Dealing with Negative emotions without obsessing over it

Hi Everyone,
I am so angry and frustrated. I recently transferred jobs and I had a contract with them. I was to be on probation for 3 months and then become a regular employee. I turned three months last week and they told me (together with another person who started approx. same time as me) that our probationary period was going to be extended by another three months. Nothing wrong with us except that the company wants to make sure we are a right fit. It turns out that this is not the first time this company does this. They did this to another batch of hires a year ago and their probationary period was extended as well. I am so pissed off because I feel like I have been tricked. If that is how the company operates, fine but we should have been told from the start that it would be six months prob. Its like they suck you in and then tell you the bad news and too late for you to have other options.
I would like to look for another job but I know that is not the right thing to do after all since it is not a reflection on me and it is them.
Any suggestions on dealing with this? How can i channel this anger out? I wish I had spoken my mind out when HR spoke to me instead of just letting them see that I was not happy.
Suggestions pls?
Thanks.

Hi Ricky. Welcome to PC. I hope you find lots of support here. That's quite the trick that your employer played on you, especially finding out that this is their 'normal' way of treating new employees. I can see why you would be upset and angry, I would be too. They should have been up front when they offered you the position. I'm sorry that this has happened to you. I wish I could offer you some advice but unfortunately I also deal with not knowing how to channel anger, so I tend to hold it inside. I've been told that I re-direct it at myself, not sure if I do. Maybe you do this too? Sorry, wish I could be helpful but just wanted to say hello and welcome you to PC. I hope you find a healthy way to deal with the anger you are feeling. Maybe it will dissipate with time? Good luck!!!

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What a bum deal ! I assume staying as a probationary employee leaves you without benefits? Do you have peperwork from them stating you were hired with a 3 month probabtion period? If you do, I would make appt with head of HR , take your paperwork and have a little talk ! This is unfair to anyone who goes to work there ! About the anger - I have found it helpful to write whoever I am angry at a letter........spill your heart out. Then burn the letter. Just to get it outta your system. Journaling is a good way to help get emotions out in a safe way as well.

Good luck ! Sorry you are dealing with unfair employer!!!!!!

Hi Ricky -- That is a rotten thing for an employer to do.

Welcome to Psych Central.

Thank you for your reply.
Thats the funny thing, they are giving me benefits once my three months is up and even the keys to the office.....I mean how stupid can people get???? By the way, no use for me talking to HR since HR was the one who told me the "new deal" last Friday. But I have a strong feeling she is being told what to do by the president of the company. This President has actually been with the company for just over a year and there has been a lot of turnover since he came. I just feel my hands are tied right now since I cant simply look for another job as that would not look good on my resume. I guess I should focus more on being thankful that I have a job and that things go full circle...what comes around goes around. It might not happen overnight but it does catch up with them.
Thank you so much for having responded. I do feel better knowing that my feelings are reasonable.

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Welcome to PC. Sorry this happened to you.

Ricky, just a suggestion ok? Employers and employees alike know not every job suits every person. If you apply elsewhere and they ask about your current job you are within your rights to say you just want to explore other opportunities. Feel free to tell your prospects they company you work for may not be the right fit for YOU. There's no shame in it. That's why they all have these 3 month probation periods in the first place dontcha think? Just my 2 cents mind you. OTOH there is the fact that if, 3 months from now, they tell you your probation is over then it won't really have made any difference right ? I mean the additional stress may not be fair, but as long as you know you are doing a good job, perhaps you have nothing to worry about.

Now this is not to say I am defending the company. What they are doing is not right and I would be really cheesed off myself. Unfortunately, I'm not much good at handling anger either and would likely not handle your situation very well. I was just hoping to shed some positive light on things.

Welcome and good luck.