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Old Mar 21, 2005, 08:54 PM
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I just re-read a thread I had posted in. It seems that we are all so very different and respond differently to opinions and humor as well as stories. We each are triggered by something different. I have watched the past few weeks here and see that many are feeling vulnerable. Actually, it was in re-reading that I really saw some pain I had been too busy to notice before. I don't know what I am trying to say. Someone posted song lyrics, everybody get together come and love one another..... I don't mean we shouldn't disagree but I do wonder if we can't be our best selves here and support and love eachother unconditionally? I would hope that we could not hurt eachother or say things that are unkind to one another. Yes, I read things that are triggering and I feel like I am boring when no one responds etc. But those are my feelings and I am responsible. I just would like it if we could assume the best about one another and not intentionally be unkind. We are all vulnerable humans, it is the nature of the beast. I don't know about adressing conflict head on here? It is a support place so can't we accept we each have our own garbage to carry and we are bound to disagree? I actually work in a place that is not MY workplace, just where my office is and I remember the surprise when I was told there was back biting and gossip and don't turn your back on so and so..... I couldn't believe that these great people could ever be so fickle. That's a bit of what I feel now, surprised and a little frightened. Like I have to watch my footsteps, lest I be hurt or become a target. Emmy, if you see this I wish you would p.m. me or something. I care about you and we are friends. I would like to hear from you. Everyone else, I truly like each person here when I read posts and see the common thread of humanity. I had one difficulty and I felt like a bad person because I was feeling unkind. I decided to not let myself get triggered into feeling that way. My goal is to have a loving heart for myself and my fellow beasts. PEACE.

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Old Mar 21, 2005, 09:08 PM
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In an ideal and supportive world, we can all get along and it's definately something for which we all should strive.

Unfortuanately many of us are triggered by small things. When we are, we speak our minds and it may or not come out as we intended it, resulting in someone else being hurt or offended.

I told someone today that I am waiting for my turn of accidentally offending someone and that I'll just have to try to muddle through it the best I can.

There are a lot of people here, and just as in a rt community, there are bound to be misundestandings and hurt or angry feelings. I hope when it happens, the people involved can see the forest for the trees and make up.

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Old Mar 21, 2005, 09:38 PM
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I think I get what you mean, and I agree. It's hard on the www cos it's so easy to say something, and without someone being next to the person you can take things so so so differently. Then, unlike in person, it takes time to sort it out cos of the time difference and crap.

I hope you get feeling better wisewoman. *hug*
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Old Mar 21, 2005, 09:40 PM
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Old Mar 21, 2005, 10:04 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((ww))))))))))))))))))))))))))) re-reading threads upsetting and trigger re-reading threads upsetting and trigger you
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Old Mar 22, 2005, 12:41 PM
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IMHO, it's impossible to go through life not upsetting someone, somewhere. If we try then at some point, we are giving up our own identity, our own opinions, our own ethics and/or integrity. Some things need to be said, and ya'll know I'll be among the first to do it. That is something I hope I never stop doing. If it upsets someone, then I would hope that the person would look inward to see why. If something I say triggers someone, then maybe that person needs to know why he/she had that reaction and deal with it. That's whay I do! I'm a better person for it.

Being compassionate and empathetic as you are, WW, and anyone else like you, those people can reach out and help those that were triggered, etc. I don't shy away from that, either. re-reading threads upsetting and trigger
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Old Mar 22, 2005, 06:04 PM
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hey sept, I am not sure I understand. I feel like I need this to be a supportive and caring place and I do not at all like the conflict. We can have conflict IRL. I know you are quick to support and I am personally greatful for that. I just wonder if we can asume the best from eachother and act with love? Does this make sense? I too am quick to express my opinion but am slowly learning to sit a minute first and try to get a bigger understanding. I am trying to act with a loving heart and not jump to judgement against my peers, my fellow human beasts.
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Old Mar 22, 2005, 06:24 PM
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I just meant that I can't allow myself to try and please as many people as possible. It's a loosing battle. I learned that from a very early age and it drove me crazy at times. I never meant to imply that we should never try to please someone, be gentle or be kind to them when possible. re-reading threads upsetting and trigger

Hmmm... maybe I have issues with "enabling" and being "a people-pleaser." re-reading threads upsetting and trigger

Maybe my rebelious side is up today... maybe I'm feeling pushed... I'm sorry. (Or am I?)
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Old Mar 22, 2005, 06:26 PM
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p.m.d you, before you added the last 2 sentences. I think that I am tired and can't grasp info well right now. Peace to you.
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Old Mar 22, 2005, 06:27 PM
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I'm tired, too, Hun. re-reading threads upsetting and trigger
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