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I am so upset that the child like games have come to this board.. I came here seeking help on my deperssion and when I first came to this site it did help.

But now all we see are name calling and back stabbing. Makes me so sorry I am even on this site.
I love all of you so much, you all have helped me when i truly needed it, and now none of the people on here that started out as freinds can get along..

This saddens me to no end..

I see the darkness taking over a great deal of my friends on this site..
Please stop the fighitng cant we all just get along

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
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I truly welcome your bringing this up. Not for your stated reason, but for another reason that I think is ultimately more valuable.

I don't think friendship requires there be no friction or discomfort. The only group of people that will have no conflict would be people who are all very similar in every way. We are a diverse group and I would not want it to be otherwise. That might be always sweet and comforting, but it would be boring and useless to almost anyone who did not fit in.

I think rather than avoid the discomfort of some of the recent activity, it should be seen as a new opportunity. I, for one, am an avoidant personality and could stand to learn a bit about working through stressful situations without my usual turtle into the shell retreat.

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Lady D (and all)....

I think that all the active members on this board have a history of doing the honorable thing and supporting one another. This site is a welcome outlet to share, get advice and get the support that we otherwise may not be able to get. Lets not have the recent events undermine that history or undermine this site.

We have all made mistakes in what we have posted on this forum. Moderators have made mistakes in how they have handled situations. We are all human, we are going to make mistakes. But by and large the intent of the people on this board is honorable. I always tell my kids is not that you make a mistake, its what you do to fix it.

Clearly many people on this board are divided about the controversy over a recent poster. It seems that some feel that the poster's intent is not honorable. And, in fact, that their primary purpose is to upset the integrity of this board. If indeed that is their intent this ongoing divisiveness will enable them to achieve their purpose. Are we all going to allow someone to take this board away from us and rip us apart when we have all been there for one another? I hope not.

Many people on this board have been true to their kind and gentle spirit and have opted to take the position that everyone needs a voice and needs a chance. This approach is admirable to say the least. However, I think I have yet to see any evidence from the poster that they are sincere in wanting to truely contribute anything meaningful. That is my own opinion. And, when a poster comes on claiming to be someone else that is clearly not an honorable approach and their intentions must be questioned at that point.

I think the moderators were only trying to do what they felt was the proper thing to do. You may disagree with the approach or action. That is your right. Such disagreements should be posted in a respectful and civil manner as not to further perpetuate this "cancer" that has infected this board.

It is also clear that moderators have information that we are not all privy to. I think that we should give them the benefit of the doubt and place our trust in them. For if we do not trust one another amongst this on-line family then we have lost everything.

I do agree with what you said.
I am just so heartbroken over all of this.
I do not know what information you are saying that memebers are privy too. I do not knwo any more than you do Trust me on this.
I have not vocied much distress on this fourm before, but I came here for help, and so far I have gotten it.

I have read some of the persons post you are referring to, and no what has transpired is WRONG !!!!!!! He/she who ever it is, should not be let to stay on this fourm, but then again, who are we to judge, ??

Makes me feel I am not doing my job right, but then again, who does it perfect?
I want all to know I am only saying the things that I am saying for one reason.

I WANT PEACE BACK ON THIS SITE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sory did not mean to yell, but I want my family back that has helped so so much over the last few months..

I am trying to stay neutral, in the sense that I do not knwo the person like some members do, and yes he should have been heard, but going in circles is not being herd it is "playing a game' that none of us need or want

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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kv you are so correct in saying it the way you did..

I did not mean that there woudl not be confluct but this last one was handled poorly, and it has hurt some and upset some, being a mod, is a very hard job, in the fact that we can not please all , and were not giving this postion to please.
We were giving this postion to help Doc John admin this site, and help keep the peace wich is not being done

<center>Tears may fall and hearts may be broken, but words can kill a person soul faster than a bullet

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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Lady D.....

Frankly, I think this whole situation has been blown way out of proportion. There is only a very small number of people that were caught up in this controversy. I would hope that it ends here and now and that more people don't get involved. The whole thing has the potential to get out of control.

I never suggested that you were privvy to information, but other posts here have suggested that there was information and reasons why this individual should not be posting here. That was good enough for me. Unfortunately others did not share in that trust and took the opportunity to publicly criticize people in a hurtful way.

Lets just end this hole thing for God's sake. It just isn't worth it.

Lady D, the whole of the responsibility for this board isn't on only your shoulders, hun. It lays on all of us. Some of us aren't threatened by this guy and some of us are so there's bound to be some difference of opinion stated. It's a good thing! I think, so far, that it has brought us closer together. We've closed ranks as a family. Either way, we're all on the same side; to protect what we have here. Yes, the ride is bumpy right now, but we're all learning from it. The help and support isn't gone by a long shot!! Some of us are learning valuable lessons; we're learning to get along with each other, we're learning just how valuable "community" is, etc. If we hadn't had this upset, we wouldn't have learned much.

You are doing a great job, Lady D. Remember, it's not ALL up to just you. Relax!

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YOu are correct, That is the main reason why I posted this so maybe others can see the turmoil it is causing all of us..

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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I know it does not all land on my shoulders, but very few are upset in the fact that this has happend..

It needs to stop..

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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