[Eva1nder]

My g/f had called me to invite my son and myself to his b'day party on 1/13.

I got a call from my sister on 12/30 that my g/f was coming in (she works in a funeral home) to make arrangements because her son had passed away.

I was shocked...it is shocking.

I feel so sad for her. I spent the day with her.

It's overwhelming really. The father's b'day was this same day. How awful..huh.

What I'm having a really hard time with is getting the images of an almost 3year old child in a casket.

It just doesn't seem natural what so ever.

I was raised in a funeral home and have always had issues surrounding death.

I talked to her on the 13th and it's the first time I can hear her breaking down.

She had gone to the cemetary to release balloons w/the song "tears in heaven" on index cards.

I just wanted to vent here.

It's been a difficult time as this has happened and also I just found out my mother is sick.

[bebop]

(((Eva))) it isn't natural to lose a child and see them in a casket. please pm me if you want to. I lost a 3 month old granddaughter 10 yrs ago. my prayers are with you and your friend.

[Rhapsody]

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Eva1nder said:
What I'm having a really hard time with is getting the images of an almost 3year old child in a casket.

It just doesn't seem natural what so ever.

She had gone to the cemetary to release balloons w/the song "tears in heaven" on index cards.

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Just wanted to STOP in and let YOU know that I totally understand how you are feeling..... for it took ME around 4-5 years to get that exact image out of my mind / dreams when my only daughter passed away at age 10.

AND - "Tears In Heaven" was the SONG that my husband and I played at our daughter funeral, and then at our nieces a year later.... the two are buried next to each other - they share the same headstone - not some thing that I wanted to have in common with my older sister, but LIFE had different ideals.

((((((( HUGS ))))))) to YOU and your FRIEND..... <font color="purple"> PRAYERS going UP </font>

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

P.S.
VENT away as much as YOU need to - YOU will feeling better after wards.

[Eva1nder]

((((( be ))))))) I'm sorry for your loss. That is something very difficult & I can't imagine.

((((((Rhapsody)))))))))) I am so sorry for your loss to. Again I can't imagine your situation. I don't think anyone wants to ever think about what it would be like to lose a child and it's something that's always with you. I've been surrounded by so many close ppl who have lost in similar situations as you and be.

I think my having a hard time is just that. Being raised in a funeral home I never really thought it did do anything to me, but it definately did. I act like a bigger nut then I am when you have to go through the service etc.

Thanks to the 2 of you for listening and sharing something that is difficult for you both as well.

[Boopers]

So sorry for the loss.

[Soidhonia]

Hello I am very sorry for you loss. I hope you feel better soon. Take care Soidhonia

[Eva1nder]

ty Boopers & Soidhonia

[bejose34]

I lost my daughter 11 years ago on the 11th of march. She was just a baby. I know how hard it is. And you are right it isn't natural to bury a child. It is suppose to be the other way around. We are suppose to go first. Or that is the way we are taught. Only God knows why the little ones are called home before there parents. It is a long and difficult road to walk down. I have been doing it for a long time now. Sometimes I wonder how I have made it this long with out my little girl. It is awful hard sometimes. I missed out on so much with Savannah. But I will tell you this, if it hadn't been for Bebop and the rest of my family I wouldn't have made it this far. There were times I wanted to end it all. but God blessed me with a wonderful son a little over 2 years after I lost my baby girl.

i am so very sorry.......

[Fuzzybear]