Am I strange?

I am doing things that I keep thinking Steve would be so proud. LIke when I got my new car my Saturn I thought oh Steve would love my new car. Or when I started at the museum Steve would be so proud I'm working. Steve would be so proud I'm managing my thoughts etc. Why am I so obsessed with how proud Steve would have been with how I am doing? Sheesh it has been 5 months since he died I need to get over it already.

Jbug

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sorry if this offends you in any way but that is perfectly normal...when you lose someone close that you really loved....sorry I can't say any more except it's a normal reaction and there is no correct time limit...everybody needs different time. hope i explained this right for you.

jbug >>>>> . I think it is awesome Cool that you enjoy including Steve in your thoughts and your Moving on in life things ,,,.

And When you make the next step asto letting another peep maybe into your heart ???

I would Hope that they too would share your memories as you feel them and as they still clearly form in your mind >>> Your thought that Steve would be Happy !!!!

Thanks guys...I seriously thought something was wrong with the way I was thinking.

Jbug

even after 15 yrs of my mom being gone sometimes even though she was not a nice person to me, I want to call and share things with her thinking she would like whatever. it is normal hon

who says you need to get over it already Jbug? Grief moves and flows in it's own place in it's own time and you are honoring him by remembering what he liked and what he meant to you. You do what you need and keep on feeling.

Hi Jbug,

I lost my wife 6 weeks ago, I am still thinking, when I clean the sink, hoover the lounge or even clean the toilet, Chris would have wanted that. Yes it is supid, but in another way it is so nice. Okay so Chris probably is not watching what I am doing, but if it makes me feel better, what the hell. Keep doing things, Steve would have wanted you to do, just imagine he IS WATCHING you and get some comfort from that. There is so little comfort at times like this that you have to grab whatever you can.

Take care and sleep easy.

Gordon

Thanks guys for your answers.

Gordon..I'm sorry for your loss.

I am trying so hard to make Steve proud of me because when he was alive he always teased me and told me I was making him look good because I was functioning so well. I want to continue this way because of that. Lately however I haven't been and I feel as if I'm letting him down.

Jbug

Jbug

Don't even worry about what you are thinking. Imagine what Steve would have thought. People have different ideas about what happens when one's loved one passes away. But whatever your thoughts are, treasure them.

Steve would have wanted you to be happy, or at least content. There are no words that are correct or appropriate at a time like this but my thoughts are with you.

How is it you go through life without a thought, but suddenly it affects you and everything changes.

If you need to talk, don't hesitate.

Gordon

No that is not strange at all! Sometimes I think about the things that would dissapoint my grandpa, and sometimes I think of things I could do that he could look down on and be proud of.

sometimes it takes longer for others to get over the death of a loved one it is not strange at all it is better to remember for to long then to forget about them to soon