Facebook is so crappy and pointless!

Well, I don't know why, but I get treated like I'm invisible, and the online communities I know in general just aren't what they used to be around 10 years ago. Forums for certain subjects are practically dead nowadays, possibly because people have started using message boards less, and instead, they send text messages or go on social media.

As a person who suffers from social anxiety when it comes to chatting away to people face to face, I just think this is so bad. It tends to bug me, as I've been so engrossed with the Internet for years now, due to unfortunate circumstances with people I used to be associated with. Many people have not treated me right, and I think my open nature and status as a loner often invites people to ruin my life even more. Thus, I'm stuck recycling negative thoughts. Some years have just been so awful.

Facebook and many similar websites are full of douche bags anyway. They expect people to give them likes and the time of day, but what do they give back? Normally a big fat zero. I've seen all these online surveys which suggest that Facebook actually is very nasty, messes up one's self-esteem, causes fights, and can make you feel even more isolated. That isn't including all the spam and trolls. I've certainly no real use for it either way.

Every now and then, I send people messages just trying to be friendly, and they just read them, but never respond. On Facebook, I've never really felt like I've been truly welcomed with open arms - ever. Sooner or later, I just delete my latest account. I'm actually also under the impression that some nasty people have black balled me on there somehow, so these people all know me from idiots starting gossip, and maybe they don't want to make it obvious by outright blocking me, so they just give me the cold shoulder. It's the Internet, though. Unlike "real life" where you can sometimes be forced to talk to someone, it's easy online to judge that person based on so little. Even saints can become sinners online.

I've been accused before of over analysing things, and I find that to be somewhat untrue. Why is that? Well, I did indeed have issues with people, such as this actress. She then went and told other people about me so they did not give me parts in their films, and I suspect it still occurs. That is really sad, how people you do not even know personally can systematically screw up your life just by spreading stories due to their personal experience with you. But it's hard to prove it is happening, despite your six sense kicking in. What can be done about something you cannot prove?

I don't know, but I just think in general, most things involving the Internet is a waste of time. If you try to make your own videos or whatever to show off to people, even if you think what you prepared is good, you still feel like everybody will shut you out, over the fact there are literally billions of other videos out there. So people are probably only going for the super quality stuff. We cannot all be superb at something. Sometimes, I just feel like I'm part of a crowd, but until I bring attention to myself, nobody really notices or cares. Does anyone else here ever feel like this?

I do find facebook and other social medias are crappy, through I have different opinions.

I'm sorry if you've been ignored and accused. However, I think it is depends on the friends or groups you're in. Most of my friends are peoples I know in RL. Mostly gave no dramas, trolls, or any other gossips (in the facebook, not in RL). If I found those people who participate in long arguments or trolls, I simply ignore them.

My own reason to deactivate my account is simply because I feel depressed whenever I logged in. Seeing my fellow peers whether in vacations, getting jobs, working on their startup, hanging out, or got any achievements. Those make me jealous and envious.

Sadly if we really know the persons in RL, those photos are fake (not photoshopped, I mean they're just pretending to be happy with their lives). Not all through, just mostly. But it still could make me envious.

I can relate to much of what you wrote. I too had a very bad experience with Facebook and people pulling some sneaky fast ones on me because they are terrible and get a kick out of hurting others. I used to really care but now don't much. I deleted my Facebook and only have one now to look at things my mom does. I don't miss it. Some people love social media and I think that's great. They should use it and enjoy. Other people, such as myself and you by the sound of it really do not get the good stuff and are sensitive to the bad stuff it offers. We should avoid it and leave it for the ones who get off on it. There is no right and wrong to Facebook....it doesn't have to be all good or all bad. It's about the person and what it brings to your life. You are well within your right to hate it....I certainly see your r asons and could list a ton more. We just need to be careful in assigning it as being all bad or thinking people who like it are less than cause that's not the case in most situations. (((Hugs)))

Also, I find that the kind of people who listen to rumors aren't my kind of people anyways....so they are literally doing me a favor if what they hear about me from someone else impacts how they treat me. I'm a pretty easy going person but I don't like shunners whether they are Amish or use electricity and Facebook. Anyone whose felt what it feels like to be ostracized, would t do that to another person unless they were truly horrible people.

From what I see, a lot of social sites are now like "What kind of social groups do you identify with? Not one of us? Idiot. Okay, bye now."

Facebook is a waste on the internet more or less. I have connected with a few old lost friends and unknown family members but it is the same crap over and over. I belong to one group where everyone is just fantastic because we all share a common interest. Other that that, it seem to be nothing but spam and trolls who have nothing better to do with their time. I usually just go to you tube and listen to music with my headphones on all my waking hours and ignore everything else! I do you hope you are able to get your situation straightened out though.

I'm going through that with somebody called Nicolette McKeown. You can find her Casting Call Pro page on Google easily. I've never met this person, and that's her credited name. She blocked me on Twitter once, because I said people were acting unprofessional. If you've seen any of her cosplaying videos, she acts like she's full of herself.

People are always sheep when it comes to siding with others, so I ended up shooting myself in the foot just for posting something that was not supposed to be posted. It was really no big deal, but I took it badly. She then messaged a whole bunch of people making independent movies locally to where I live, telling them I abused her so that they would not give a part as an extra, by making dubious excuses, when I know they were recruiting extras. Since this black balling stuff occurs in private messages, it cannot be proven. It's not like I could really hire a lawyer and say they're sabotaging my ambition, because where is my evidence?

Now everyone I come across probably either knows her or this other guy that is a director, who got the cops to my door ages ago for messaging him and his husband. All I have to do is contact an actor or whatever, check the followers, and that toffee nose actress is certainly usually there. Unfortunately, I also have the added hassle of not only landing roles in movies, but having to get a person to go with me because of my anxiety, and my various other threads reflect on how annoying social services are. I've also got tons of charges on my criminal record, because of these two support workers, so yeah. There's that too.

Facebook always made me feel I was being manipulated into thinking about stuff I never would have cared about otherwise. Some call this paranoia but it was actually happening. Facebook for many is nothing but a time suck and a mind fluck. I'm happy for those that like it but I'm so glad I'm not a part of social media. I started an instagram not too long ago and recently deleted that too....because it was nothing but a manipulation....making me think I needed stuff I never thought about before, or had to up my picture taking game instead of just being fun and enough, I needed to be more, have more. No thank you Silicon Valley......you're not fooling this blonde.

I've been a member of various forums relating to a 'survival horror' video game franchise, called Resident Evil. Many times in the past, I had issues with the members that use these forums. They were downright malicious, and this went on for such a long time. It was truly a bad period in my life when the hassle was at its peak, but it has calmed down significantly over the past several years. The harassment I got from these cretins almost made me not want to be a fan of that series any longer, but my love for the franchise was what kept me strong.

The people running the forums in this day and age are able to act more professional compared to the morons that operated them years ago, as they generally don't tolerate spammers, trolls, and members that make irrelevant polls about who the sexiest female character is, and so on. They will delete or lock those threads immediately. When I see forums like that elsewhere online, it puts me off of going back because I think they must not have brain cells, let alone any passion for the series I love. I'm also not a fan of pointless 3 word posts either, or posts consisting only of emoticons.

Someone could have 100 lame posts, while another user may have only 10 good posts to their credit. So it's quality over quantity that matters the most to me.

Maybe it's because there are different admins running the forums now, but most of the popular websites about the series are long gone, so I guess they would rather there wasn't any trouble on the ones that still remain.

Despite the friendlier atmosphere, the message boards are virtually dead these days, apart from a few stragglers who still post. But it's nowhere as active like the good old days, when dozens of people would be signed in at once. 2002 to 2005 was probably what I'd class as the good old days, before survival horror became a more action oriented genre.

I've only recently just got back into playing video games, having not really bothered with them in such a long time. They are very hard at times, so you really have to be focused. I'm usually just coming online, but I feel like most of my life has ended up being a waste because of my negative experiences with people. It's like a person suffering from PTSD. Some events are impossible to get over 100% in your life, which is why I don't like the added hassle I get at times from those that are in authority to help. However, many people out there are sadly tarred with the same brush, and trust issues can arise because of that.

I left FB 10 months ago. It was a good decision for me to make. I will never go back to that form of harassment and judgement. Nothing like everyone knowing everything about you; every time I would sign on and every game I played. It wedged a divide between me and a close friend.
There is NO privacy on FB; if you have a legitimate screen name and ALL your family members, neighbors and co-workers on there; you will never have privacy or alone time again.
Biggest lie FB sells is that there is no world outside FB. When in fact once off FB, you will realize how FB does not really matter. People lived just fine before FB and people will continue to do so once no longer associated with it.

While you can edit your privacy settings or restrict what other people can access on your feed, you should hide yourself from the search engine. Don't allow users to look you up with your email address or mobile number. You may alter the settings in your control panel. Using the same email address on every website you register on can make it easy to be followed by undesirable people. You probably still have to use your real name when you sign up. So far, I've not been able to counter that.

I'm really on it just to keep tabs on ads relating to extras work posted by film makers in my hometown. I've really no interest in this Nicolette tart badmouthing me so I don't get work, nor do I want any bother from other troublemakers that want to slander me. That can have a detrimental effect on people when they go around black balling others with libel. Since I'm just wanting to be an extra, it's inconsequential to those idiots should I lose out. I'd rather nothing fell back on me.

I tried to sign up with a false name and a fake photograph so I could use the groups anonymously, but Facebook staff somehow know the account wasn't genuine. The problem with some groups is that you cannot leave posts until you are a confirmed member. Sometimes, you can contact someone directly, but the message goes into a different folder because you probably aren't their friend. In the past, you could pay a fee to have a message reach the person's inbox, which I felt was unusual. Facebook doesn't do that anymore.

I only use Facebook to post things from my newsfeed to my Facebook wall. I only have three relatives and a few friends, who are just like me (real people, who are nice and friendly). When I first had FB, I added everyone, but then that got me into trouble with some sneaky, malicious, superficial people who should all be awarded the gold medal for social shunning.

In fact, this past weekend, I ran into one of them (a guy) at a Target. We've known each other for years through mutual circles and went out on one date. He was so pissed that I had deleted him from my FB after he rejected me on our date ("You're too fat for me, Cielpur" his exact words) that when he and his new girlfriend saw me, his face went white (lol) and he said "Oh ****." I mean, give me a break dude. That was 3 years ago. You rejected me, remember?

Another one is a prima donna in the theatre community here. We both went to the same college, took the same theatre classes and were in the same plays together. We met for coffee a few times after I moved back into town. She gave me her cell # and told me to call her if I wanted to get back into the theatre scene. So, I called her ONCE. She answered, "what do you want from me!" Um, what? You told me to call you. I hate fake people.

I only use FB with people who are my friends anyway. It keeps me in contact with the few people I care about in my life before I left & it keeps me up to date with what is going on in my local community with friends here. Nothing other than that so no drama or issues.

Totally depends on how it's used on how it works for each individual. I dont have family so there is no drama there either

Well, I don't get why someone would openly give your their phone number, then moan about you calling them. Were they tipsy at the time? Some people just aren't that nice, but it hardly makes sense for a person to treat anybody like that who is supposed to be a friend. Instead of using Facebook, could you not just install some kind of messaging app?

I feel like I've been the victim of social rejection all my life. I'm not sure why it happens, but some people I liked initially when I first met them later betrayed me. Namely, my ex-girlfriend and my support workers, but there are others who turned against me too. Granted, some of them were more like associates than my real friends, but what does it really matter? They were still people I was fond of, who proceeded to ruin my life. Honestly, it still feels strange to me how a little misunderstanding can bring out the worst in people.

I'll admit that I'm not the most handsome guy in the world. I also cannot help having fixed interests either, but I'm still a people person. Lots of autistic people can be smart, but at the expense of having a not so ordinary social life. The doctors didn't diagnose me with PDD-NOS until I was 21. I've had countless issues with people on the Internet as well, and I think arguing with them has took years off my life, as my anxiety has gotten so chronic. Some people are inclined to think I play on my autism to get off with doing bad things, when I've only reacted to being mistreated. One guy on Facebook who badmouthed me years ago actually said that people with PDD-NOS should not receive benefits, as it's not true autism. Such jive talk.

I've slowly began to realize that intelligence counts for nothing anymore. You could be a genius, but nobody cares. They probably view you as being weird, unless they are exploiting your skills. There are people out there who would appreciate your knowledge, but it's like trying to separate the chaff from the wheat.

Sometimes, I also think that some people are only nice to you because they've yet to hear all these stories about you through the grapevine. Sara (my Spanish key worker) turned against me partly because of crap spread by this guy. The same guy who said I didn't deserve my benefits. It's sad, but if some group of idiots go about saying you're not a good person and the people in your circle decide to buy into it, it's almost like a numbers game where people won't want to side with the guy with a bad track record as opposed to everyone hating on the guy with a so-called bad track record. Hence the black balling continues.

Yes, there are people who do act like sheep, and think being seen with a person that nobody else likes will harm their precious rep, or something. So essentially, Sara is just one of the sheep.

At one point in my life I couldn't bear facebook because I had grown apart from friends and broke up from a six or seven year relationship, had no job, had been really ill. I couldn't stand watching everyone move on while I was stagnant and sick steering towards rock bottom. I wasn't going on nights out, I was all alone.

But today I like having facebook. I like to see pictures of my nephew, see what old school mates have got married. I actually have re-connected with people and go out with them through facebook! I never managed to do that when I was with my s%%thead of a fiancé.

It took me years to recover from my 2012 breakdown. I turned to alcohol and moved around to different houses, and I needed the alone time. I started to burn bridges first of those who caused me grief and it was hard. Then i made up with my family and started up facebook again once i finally got a job and started to rebuild. Even though i don't take many photos, i feel good when people like my selfie - my most only being nearly 30 but hey.

I did used to hate facebook because i was jelous of all those people who had built brilliant social lives and travelled the world. But i do realise that everything is not what its cracked up to be and some people make out their lives are more wonderful than they really are and then there are those who air their dirty laundry in public!! Well i don't like Jeremy kyle so i cant be bothered seeing that on facebook. And lets not forget cyber bullying and how real interaction seems to be replaced by a screen. There are pro's and cons

I have had some people post horrible things about me on facebook and it was difficult. But i have made some good friends that without it i wouldn't have in my life as i wouldn't have met up with them otherwise. So i say like everything, social media is good in moderation and we all need to detox or cut down at times

I've only had two girlfriends, but just very briefly. One of them, I obsessed over for years and I was sad that I could not find her. Well, I found her over 6 years later, and she conned me something bad. When you've been let down by so many people in your life, it eventually causes one to stop believing there are trustworthy people in the world, for we've already established that good people are rare. Even my own mother kind of betrayed me once, for what she probably felt at the time was for a good reason.

I've tried paying for sex, a lot, but it does nothing for me. That sometimes makes you feel more lonely anyway. Not to mention you run the risk of catching something nasty. I've covered all these topics on these forums before.

The only reason I go on Facebook is to look at the film production groups. Otherwise, I just hate it. All it takes is one person blocking me to say, 'Enough is enough' and then I'll probably once again decide to leave it.

I think it's also fake using the Internet to form friendships with real people you cannot even see in person, besides during a live chat. Even if you saw them on a camera smiling away, it's not like they're in the same room, probably being so far away from you in the world. So it can be like a friendship for some people, but I reckon that until you've met these people you type to online, at least once, I doubt it's a real anything, actually. As long as people accept that, I think it's sort of okay to have a healthy balance of "real" activities versus online based connections, but I don't know if you can really have a proper relationship with someone you just thump keys with.

I especially have to be careful, as I've always been open and honest with pretty much everybody I've spoken to, but people can use that as ammunition to hurt me if we have a fallen out.

I gave up my old Facebook account a couple of years ago and I honestly couldn't be happier without it.

Yeah it sucks not being able to keep up with some of my old friends since I can't remember to message a dozen or so people to save my life but I also have saved my self a whole lot of pain and headache because I had two women hurt me really bad over Facebook within a year of each other after watching my mother die in front of me the year before that so I was desperate for love at that time and used Facebook social groups as an outlet to chat with women who were interested in me but that was a mistake that cost me many months of needless pain.

If I ever start using Facebook again it will be under a new account with a new name slightly differing from my real name and the account will be used almost exclusively for business advertising for the online reselling and marketing that I plan on getting deeply into as well as a way to message or call people that I care about through messenger to keep in contact with them.

I preferred Bebo. It only exists as an app now, but it was a site similar to Tagged where you added 'stickers' and stuff to decorate your page. If you had a slow connection, it was terrible. Mind you, broadband is probably better now, but the real Bebo is long gone.

To be honest....intelligence without COMMON SENSE is useless. You are right....only people interested in the same genious subject actually care about it....but then it's usually thetopic & not the person where the interest lies.

arguing is POINTLESS. You will never change their opinion any more thsn they will EVER change yours. Better to just bsck away & ACCEPT that these differences exist & there is nothing that will change that. Personally from my own experience, I dont respect arguments because it is just 2 people trying to force their opinion to be accepted by the other person. Many people STAY AWAY or WALK AWAY from people like that whether IRL or online. When we are closed minded about things having to be the way we see it or want it to be, that pushes people away from us no matter how much of a "people person" we think we are.

Social skills are never easy to learn

Wikipedia also attracts a lot of trolls. It's a good site to use if you need information, but it has to be reliable and honest.

You get people that just intentionally screw up pages on there, so they are locked by the moderators. Also, some moderators on there revert your edits if your edits just aren't 'good enough' for them anyway. So I feel it has little to do with how correct your edits even are. They probably believe they own the articles.

I stick with only people I know in real life.

I asked myself that question to, after she did that to me. It seemed very bizarre to me, that she would give me her cellphone number when I asked to stay in touch, if she never had any intention of actually staying in touch with me. I was very insulted, my feelings were hurt, and decided I didn't need that kind of drama from someone, no matter what familiar ties we have. So, I deleted her from my Facebook page without any drama, and our paths have never crossed since. I went to see a play that she was in (she had a secondary part, so her name wasn't listed in the promo Billing for the play). I guess I did gloat a little bit, when I saw how small her bit part was. I'm not perfect. I admit it.

I have decided long after posting a thread here about it, that despite her presence in the theatre community in my city, I'm going to get back into theatre, drama-queens be dammed!

Yeah. Drama is lots of fun. You should try extras work as well.

Yep, I will try. I need to get headshots done again even for the community theater auditions here they want them from you. I used to be involved with the improv scene here 20 years ago, but that's not my thing anymore. I really want to do voiceover work and community theater. There are agencies here too, but they all worship her (ugh) as she hosts our theater award show for our city every year. And I defriended another theater agent/actor/director guy b/c he was a total jerk to me on the one date we went on. He freaked out recently when our paths crossed at a recent retail store. I just rolled my eyes. I hate it when people like them, try to block people's paths, just because they don't like you they think they can seal your fate b/c of their positions or status.

Ceilpur, would you have been just as hurt if she had just not given you her phone number or said up front that she didnt want to stay in contact with you? Maybe she is the kind of person that hates direct confrontation & wasnt ready to deal with what might happen if she did say NO phone #....just a thought. She might have just hoped you were being nice & in reality would never bother calling like some guys tend to do also.

Giving phone numbers is safer than an address for fear of stalking. Relationships are never easy to figure out.