Why do bad things happen for good people?

Seriously.

Day before yesterday my one friend still had his friend who was in a car accident and in hospital.

Day before yesterday, my other friend hadn't watched a little girl die. Who she couldn't save, even when she tried.

My roomate is anxiously waiting (since the weekend) to see if there's any news about a very ill grandparent in hospital that could potentially die because of how sick they are.

... I'm just noticing that bad stuff happens a lot ... but maybe that's because I'm devaluing the good stuff.

All I know is that it sucks and I don't know how to help any of my friends with the pain they're currently experiencing. I tried.

tis notfun to watch all of this and not be able to help... i know how u feel. i sometimes wonder what they did to deserve it all ya know?
tc
self

I'm sorry so much upset is happening to people that you care about.

I don't think it's that bad things happen to any one person in particular-- things-- good and bad-- just happen. I have found that if I try to put reason to it--then it can make me feel like I'm losing my mind... don't know if it will work for you but I've found-- after so so many upsetting things happen-- that I have to accept that things DO just happen-- no rhyme or reason-- it just is.....

things happen to good and bad people pretty much the same-- IMO... I think life can have struggles at times and if we try to focus on the good things the bad things maybe won't weigh us down quite so much.

Canders-- you sound like a very good friend to care so much about others struggles-- with a kind heart.

mandy

Canders I agree with Mandy to extent, there is no rhyme to bad things just time and unforseen circumstances. Not helpful I know, sorry.
As to how to help others just make it clear you are there for them that's all anyone can do. Even if this only means to listen to how hard it is for them. Or to be a sholder to cry on. They don't expect you to have the answers just to be a friend when in need.
This is what I need just as much as I needed to be left alone to heal when my daughter died.

Gee if what Doonney said is accurate -- my post was not helpful-- I'm very sorry.
I was hoping to be of some help but maybe I wasn't.... I'm sorry .....I will keep my distance.

mandy

I think you were all very helpful, so thank you. I'm just not used to having to deal with so many distraught people in a short period of time (sigh)

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