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Aug 13, 2004, 12:02 PM
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My mom died on the 11th of this month....just a couple days ago. I'm struggling with all the stuff we are going through. I want to just say throw everything out, but I can't. I miss her so much and just want to see her smile, hear her voice, feel her essence. It's all gone now. Monday's the funeral. I just got out of the hospital because I was suicidal over her illness. She was only sick 2 months before she passed.. She went so quickly. She had adrenal cancer. She was terminal. She was given a year to live. What happened to that year?
I'm depressed and angry. Why did this thing take her away from me? I loved her so much. They always seem to take the good ones.
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Aug 13, 2004, 12:10 PM
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All of my love and a strong hug your way .....
Take it slow, there is no need to push yourself right now. Your sadness and anger are veri valid. My heart goes out to you. Loosing a love one is such a painfull experience, many of us are here to help you carry the load for as long as you wants us to. We care and are here for you. gab
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Aug 13, 2004, 12:30 PM
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lexi}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry about your loss. I lost my mom 22 years ago this month and I still miss her terribly sometimes.
My advise is to not throw everything out. You'll really regret it later! Her essence is still in her things if you believe that way. But you gotta know that some of her things will bring good, happy memories and comfort to you. The anger you feel is normal to the grieving process. Remember that doctors are human, not God. They can't say with any certainty when someone will pass. Everything happens for a reason and happens at the right time. Maybe it's not the right time for you, but it was for your mother. Acceptance will come at the right time. In the meantime, we're here to listen, understand and encourage. Hang in.   <font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>
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Aug 13, 2004, 03:17 PM
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Hello:
My deepest sympathies to you. I will keep you in my prayers. I just lost my Aunt over a month ago, and am experiencing so much grief, so I can imagine how your are feeling right now. My Aunt was like a 2nd mother to me, and her presence I miss so very incredibly. I think it might help to talk to your friends, to get comfort and support from those you know and can count on, this has helped me greatly and given me strength to carry on. I feel for you and I had many tears reading your post as I know what it is like to lose someone you love so very dearly. I have lost 3 very close and dear people in the last year, and the pain I feel no words can describe, but I hold their love very close to my heart and it gives me strength to carry on. Just know we are all thinking of you, and if you feel up to it, perhaps you can make a shrine in your Mother's honour, like I have here at home right now, I light candles and find much comfort in that. Hope my words have been of some help, and if you need to talk, know we are here. Love and Blessings, Sadeyedlady |
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Aug 14, 2004, 12:10 AM
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{{{{{{{Lexi}}}}}}}}}}} I am also sorry for your loss. Right now the pain seems beyond repair - keep her alive in your memories.
My mom and I are very close as well. I will say extra prayers for you, that you have the strength to get through this and deal with things. Courage is fear that has said its prayers. Dorothy Bernard |
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Aug 14, 2004, 03:54 AM
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I'm so very sorry for your loss, (((((((((((((Lexi)))))))))))). I understand about the death of a Mother, and it is a very difficult time. I agree with the others about not throwing your Mom's things out. I boxed some things, (and have yet to open them again), but I'm glad that I did keep some things to remember her by.
Warmest regards, Peanut <font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT</font color=blue> 
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Aug 14, 2004, 11:06 AM
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I am sorry for what you are going through. Greiving takes a long time and it will always be there. Give yourself time and allow the sadness to come. It is perfectly normal to feel all of this. I have had many losses in my life and I understand how hard this is. Maybe going in to see a grief counselor would benefit you right now; just to get through this next while. My mom has cancer and her doctors did not expect her to go into a remission. She is right now but has not been feeling that great. I think its more of the stress for her but that thought is always in the back of my mind. I will pray for you and your family. My thoughts are with you. Keep talking here and I think it will help.
Take care; itsjustme
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Aug 18, 2004, 07:54 PM
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My Mom died on May 30 - they gave her 4-6 months if she had surgery and one week if she did not - she died in one week with the surgery of ovarian cancer. I felt terrible but I was able to spend the last two days of her life with her - serving her as she had served me when I was a baby. She had to have me hand feed her - she was too weak to hold the spoon. I miss her every day and I cry for her - but she is free. I released her ashes into the ocean in the only place she felt safe and comfortable and it released a lot of my grief. The holidays and birthdays will be the worst - we celebrated everything together. Keep your faith up - she is with you still, in your heart.
Mars
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Aug 25, 2004, 06:22 PM
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((((((((((((((((((((((((((Lexicon))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I am so sorry for the death of your mother. Share your feelings and make sure your depression is being taken care of. Death can be a hard thing to get over. Take care, Leslie |
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Aug 31, 2004, 02:15 AM
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Lexi and Mars - Losing one's mom must be one of the hardest things we are called upon to endure--wish I could add something to the wise words of those who've already posted, but I can't. Still, I hope you won't mind if this newcomer simply says she's so terribly sorry to learn that your moms have passed away. I can only imagine what you're going through now. As well as having a good support base of good friends--and yes, even we strangers, time will come to be your friend. Oh, I do so hope you pull through this sooner rather than later.
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Sep 05, 2004, 05:03 PM
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My profoundest sympathy for your loss and what you are going through
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