More death

They say that deaths come in 3's. My grandpa just died the other day...the 3rd death for me in the past year. My mom died last August, my aunt died in October, and now it's July and my grandpa died. What a year. I feel kinda out of tune. I know I should be grieving over my grandpa, but all his death has done is bring back the raw emotion of losing my mother. I've been able to handle death pretty well in the past, I've even been handling the most recent deaths except for one--my mother's. For some reason I can't let go of her, and I know that's not a good thing. Yes, she's gone and free of pain, but that doesn't make it easier. I want the pain of her death to stop but I keep reliving watching her die, the day my sister came to get me and tell me that my mother was dead...all of that. I just don't know how to let go.

Hi Lexicon,

Here is a poem that my wife always puts in sympathy cards when someone passes away, for their family.
I thought of sending this to you in hopes that it may help you in your time of grief. I know there is a place for poems on this site, but though it would be appropriate to place it under your post. Hope it helps!

Miss Me, But Let Me Go

When I come to the end of the road
and the sun has set for me,
I want no rites in a gloom filled room
why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little, but not too long
and not with your head bowed low.
Remember the love that we once shared.
Miss me, but let me go.
For this is a journey that we all must take
and each must go alone.
It's all a part of the Masters's plan
A step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick of heart
Go to the friends we know,
and bury your sorrows in doing good deads
Miss Me, But Let Me Go

This has even brought a tear to my eye, as I wrote this for you, And I truly hope you find peace soon!

Sincerely,

SongBird, Dan

how beautiful......and lexicon.....sorry for your losses.......

Letting go is not easy, I'm still having a huge problem, with the loss of my dad, it's going on 3 years, still a struggle. Just when I think I'm doing okay, boom, things hit me and then I am lost once again.
Before his passing, we had lost many family members, more than the "3" statistics show. . .doesn't help a broken heart. Watching a loved one die in agony, makes it even harder.
I want to extend my open arms to you, giving a hug, and a hand to hold as we pass through the journey of the unknown, and what is yet to be.
Oh, how I wish I had the right words, but the best I can say is, " I hear you, and hope we can all find the way to peace within our souls".
Till then, let us share things, times, places that may help us on our way through grieving.
My heart goes out to you.

Sincerely,
DE

(((((((((( Lexicon78 ))))))))))))))))

Nothing seems to help my broken heart. Thank you for your kind words. Ya know I've talked about my mom, wrote about her a lot since she died and nothing seems to help. I don't know how to let go of her. i just want to get over this struggle. But I do not see an end to the pain just yet.

Lexicon,

Everyone that deals with grief says that each person has their own way of grieving & their own time. My Mother died 6 months ago & I still haven't gotten through the trauma from the ID theft & threats, along with her OD on morphine that the home care RN did when my Mother insisted on being in her own home. I can hardly remember that period of time & having been in the hospital myself from exhaustion & malnutrition at the time of my Mothers death, makes her death is like looking at a black hole.

I know it may be strange, but is some ways it is good that you can feel that broken heart. Feeling nothing is a very scary feeling....wondering what is wrong with me & why I haven't felt any of those feelings that seem to be normal feelings for those who have lost their Mother. It is hard seeing your Mother die...I went through that too without any support until the end when I was the person telling her that it was ok to die & not suffer any more.

The pain will end when the time is right. The first year is the hardest one to go through because of all the memories. Everything you have done....talking, writing, don't make the pain go away. According to my psychologist, those things bring back the memories into the current thinking....they are good & necessary to think of.....your pain will go on until you are ready for it to be put into its place....& memories will always be with you. It all happens in your own time & what you require to deal with your memories. As time passes the pain will fade & you will become better at handling your memories.

Your time will come when it starts to fade,
Debbie

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