I am hurt and confused.

I was in chat tonight and attacked by someone who felt that Me and Pat and the rest of "OUR BULLIES" have been knocking people around and making them feel like crap.

I take total offense to that accusation and I am stunned. I have never spoken too, insinuated, badgered or made anyone feel badly here. I have gone out of my way to treat everyone here with respect, kindness , and offer my support.
Your accusation have hurt me very badly and I can not for the life of me understand why you would say these things to me. I have a relationship with many people here, including Pat. I am just confused and insulted. I am so insulted and hurt.

Jen, I'm sorry you're feeling so hurt. I've never seen you do anything to attack anyone.

((((((((((((((Jen)))))))))))

i don't know what to say about that. i can probably guess who it was, but won't here. just when we get things going in a nice and calm direction, something else happens......i'm hurt that you're hurt. you have't teamed up with me for any reason, much less "bullying" someone. xoxox pat

Thanks Pat and Shirley.

I am as shocked as you are. I am just shocked. I cant not say anthing other then that.

Thank you guys for your support. Much love to ya both.

Jen I am so sorry too. If I am thinking of the same person , I understand what you mean. Been there done that. You are not mean at all and dont deserve to be treated this way. Keep your chin up girlfriend !! I'll be thinking of ya and if you need anything let me know!!

Hugz~
Bethy

(((((((((jen)))))))))))... some people! You are one of the sweetest people around here! My avatar & sig would still totally suck without you! I'm sorry that someone did that to you...wish I woulda been there... I would've stuck up for ya!

((((((((((jen)))))))))))))))- you are loved

((jmo)) What a cruddy night to have!

Not knowing what or who or any of that all I can say from reading your post is I'm reminded of when children are insecure and feel threatened if their friend makes friends with someone else.

The triangle kid is friends with the circle girls and the square boys but then also becomes friends with the decagon dudes and the buckyball girls. The circle girls and the square boys are threatened that their dear friend triangle kid might leave them for the decagon dudes and the buckyball girls. When kids are threatened they often will begin ridicule to mask their true feelings of hurt, insecurity and so on. Kids are great at projecting what they're going through. And adults with mental health issues are great at creating fantastical ideas and beliefs that hold no basis in truth other than that of the diseased/disordered brain.

I think you're a triangle kid here. It is unfortunate that friends sometimes lash out with ill intent when what they're really feeling is insecure and hurt. It is MUCH easier to toss ill will and mean words at someone than to own those feelings and work through them in a mature manner.

As for any accusations? We'd have better odds of seeing Mother Teresa and Ghandi in a cage match than to see you pushing anyone around here. (c'mon the visual made you smile.....admit it.....those two would look silly in chain link) I think you've done a wonderful job of offering up support throughout these forums from what I've seen of your presence here

(((triangle kid jmo))) I am sorry you went through such an unpleasant chat experience.

I try to remember that the community here is comprised of ppl in various stages of healing or maintenance and some aren't yet ready to admit to their own stuff. They're still in the stage of the blame game for whatever woes are in their life. Like above....much easier to continue holding others responsible for one's own pain........that way one never has to change themselves because it is always the other person with the problem........never the individual themselves. It is a stage many ppl go through and also one that many ppl get stuck on. Let's hope through support these folks can begin to own a little more of their stuff.

Poopie Dust, remember "Blame is the Detenator of Evil", meaning those ppl are insecure as was said above.
I'am sure I'm on the hit list also, because I give out nicknames
Angie

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{JEN}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
I LOVE YOU so much and you have done nothing but HELP me and ENCOURAGE me and BE KIND to me and NEVER mean.....so let them throw their stones....we KNOW the truth and so do you....so please do not give them the power to make you feel so down..it is about them NOT about you...your a GREAT FRIEND.....take care
love you bunches....

Goodness, you are one of the most supportive people on this forum ! I agree with above posters - people who are hurting often hurt others. You get so much love and support on the boards, perhaps this person is jealous ! Many reasons why people will go on the defensive, rather than work thru their own issues.

I am sorry this happened to you ! Perhaps whoever was mean spirited towards you will explain in PM why they acted the way they did, but if they don't, please dont take it personally Jen, cause I have never seen you bully anyone !

i'm hurt, as well. i'm hurt that we've achieved a kind of peace here, just to get it disrupted. and i'm hurt that someone else also experienced the anger that i was on the receiving end of. i'm at my wit's end, concerning how you got thrown into it also. i believe that we have worked hard to help achieve a new attitude here and i'm not going to sit on my hands and see our efforts go down the drain, due to one angry poster.....xoxoxo pat

I am sorry this happened, grrr!! I have always found you very kind and supportive ((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))

This is exactly why I love you guys!!!!!!!

After I left here last night I sat in bed and thought about everything that took place here and I guess maybe, my hurt calmed down and was able to clearly think about what exactly happended.

I think that maybe I could have handled myself in a calmer way but I was very hurt. Not an excuse, just a reason behind it all. I know that each of us here suffer day in and day out with depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses that bring us down at any given moment. We all hurt, all of us and from time to time do or say things that we regret after the fact. I know I do. We are not perfect, none of us. This place has been so wonderful for me and still am so happy I have each and everyone of you to turn too. You brighten my darkest days and I can never say thank you enough.

I too beleive that many ppl here have worked very hard to make peace with the past and move. I want PC to remain peaceful and friendly and most of all supportive. Thats what this place is all about and I can not lose sight of that.
I apologize if I have ever made anyone feel like they were singled out, bullied or not loved or cared for. That was never my intention. Never. I enjoy this site, I enjoy all the people here and I mean all of them. Good days or bad. Thank you all again for your kind words, advice and support. Take care everyone. ........Much love.

am working on moving, so here's what i leave with you today...

Jen, as you know, I came back in just after the fact so I didn't see what took place, but I can't imagine you hurting anyone! Not even a mosquito with west nile! Just try and let it role off and know you are loved here by everyone, and that it HAD to be a misunderstanding! It just HAD to be!

~Rayna

((((((((((((((((((jen)))))))))))))))))) i think your a special part of what we try to achieve here.

kd

Please don't let it get you to heart to heart that hapend once wit me and someone he said something so harsh to me against the way I was born. How I got here etc... That I kow longer bother to say anything to him but F*** off if he starts on me again. If he says something to me in my power I ignore but until he fully apolize I will talk to him but he said sorry but I don't think he really meant it just didn't want to get into trouble. Yet he said he mean it. But its so hard to believe in someone who broke your trust. Please don't let others bring you down your great to e and other people who care. It's hard to excalty understand why even my doubts about this boy why did he say that when I'm not? Shows how to make you small if you buy in. Please to not listen to this noiseness you are who you are the rest is up to you for the best! I know you can do it. I see your hurt which is not so good but really wounds will heal during time. Went shopping because I was wearing black and red top with jeans some girl shouted out goth. I'm not and I didn't realy listen to her nor was it to impress her firned I didn't even see or pay attention goth round to be me not a group even though I've seem to come under the catergorly becuase of the differents types on clothes I wear. Some doesn't matter I am who I am. Yep its not goth its grible duh. lol Please dry your tears because you should laugh right back as you couldn't possiable be the most cleverist person in the world to come out of no meanful words just ot get back at others for nothing HAHAHAHAHA I blame no one but myself to give in and become someone who I am not. Now its me don't like me or not fair enough! {{{{{{{{{jmo531}}}}}}}}}

I am shocked that someone would say these awful things to you.. You of all people... I have only seen you be playful and supportive and have never hurt anyone here....Maybe someone forgot their meds, to have said such things to you. ....

Pat, Rayna, Kimmy, Miss A, Radio,

Thanks again for your support and kind words. I do appreciate it.

You guys are my PC family and think the world of you. All of you guys Rock in my book.

Much love to ya!!!

Dear Jen,

I want you to know that you are a most beloved and valued member. You are always kind, gracious, supportive, giving and loving. As you know, I was in chat with you that night. You handled yourself with grace and style. I am so proud of you. No worries!!

All is well.

Many, many hugs,

Jan

Thank you Jan!!!!!!!!!!!!

I appologize to everyone here at PC including the one person with whom this involves. First of all, this should have been taken up in PM not in the public and for that I will take responsibilty for my lack of ability to control my feelings. I promise in the future to think before I speak or type and consider others feelings as well. Thank you again all of you.

IMHO you have done nothing wrong , you are a sweet , fair , loving person. You were hurt
angie

Wow.

Those people who accused you of being mean are totally talking out of their asses...

(((((((((((((Angie & the Girls))))))))))))))))