Loving Aunt sadly passed away, need your advice please

Hello:
Perhaps you can be of help to me as I am very devastated since my dear loving aunt passed on.

My aunt passed on over a month ago, we were extremely close, she lived with me for many years. Several years back she moved in with a man who she never married, I became very attached to him too, and always respected their relationship, he in turn showed great admiration for the love my aunt and I shared together. How I miss her so.
Since my aunt passed on her common law spouse, this man I speak of, who once showered me with so much affection, now, since the day my dear aunt left this world will not even talk to me and tells me it is not my business knowing anything about my aunt, re wills, re her belongings, and anything I gave to her while she was still here on this earth, he is the only one who can talk about her. He totally disregards and disrespects my feelings for her and the rest of my family, as if we never knew her, it is so terrible. It is almost like he lied that he was happy that my aunt and I were so close, and she believed he was happy that we were so close. I spent years and years of the happiest memories and days of my life with her. It is like he put on an act that he cared so dearly for her niece while she was alive, and now since she so sadly left he has decided to show his true colours, this is truly a slap in the face to me, and something I never expected. My aunt would be so angry and disgraced at his behaviour as we were soooooooooo very very close and I was always welcome at her home, for which he will not welcome me in anymore. I have called him a few times and he tells me nothing is my business.
Here's where the very sad part comes in. My aunts will was never mentioned by him to date, and it has been several months, to any of her family. So I found out who her lawyer was and went to see him. This man she lived with had the will all along and had the estate settled the day after she passed on while we were making funeral arrangements and never ever uttered a word to any of us. I read the will talked to the lawyer only a couple of weeks ago, and he told me that this man was with her when she wrote her will and he had her leave everything to him. As far as property aunt's will stated that all property in her home was to be distributed as per her instructions, no names mentioned or anything, so this man is living with and in her property and I wonder what to do. What were her wishes, who were these things to go to? He refuses to talk to her closest loving relatives, myself, my father (aunts loving brother), my aunt adored us. She made 2 wills the first one was revoked, never got the chance to see it. I fear that he had her not leave me anything, as I know she wanted to, she gave me things through the years and told me not to tell him she gave them to me, funny that eh! So to this date, I am very very sad, I feel very betrayed by this man as does my entire family, her brothers, sisters etc.....Someone who pretended to show me love in front of my aunt, who now does an about face and is treating me worse than dirt after she is gone. I am very hurt indeed. My aunt and I shared a love so very beautiful and it hurts me so that he could dishonour her and her memory as well as my relationship with her.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Sadeyedlady

Sad, I'd see if any legal actions can be taken.
One good thing, at least his true colors didn't cause any pain to your aunt since he didn't change until after she was gone.

Hopefully she was happy with him while she was alive.

gab

Hi.

Concerning material things: it sounds like you have legal advice; if you feel strong enough to deal with it, just go for it.

Now, the love that you shared with your aunt has nothing to do with the material world and nobody can take it away from you. What lives in your memory and in your heart is yours and yours only. If you have family members still alive and you can share your pain and revolt with them, let it out.

Love above money and love above things, always. The love you shared with her will never be taken from your heart.

All the best.
Peace.

saudade

Thank you gloria for your reply, I appreciate it.
As my aunt was losing her memory for several years he would say very hurtful things to her that I would address with him. He tried to be nice to me when I was with her, but now I question his niceness, and think he was doing this to save face. The more I look back on all of this I want to cry. I think he was taking advantage of her. He would never let my aunt and I be alone, he'd stay on the phone when we would have conversations, I would politely ask him for some privacy, and he would not let us go out alone together either. Everything I did with her, he was always there, and seemed somewhat envious of the bond my aunt and I shared, even though I would tell him sincerely how I supported their relationship. I have gone above and beyond for this man as my family has as well, celebrated all his Birthdays, brought him food when he was sick, I treated him like an Uncle, and my Aunt was so touched by all I would do for both of them, the unconditional love I continually showed. This man will not even call or talk to my aunts family, all of us, and says he doesn't want to bother and totally disrespects the love my aunt had for me and my family and our incredible love for her.
He has not even offered me so much as my own sweatsuit back that I had her wear in the hospital to keep her warm, and I didn't even ever ask him ever for a single thing. He is treating me as if he never knew me and this my aunt would cry over if she knew, I truly believe she never thought he could be capable of doing this to her family.
As I stated in my previous post, my aunt would give me things and tell me not to tell him, I always wondered why she would say this.
In her will it is stated that her property is to be distributed as per her instructions, no names of anyone mentioned at all! This man that I speak of is her executor, and I am starting to believe that anything that should go to me or my family he will not be respecting my aunts wishes. I am sooooooo very sad about this, my Aunt was like a 2nd mother to me and she means the world to me, how I miss her so so very dearly.

Hi Saudade:

Thanks for taking the time to respond to me, much appreciated.

It is the love of my Aunt I feel deep within my heart that is getting me through, she was and will always be the greatest inspiration in my life and there is absolutely nothing I would not do for her.

What really hurts is what this man is doing to myself and my, her family, it is his dismissal of all of those she loves and those who loved her which I know my Aunt would be so disgraced by. I know in my heart I showed her the most sincere unconditional love and kindness and was always there for her, We shared a love so very beautiful and it is with this love that I find the strength to continue on.

Thanks again.