' this is YOU here, YOUR path...

As far as religion, things go on outside of its morals all the time, it's what you are comfortable with, what your particular faith is..

I guess no one ever knows 100% where they are supposed to be,,

Im sorry you are in a dark place........but it sounds like YOU know deep down you would like to make a decision that goes against the grain,,and deep down you know the answer,,,perhaps it would not be acceptable to some....but you are not some...you are YOU, and you have only one life to live

Rhapsody · Jan 12, 2010, 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Junerain

Be true to yourself, to the point you are not hurting your family,

I thank you for your words of wisdom and I would like to comment on the statement you made above...... to me and where I am right now (at a cross road) that statement tells me that I am to still make "my life" decisions based on others.

Does a person ever have the right to live their life for them and them alone?
To do as they feel they need to... and yes I am married (24 yrs) with two son (25 & 20).

lynn P. · Jan 12, 2010, 12:39 PM

When does one know 100% they are where they are meant to be and that life is as it was deemed from the beginning -
mentally, spiritually, physically, love and relationship wise?

I HATE the not knowing..... as there is to much to know (need to know out there).
- - and every person, group, religion, building, etc has different info to offer on the same subject or question.

*BIG SIGH* *DEEP BREATH* *BIG SIGH* *PONDER*
__________________
LoVe,
R h a p s o d y -

These are very deep questions you're pondering and I don't think there's one answer. Mentally, spiritually, physically, love and relationship wise - I think these parts of our life never stay the same - they're always evolving. I don't think we can ever be 100% sure - all we can do is be true to ourselves and make sure we live a balanced life.

Does a person ever have the right to live their life for them and them alone.

That's another deep question. For me, I'm responsible for 2 girls but this is where I want to be. Since your son's are grown (20 and 25) it wouldn't be selfish to persue your own interests. Would you mind sharing what you have in mind(no pressure of course). Are you questioning what's your role in life in this stage of your life??

Rhapsody · Jan 12, 2010, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by lynn P.

Would you mind sharing what you have in mind (no pressure of course).
Are you questioning what's your role in life in this stage of your life??

I am pondering..... where I belong atm -

1.) Do I have the right (as mother and wife) to rearrange my life and needs to meet my inner growth,
2.) and if yes - must this change include my husband of 24 years, etc...
3.) do I have the right to leave, if just for a while, to find me and the happiness I feel when I am away

away... from all the stress, anger, wonder, argruments, loneliness, hatred, stupidity, disrespect, distance, not knowing, etc.

*SIGH* *WISH I KNEW* *BUT ALL I KNOW/HEARD REMAINS IN MY HEAD*

Junerain · Jan 12, 2010, 01:06 PM

I personally put inner growth as a top priority, hate 'stagnance..' want to always always grow..

And finding ME thats worth everything......

lynn P. · 01:15 PM

I always give this bit of advice quite often - "never make important decisions when you're upset." Three yrs ago I was hit in the face with a crisis - if I would have listened to myself when it first happend - I would surely be living in poverty and traumatized my children.

It would be helpful to figure out if your sadness is the result of your circumstances - which it probably is, since you said you feel happy when you're away. I don't think there's anything wrong with looking out for your own needs at this stage in your life. But you need to think sensibly in regards to finances etc. I personally would make myself as strong as possible mind/body wise and then ponder these important questions. Ultimately though you deserve to follow what makes you feel content and happy.

Would it be possible to go on a vacation by yourself?

Rhapsody · Jan 12, 2010, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by lynn P.

Would it be possible to go on a vacation by yourself?

Strange enough it was the vacation I just came back from with my sister and her husband that erupted these old feelings and wonders up in me.
We had so much fun and our days were filled with laughter, and tons of smiles and happiness.... who would of thought a mere chicken show would have been so fulfilling?