I Think I'm Falling In Love

I have never had a real relationship before and i'm 25. Except for those kind that your friends set up for you when you're in school. You hold hands and that's about it. Then after a week or two you get your friends to tell the guy that 'you don't want to go out anymore.' I did kiss one of the guys (who i didn't even really know) a few times and I never felt so disgusting in my whole life. That was about 8 years ago.
I always had these amazing ideas of what my husband would be like and told myself that he had to be these certain things or i wouldn't be open to having a relationship. It turns out that this guy that I think I'm in love with doesn't meet up to all of those plans i had. But he is a really beautiful person. He is far from perfect but so am I. He's funny and he thinks I'm funny. That is totally hilarious. I'm pretty sure that he likes me too. I can't stop thinking about him. I keep planning the wedding and thinking about what it will be like living with him. I just can't get him out of my head. I try to not follow my feelings in this. I add up all the pros and cons because I realise that jumping into a relationship is not just something i should take lightly.
I haven't exactly been very well so I don't want to get involved without sorting out my issues first. Second thing is that he hasn't got a job at the moment, although he is studying. His family are not exactly normal. But I still can't help thinking that maybe he is the one for me. I like him even though he doesn't meet my original list. I have never been in this spot before. I wonder whether I should ask him out for dinner or something. I would rather he did but I can't be bothered waiting around. He might be worried about asking me. I'm not worried about asking him. lol. Some advice please?????

OHH LALA sounds like you are smitten...you may want to ask him to lunch or over for dinner..I think its too cool...AND am happy for you......give it a shot. The one dude I am in love with has very little in common on my old list....but man I adore him...too BAD I am hooked up with someone else...GO FOR IT

He he he You made me laugh. Do you think it might be better to wait until I'm really well again or might this be good for me?

This is just what I THINK O.K..I say shoot for it....what is well really? GO FOR IT this is soooo cool....he must like you for him to be funny and all....take it slow but now days your asking to lunch or for coffee..or something mellow is better than OK...REMEMBER we have dudes in here with issues too maybe he is too shy to ask himself....THIS COULD MAKE YOU WELL....COME ON LOVE AMORE..GO FOR IT

Oh and be prepared to have to ask a time or three....I know if Mr Right asked me to go out on a day I had not changed my undies I would say no..... but would PRAY he would ask again

BTW That was an example I change my panties daily sometimes twice ..mom told me in case of an accident to have clean ones on

Estee1, I say go for it too. Why not! The worst he could say is no, and it sounds like he will say yes. I hate playing games, life it to short. Have fun. Good Luck.

My mum used to say that too. You crack me up. rofl.

Estee1 sounds like he is interested, I say to ask him! Guys LOVE it when girls ask them out. Good Luck!

Lol I am glad to see you lol..I think all moms tell their kids that..must be a sworn oath they take

I see you are on planet earth......so do you have a Barnes and Nobel book store by you that you two could go and read for free chat and have starbucks coffee? Or a diner some kinda talking place? Right now you are maybe on Cloud 9....I don't think they have barnes and nobel but its a good way to kinda get him out alone and semi let him know your intrested ..with other distractions should the conversation run slow now and then

God help me I am a pro at men...

Yes there are places we can go on planet earth. I would be so nervous. Not normally, if i ever do anything with him I just enjoy his company and there is no nervousness. but getting deep and meaningful is going to be a little scary. I can just picture his face. He'll be nervous. lol. I might just tell him that I can't stop thinking about him to kind of break the ice a bit. lol

Go easy on the dude lol..It might be nice to hear from some male posters to see what they have to say...

Did ya ask the dude out yet?

I found out today that he came over to my house the other night to watch a movie with me but I was out. I think he knows that I like him and he acts as if he likes me. I told a friend today about how I like him. Don't think it will stay a secret for long.
I have decided that he has to ask me out somewhere first. But if he takes too long I might end up asking him. I am so embarrassed, whenever I see him or think of him I can't help smiling.

Hi folks,

I am one of those 'male posters' and I think that this is a delightful thread. Being in love with someone is the biggest depression buster on the planet.

estee, if the guy has fallen for you and you respond to him, then he will a happy man. If he hasn't quite fallen yet it might be an idea to see how he approaches you, but be open and friendly, although not frightening him off in any way.

It sounds very promising to me, and it is just so good to read a happy thread, even if I was a little embarrassed about the 'undies' bit! LOL

Good luck, Myzen

Thanks for your advice. I've been forever thinking about him. I'm pretty sure that he likes me too. I just worry that I might end up with the wrong person sometimes. So I have to think things over alot.

>>I just worry that I might end up with the wrong person sometimes. So I have to think things over alot.

Estee it sounds like this is a very good way of thinking on your part, and I just wanted to emphasize how important it is to find a balance here. Of course you want to be cautious and protect yourself, and you must stay aware of that. However you don't want to be too cautious and thereby miss opportunities for happiness. Like most things, the "answer" lies neither here nor there, but somewhere in the middle, where there is balance. We must always risk a little hurt in order to achieve pleasure, but that is what makes us alive.

I also wanted to say it is perfectly fine if you want to ask him first. It is OK to wait for him, and I think your decision to "wait for him, but to ask him if he is taking too long" is another example of finding a great balance in your life. You are definitely taking a healthy approach to this, and that is a victory no matter how this turns out. (From what you've said though, it certainly sounds to me like he is already thinking along the same lines as you... so good luck, this may just be in the cards for you!)

Now I'm not sure anymore. My feelings are so crazy. I don't even feel like I did last week now. I'm not even sure if I like him anymore. This drives me nuts. I get so confused about any decision that I have to make in life.