Dealing with an unexpected loss

Hi all,

I posted this same thing in the Anxiety section but was glad to see this one too!

In brief, my best guy friend-we dated briefly in 2002, broke up and have remained very good friends. I heard through a mutual friend that he wanted to try dating again.

On July 1, at the age of 49, he died of a "catastrophic heart attack" in the morning. I found out in the afternoon and it's been very hard on all of his friends but ESPECIALLY ME!

I feel we shared a unique connection-he had OCD as well & we shared coping strategies.

I feel as though part of me died with him. The heart condition is apparently genetic so who knows when he would've gone?

I don't know whether to get grief counseling or what? Some friends don't want to talk about it a lot.

grace

((( hugs ))) - I also responded to YOU in the other thread, but I wanted to add that many people will not want to talk about this matter right now, therefore, I would suggest that you talk as you need and then go with the flow as to whom can handle the conversation and who cannot.

IMO - talking is the release valve for the soul, talking will enable you to be FREE and to HEAL.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

please get the grief counseling!! I am very sorry for your loss.

((anxietychick59)) i am so sorry for your loss. a year ago i lost my grandma, the only person i could always come to for comfort and the only person who loved me, so i know your pain. I absolutely agree with rapsody. I personally didn't want to talk about her death at all at first, know it seems like i don't ever want to stop talking about her. But everyone is different and therefore reacts differently to a loss like this one.
You are in my thoughts. Take care of yourself

completely off topic, but i accidently spelled your name wrong, rhapsody, i am sorry