[Fuzzybear]

How do you express it? Do you hold it in, do you hold it in until it explodes/leaks out, perhaps towards an inappropriate person, do you lash out regularly? Or are you never aware of feeling anger? Or ... ?

Take care,
Fuzzy

[SeptemberMorn]

Depends on the situation. I've told you about that drunken neighbor that lives across the street, right? Well, his woman got moved into a convalescent hospital so now he doesn't have anyone to annoy or torment so he's picked on me. When he shows his face on this side of the street and does something on purpose, I yell at him or I'll do something to get his goat. I shouldn't but I do.

If hubby makes me mad, I'll ask him if we can talk. I'll try to keep my voice down and my tone semi-gentle.

When my kids piss me off, I give them the silent treatment most of the time. Wrong, but I do it... except for my youngest son up until this last time. I've always called him and asked him if we can talk about what's bothering us. Sometimes we both wind up yelling but in the end, we straighten things out.

Sometimes I tend to hold in my anger if there's nothing I can do about the situation or it wouldn't be in my best interest.

What a revelation of myself! YIKES!! Back to the drawing board...






<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[angel04]

geez, that's a loaded question. I usually stuff it all down until it explodes and take it out on myself. I punch walls or cut myself or verbally abuse myself. I don't take my anger out on others even if they caused me to feel it. I was brought up to believe that anger is not acceptable so i don't lash out, I turn it all inward.

"hold me now, I'm six feet from the edge and I'm thinking......maybe six feet ain't so far down"

[dalila]

I tend to stuff it, growing up anger was not a safe emotion. So I bury it deep and like angel tend to take it out on myself. This one of the things I am working on in therapy to just feel the anger. To accept that I have the right to feel anger, both about things today and about the past. I have buried anger for so long I am afraid to release it. But I have been letting it out in drips and dribbles and small explosions that scare me witlless.

Dalila
"Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing." -Harriet Braiker

[PlanningtoLive]

I hold it in until I can't anymore and then the first person who gets me angry, gets the whole bagful of emotion - it's not pretty.

I simply can't get angry at people most of the time - I'm very good at stuffing my emotions.

[Lexicon78]

I usually hold it in until I blow up. Sometimes I talk about what's making me angry, but that never seems to relieve to anger any...I just blow up anyways. But there is one good thing...I never allow anyone to experience that "blow". I wait till there's no one around and then I smash stuff, throw things, scream...

Oh, I think journalizing may help because I haven't cut or blown in quite some time now. At least not since I was in a relationship...

[LookingforHelp]

I am currently in an Anger Management program. The first thing I have learned is to realize when I begin to have angry feelings. I am learning to look at the situation and find the real cause of my anger. If I am successful I then talk myself through the feelings and expectations I have. I try to look at it honestly and openly. I then try to talk to someone. It doesn't have to be the person I am angry with either. I just need to express my feelings and work through them. After I have gotten my emotions in check.... I try to deal with the situation in a logical way. At least I am trying to do this. I have to retrain how my mind works, so far so good.

[alf]

I hold everything in. I don't let anything out. One day i night snap. But i pray i learn to deal with my probluns before that happens. The last time i got angry to the point of distroying something i had an option. The person who mad me mad or the wall. I punched the wall and put a big hole in it. I think i made the better choice and hope i will make the better choice if i don't deal with my problums before i explode again.

[(JD)]

gee fuzz if I knew all that I probably wouldn't be so depressed, eh? The only time my anger shows is when I have been "triggered" through the PTSD... but sometimes I hear myself saying how upset I am over this or that... maybe different words, maybe same emotion?

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[lost_lonely]

Like all my other emotions, I hold it in. Rarely do I ever express myself, and when I do, I always make sure I'm alone. Only once in a while, when I'm at my breaking point, will I let others know how I'm feeling. I know it isn't healthy, but I've learned it's always a risk to reveal your emotions. However, if I keep it up, I may just explode one day and I hope it's at the right target-myself.

If nothing else, my one true talent is hiding my emtions. I do it well.

[angel04]

speaking of anger. I was not apretty sight saturday night. I got home froma hard night at work to a message on my phone from my stbX. He "informed" me that he would be bringing his girlfriend (the second of two he cheated on me with) with himm to help HIM pack up and move the rest of his things out of MY house. I was livid. I couldn't sit down. i kept pacing up and down the hall, walking around outside, beating up the innocent walls and bathroom tiles. I crushed the knuckle on my baby finger for the umpteenth time. I marked up my right arm and was just about to start in on the left when I remembered I had beer in the fridge. So, I just drank until I got sleepy and went to bed. I got up at 6am sunday morning to go to work and all day at work I was seething with the visions of that "jerk" (a-hole) in MY house letting his gf poke around MY rooms. I'm still pretty angry but I'm trying to just stay busy with packing.
What kind of nerve is that???
Just wanted to rant. sorry.
take care all
tina

"hold me now, I'm six feet from the edge and I'm thinking......maybe six feet ain't so far down"

[Fuzzybear]

GGGGGRRRRRRRRR

well fuzzy......i'm just starting to feel any emotion.i was on prozac for over 10 years and it left me emotionless.......now that i'm off of it.....i don't quite know what to do with my anger and in some recent cases i have dealt with it very inappropriately....i am lucky to have found a wonderful girlfriend on here by the name of tomi...lol.....she lets me vent all i want!!!! lol