Filing a civil complaint..re/"I did a stupid thing."

My assertive male friend actually DID manage to contact him, by calling him at 11:30 p.m. and only telling his wife, who answered first, that he was calling about a guitar. Once he got him on the phone, my friend said he "put the fear of God into him!" Friend says he will contact him about a meeting place to get my money. We'll see if the guy actually shows up!

Thanks to all of you for your feedback!
Love
Patty

I'm glad he actually spoke to him and not just his wife. I bet his wife isn't too happy with him. I doubt he told her the whole story. I'm glad there's progress and I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed lol.

I wonder if this is the kind of thing where this guy could be arrested for theft. (if your friend doesn't get the money from him)

I think it would be interesting to call the police department about this guy. Even if they only investigate him and they can threaten to speak to his employer etc etc. That in itself may bring about an ending for you. If you let the police know what kind of stories he is telling, give them his ebay account number as well, who knows, he may have done this to lots of folks and just one call from you could get things resolved for you and others as well.

It may be a good idea to let his employer know what he's done to you. They probably have no clue that he's a slimeball and if he would do it to you, he's doing it to other folks as well. I would think that his employer would be none to happy to be associated with the likes of him.

I hope it all works out for you Patty.....life's lessons are hard sometimes aren't they

Edited to add: In many states, if you take someone to small claims court and win the case, the filing fee you paid originally is ordered reimbursed to you by the defendant.(him) If you do file, make sure to ask about that option


sabby

I agree with Sabby - if you don't get results by today, call the police and see if they'll call his employer(or your friend can). If they file a report this will put pressure on him. He needs to be accountable for doing this. Best of luck ((Patty))

My assertive male friend tracked the man down today, and got my money. He had arranged to meet him today, as the man said he would be home, and my friend called him twice with no one answering, so friend went to his house! The friend met me on my way home from work to give me the money he had collected from the jerk. That is the only way I would have gotten paid, for sure. I tried to pay my friend for doing this great service, but he wouldn't hear of it, so I plan to take him and his wife (my best friend) out to a nice dinner and also get him a gift certificate. This same male friend is also fixing my commode this week and won't let me pay him. If I had to call a plumber it would be over $100!

I just want to thank all of you who've helped me thru this! You just don't know how much your feedback and kind words of support have meant to me!
Love,
Patty

I can't express how happy I am for you, so I''l let cool doggy do his dance. Big hugs to your great (((Friend)) - he's a good man. It was very nice of you to offer your friend the money and I'm glad he accepted you taking he and his wife to dinner. You're just a nice person and this bad man took advantage of your trusting nature - shame on him.

I've been watching your thread, since you posted -wishing it would go your way. I don't like to see kind people taken advantage of. So happy for you ((Patty))

Dear friend, Lynn...It was your post that suggested, "I think it would be a good idea, for you have an assertive man you know, try one more time to get the money. " And it was because of this that I asked my friend to intervene for me. You really helped me.
Patty

That is great news!! You are indeed lucky to have such wonderful friends!

Yes, I know I'm lucky to have such a good friend. It also makes me more mindful to be more discerning about who I trust!

I thank you, Echoes, for your kind words:
Patty hindsight makes it seem so simple, doesn't it.
He took advantage of your trusting nature.
He's a con.
You are not a 'duh'.

Love,
Patty

I've glad there was a good lesson to be learned - unfortunately the hard way. There's always someone out there taking advantage of people. Once we needed the rubber seal around our fridge door to be replaced. So this friend of a friend came and concurred we needed a replacement - my husband said "how much are they" The guy said "50 bucks'. So my husband whipped 50 dollars and handed it to him saying "stop by tomorrow and fix it" Well we never saw him again. Since it was 50 we let it go. But I wondered why my husband did that, since he usually isn't trusting. This is when our money situation wasn't tight lol.

Again I'm so happy it worked out well and my suggestion was encouraged you. Kudos to your friend. Give him a pat on the back and one for his wife for supporting you too.