[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by Weepingrose

I feel that I am unheard all the time...When I try and talk to either my husband or a family member so called friends I use to think they hear what I am saying but the truth is I guess they are not they let what I say go in one ear and out the other....And if I do say something and they reply everything is my fault im in the wrong. I am so tired of feeling so unheard and I am lonely and very sad. Sheila (weepingrose)

I know what you mean! I'm going though that too, & have even been told "it ain't about you (me)"! As if ANYTHING IN MY LIFE EVER IS! I live for my Family & their needs. It's not like I matter to anyone! So you're in good company here. Anytime you want to talk or swap stories, I'm here! We probably have alot in common!

I'm feeling lonesome.

[VinMist]

When on PC, I finally feel like I am among friends. In my life I frequently feel as though im screaming in a room full of people. But here, I almost feel like I am home. So thank you for starting this thread...I'd like to participate as a listening ear for all, as well.

[anna_goth27]

Being on this site especially, I have come to realize that sometimes its very difficult to respond to someone, especially one someone's problems are a little more complex. To me, and I would assume is the same for a good chunk of people, eventhough I would love to give a response or advice, my lack of life experience onncertain topics makes it difficult for me. I just dont want to say the wrong thing and be more harmful than helpful.
I will admit though, sometimes I do get frustrated when my posts go unanswered for days, or even when they have replies, its only like two and I get frustrated because I was looking for more input than that of just two persons. But, I am still appreciative because this is one of the rare places I can truly be honest and true without fear of judgement, or without feeling like I am burdening my friends and family with my problems.

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I feel very lonely now…I can't talk to people or be around people without getting angry and/or offended. I don't know what to do about it and how to respond to people who were my friends until recently…how do I say you hurt my feelings and I can't be around your group anymore because it makes me feel badly about myself without them feeling bad?

[STRIVEtoSURVIVE]

Well, you could always say that you are going through some changes right now in your life and that you need to try to change things up a bit socially to see if that helps. If they ask, and it irritates you, you can just say, "No offense, but it's highly personal. I just don't feel comfortable talking about it."

Or you could go with the good old fashioned break-up talk thingy. "I'm sorry, but I can't keep doing this. My life is just too complicated now and I don't want to drag you into the middle of it... It's not you. It's me." Corny, but effectively communicating the point without directly telling them that they make you feel uncomfortable and agitated and you just wish they'd go away.

I wish my T listened to me. If he did, he would know that I am not a bad person. Instead, I guess he listened to others or another voice inside of him that steered him in the wrong direction.

[ifst5]

Thing is, i don't want to cry, scream and be sarcastic anymore. Surely sometimes we have to resign ourselves to a situation? If there are no good outcomes why is it so wrong to settle for one less bad? I can't physically be in the presence of others - even this is a stretch for me. I want to feel less lonely but i have to accept that i am not like others and therefore cannot pretend to be like them. It's not ideal but i'll only run myself into the ground quicker the other way. Being alone is sad, but it gives me more time. Time to appreciate whatever i can for however long that may be. I'm sorry if this is hole laden and ripe for inconsistency-picking. It's just how i feel.

[Eva-WP]

I've been unheard by most of my family for my entire life, but only realized the depth of the problem -- that their treatment of me qualifies as emotional and verbal abuse -- a year or so ago. Since then, I've been reading up on abuse like crazy and telling myself over and over again not to let their behavior get to me, not to expect anything positive from them. But sometimes I can't help feeling so hurt and sad. Like today

Yesterday I was watching the movie Ever After, with Drew Barrymore. It's a modern-day retelling of the Cinderella story. There's a scene towards the end, where Drew's character Danielle is talking to her wicked stepmother, played by Anjelica Huston. Danielle tells her stepmother, "You are the only mother I've ever known" and asks plaintively is the stepmother ever loved her at all. The stepmother replies, "How can one love a pebble in one's shoe?"

That quote pretty much sums up my place in my family. I'm trying to get over it and build good relationships with other people who are willing to hear me and treat me like I matter. But it seems like a ;long, hard road sometimes.

[medicalfox]

Crying at work, I feel trapped and lonely. I wish I was home and could cry into my bed and fall asleep.

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.

I feel that way, but I know why I'm unheard. Everyone is understandably sick and tired of me. I'm sick and tired of myself. I thought I had made progress and was becoming slightly less worse as a person. I'm sure people in real life are sick and tired of me too…I think I inadvertently only bring pain to people. I should just go away for a while so they don't have to see me.

certainly can relate, have had times like this throughout life, in general with many and sometimes with certain specific folks. Sometimes I can often snap out of it somehow and lighten up and it gets better for a time, tho I'll admit a few times it just didn't work out like I wanted to. Wish you all the best, I know it's work. . . .

All I know is that I'm an outcast amongst outcasts even on here. I mean, I'm glad that other people feel like they belong on here and I wish I did too.

But some of us have done something so heinous either in this life or a former one that we carry a scarlet letter of sorts upon us from birth until death. Now, if only life weren't so long and boring with no way of connecting to others.

Talking doesn't NOT equal "connection". And people can pretend to be nice and caring all they want but that isn't a bond.

And I wish people would stop telling me that someone will love me someday… It doesn't even matter if that's true because I CANNOT BOND WITH THEM. Period.

[SeekerOfLife]

I do not feel unheard or unanswered. But I sometimes feel misunderstood. I do not always express myself correctly.Sometimes I just cannot get the words to come out right. I can tell by how others respond to me. Most of my experience on PC has been positive. I have this same problem in real life. Maybe that is why I struggle with all relationships.
Just my two cents.

[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.

All I know is that I'm an outcast amongst outcasts even on here. I mean, I'm glad that other people feel like they belong on here and I wish I did too.

But some of us have done something so heinous either in this life or a former one that we carry a scarlet letter of sorts upon us from birth until death. Now, if only life weren't so long and boring with no way of connecting to others.

Talking doesn't NOT equal "connection". And people can pretend to be nice and caring all they want but that isn't a bond.

And I wish people would stop telling me that someone will love me someday… It doesn't even matter if that's true because I CANNOT BOND WITH THEM. Period.

Maybe we should start a club darlin! My "give a damn" is busted! I can't get any relationships right either. I don't have the first clue where I belong or where I fit into this jacked-up world! Been sick for FIVE MONTHS with a sinus infection (??), can't even pay my dr. to pretend to give a rats-***, feel disconnected from everyone else I care about......I'm sorry, but I'm fresh out of positive thoughts lately. Don't know what to say except I feel ya!

[MuseumGhost]

I wish the medical community would wake up and smell the proverbial coffee. That is a big area in which I feel unheard and unanswered.

[shezbut]

I feel alone and close to hopeless....hanging on tightly to those flakes of hope in my hand.

[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by shezbut

I feel alone and close to hopeless....hanging on tightly to those flakes of hope in my hand.

My "flakes " are just Ashes. I'm abandoning all hope because I'm tired of being let down!

[glok]

I asked my brother to call. He sent me his cell phone number.

[glok]

I am told the big guy speaks ... I must learn to hear.

[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by glok

I am told the big guy speaks ... I must learn to hear.

Big guy?? (sorry, my brain is on sleep mode. Not sure what else to say right now.)
All I hear at the moment is the voices of toddlers piercing my eardrums and I'm starved for adult conversation!

You have crossed the line now so....be ready to get it back.
Unless you take down that info. Maybe you lost your mind momentarily?

[spondiferous]

I am at a point in my life where I need help but I feel like because I am the responsible one and the one that people turn to for advice, support, etc., nobody ever takes me seriously when I am the one who needs it. It's not that people don't listen when I talk. They do. It's that they never follow up. My words leave my mouth and go out into the vacuum of space, never to be seen or heard again. My entire journey with my mental and emotional health has been like this...

[glok]

The voice mail is full. Arrggh!

[LockedSoul]

He had it coming, but I shouldn't have sunk to his level. I'm better than that. I just didn't know what else to do, and I'm tired of sitting back and watching while manipulative jerks get away with using people.

[glok]

Mysterious ways ... people talk about them.