[wisewoman]

My friends family is fighting about the trust he made. some are making accusations that are just untrue. It feels horrid. It sickens me to see people behave that way. No, mine is not the only truth but I do try to pay attention to other's needs, others deeds, others words.

Which brings me to the second point. I am sick of the darned bickering, infighting, slamming, arging, one upping eachother that has been happening here. If I am guilty, grab me on it so I may learn. As for anyone who can see themselves in this descrition please now that I feel great personal pain due to all of this. We have the opportunity to be better, to do better. Thanks for listening.

you are a "wisewoman" indeed........time for us to move on and get back to supporting each other....."let there be peace and let it begin with me"

[(JD)]

((((WW)))) perhaps all the misery and upset from IRL with your family has colored your view of this site a little? There isn't hardly any upset against anyone here, as we are all suffering with our DX's yet still being heard. Try and not take what is being said IRL too personally, as it is the family dynamics that usually come out at times like these.... try to rise above the situation. You know? If the adults haven't learned yet how things "really are" they probably won't no matter what argument you present. Take care, things will settle for you.

[Mahali]

I agree...you are a Wisewoman...people fighting over trusts and such remind me of vultures ...except vultures are supposed to behave like that so perhaps I shouldn't insult them.

As for the fighting here it saddens me. It has caused many increased stress and sadly has caused some to leave the site.

I am sure your "real life" situation can make the fighting here affect you more but the fighting here does nothing to help with the stress in real life either.

Peace to you and all Wisewoman.

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[wisewoman]

and Peace I shall employ today throughout my day.

[JustBen]

It's amazing how families can turn on each other over this stuff. Had a similar incident in my Dad's family over a fairly small matter -- it estranged an entire family from seeing us.

[Gemstone]

{{{{{wisewoman}}}}}}

I'm sorry about the fighting among your friends family.

As for the fighting here it is really upsetting for me. There is a difference between voicing your opinion and bickering. Conflict is very triggering for me. irl fighting has always lead to hitting and physical hurt; that’s why it scares me.

[wisewoman]

Me as well. Thanks for understanding.

It scares me because my experience is that when people get angry I get in trouble. And it isn't that I can just not read stuff like people have said. I learnt that to get by I needed to know as much of what was going on around me as possible. I listened, I looked. That carries on now. To leave posts unread is as threatening for me as reading some of the stuff here. I would like to be able to not read but I can't. So I read and I am scared, or I don't read and I am scared.
This is - or should be - a good place. I've seen too many places like this fall apart and hurt people.
Like you, WW, and Gem, I am scared.

[wisewoman]

Caroline, I wonder if you could practice not being so hypervigilant by NOT reading the posts you know will upset you. Doing that may spread out into the rest of the world so you can feel like you don't need to be hypervigilent. It happens to me too, not the fear of not reading posts but the fear and confusion when I see people acting nasty toward eachother.

{{{{{ wisewoman }}}}}

It's very upsetting to have this going on so soon after the loss of your good friend. It's hard to grieve when anger and fear take over.

As far as this place is concerned, I think butterfly lady said it best in a thread started by Beth called "Seems like..."

B-lady said I think the ones that are suffering most from this are those who are remaining quiet.

I will leave it quietly at that.

Petunia