Dad died and my family left me alone

my dad lost his battle with lung cancer. The year before that i struggled with depression and had suicide attempts things at home were so bad i thought it was the only way out. I ended up in a home which helped kids who werent bad but couldnt deal with home life. When my dad passed no one told me even though i called every hr. Of that day and called the next. My counsler told me. My family never offered to let me stay with them, they never grieved 4him and yelled at me when i cried at the wake. To this day no1 memorializes him,no1 goes to his grave. It hurts so bad that my dad is gone i wish i had some1 to grieve with over him. Makes me scream inside knowing hes not here.

I love you.

Family can act really miserably at times, even when they think.

I'm sorry. I know the heartache of missing out when there is no way to make it up. When my dad was dying in the hospital, he and I had some private talks. He told the rest of the family to quit being so hard on me. Funny, they interpreted that as not to invite me to an ice cream party at his bedside.

Fallen,

*HUGS* I am so sorry to hear that your family has treated you this way. I know firsthand how this feels. My father passed away last year, and the only time they call or email me is when they want something. Recently I stopped answering those calls because I refuse to be used by them. They didn't want me around for the past two years of his life, they don't get me now that he is gone. I haven't had them around to grieve with either. But thats ok. Because the person they grieve is someone they didn't know because they were too busy living their lives away from him. I took care of my dad except for the past two years he was alive. I knew him and his heart. Fortunately I got to be there and hold his hand as he passed away. They did allow me that. And a couple months before he passed away, I got to talk to him at a family reunion in length. It was one of the best things I could have done because we got to air some things out.

The things that have helped me to move on are to remember those good and bad things. The lessons I learned from them. And the memories of the good things dad and I used to do together and I go out and still do them. Like fishing and gardening etc. Do those things that make you feel close to him. I think it will help. And its going to take awhile for you to grieve, but it gradually gets better. We will always miss our loved ones no matter what we do. And there will be those days, anniversaries, birthdays Father's Day that will get to us... but it will gradually lessen. Give yourself some time, love and patience. Hope this helps. Thinking of you.

((((Fallenrose))))
I will grieve with you, along witht he others here.
Hunny

thank u guys for ur support and input. It is so hard that he is gone makes me scream so bad inside and tears me up. Unfortunately i dont think about him so much so i dont feel this way all the time. I do at times remember things with him look at his pictures i had to steal from my mom because she wldnt give me any. He was a great man and i miss him so much. Since hes died i guess ive been trying 2be with him. Ive always said id do anything 2have him back here with me.

(((fallenrose))) - I'm sorry you're still grieving deeply and that you don't feel others are sharing the same pain.

Rose, what a lovely name. I love the way the roses drape over fences. We have a rose on our side of the fence that actually belongs on the neighbour's bush but for some reason the huge beautiful bright blossom has chosen to drape itself on our side of the fence. I just feel kind of special because of this.

A friend of mine lost her Dad a few years ago. She kind of believes he is with her still. I'm not exactly sure how that works for her. I didn't want my parents with me after they died so I couldn't imagine how that would work but she says in her heart and mind he walks with her and she talks to him too. I think it helps her to think this way and for that I am very happy for her. She loves him so much, even though she misses him too.

It has been hard for you Rose. You have had to carry many grieving kind of things. Grieving or loss is kind of messy sometimes but it is okay. I hope you can say more here if you would like to.

Lots of care and concern for you.

Hunny