I'm quiet and shy. I don't have much friends in real life. I am a loner. I was getting annoyed by a friend and I feel like I have no friends. I had thoughts of suicide but I won't do it. I need to vent and I'm crying at the moment. Do any of you don't have much friends?

[Miss Laura]

Hey HappyCheeks,

You ok?

I only have 2-4 REAL friends and even that I sometimes wonder about. I wouldn't let what your friend is saying annoy you. You have been doing great

Originally Posted by Miss Laura

Hey HappyCheeks,

You ok?

I only have 2-4 REAL friends and even that I sometimes wonder about. I wouldn't let what your friend is saying annoy you. You have been doing great

I'm kinda upset. I don't have friends. I'm born to be a loner. I have been doing great but things get me down.

[Miss Laura]

Hey HappyCheeks,

Why do you think your born to be a loner? Do you have other friends you can hang around with? You are only talking about 1 friend who has made you feel upset right?

I hope you don't act on your negative thoughts as there are people in RL and on here who are your friends

Originally Posted by Miss Laura

Hey HappyCheeks,

Why do you think your born to be a loner? Do you have other friends you can hang around with? You are only talking about 1 friend who has made you feel upset right?

I hope you don't act on your negative thoughts as there are people in RL and on here who are your friends

I think I am a loner because I don't have much friends. I'm not sure. I know I have friends here but you lot live far away from me and I don't know you fully.

[Miss Laura]

Hey HappyCheeks,

Ye I know what you mean about friends on here....

Is there any clubs you can join, hobbies you can do that will make you sociaise with people?

I am away to take up badminton, aqua-areobics and a walking group and I already do Tai Chi. I don't know the women who do Tai Chi that well but they are there to talk to

[danii24]

I had 3 friends but 1 has drifted away now ive really only 2 friends. 6 years ago when i was pregnant with my son i had no friends at all really none. Then i made a friend and had only 1 friend for two years. its hard to make friends and even harder to make good friends. Dont hate yourself and think your odd for this.

I knew a girl once who had loads of friends and i used to be so jealous but the more i got to no her and heard here stories they were really *****y. constantly *****ing behind backs and fighting with each other. Id rather be alone than have that grief. I was 20 years old before i made a proper friend.

Originally Posted by danii24

I had 3 friends but 1 has drifted away now ive really only 2 friends. 6 years ago when i was pregnant with my son i had no friends at all really none. Then i made a friend and had only 1 friend for two years. its hard to make friends and even harder to make good friends. Dont hate yourself and think your odd for this.

I knew a girl once who had loads of friends and i used to be so jealous but the more i got to no her and heard here stories they were really *****y. constantly *****ing behind backs and fighting with each other. Id rather be alone than have that grief. I was 20 years old before i made a proper friend.

Thanks for your reply. I suppose you're right. I'm okay to not have much friends.

[danii24]

once the friends you have are true friends then yes u are lucky, but its ok to ask. i often wonder b4 was i a loner or why have i less friends than others then i relised that i was luckly to have few proper friends. Its one of the reason that i nvr wantd to join facebook because its just a popularity contest like most things are

Originally Posted by danii24

once the friends you have are true friends then yes u are lucky, but its ok to ask. i often wonder b4 was i a loner or why have i less friends than others then i relised that i was luckly to have few proper friends. Its one of the reason that i nvr wantd to join facebook because its just a popularity contest like most things are

I have a few good friends but some are from where I live and from other countries. I deactivated my facebook because it's boring and a waste of time. I can understand what you are saying. People on there have about 1,000 friends and they don't know half of them.

[Merlin]

The important thing isn't the number of friends you have but the quality of the friends you do have.

Originally Posted by Merlin

The important thing isn't the number of friends you have but the quality of the friends you do have.

You're right

[danii24]

absolutely its the biggest waste of time and people spend aldy on fbk i hate it

Originally Posted by danii24

absolutely its the biggest waste of time and people spend aldy on fbk i hate it

I agree with you. I hate it too.

[OurLadysTears]

Growing up I use to have a few close friends and those are the people that I have kept in contact with throughout the years, but it is very distant. At this point, I wouldn't even consider them friends anymore. I literally have no one that I am close to or no one that really knows me. I consider myself a loner too. I stay in every weekend when others have things to do and people to see. It gets lonely and I'm sure at some point it will have to change, because humans just can't function normally without some sort of close human interaction. I'm not ready for that change yet and maybe you aren't there yet either. Take these moments to sort through your feelings and realize what you have to work on to change. In the meantime, we are all here for you and friends! *hugs*

[Sunna]

Hiya Happycheeks. Yes, it is ok. You have just a few, I have just a few, many many people have just a few. Some are ok with it, some wish they had more. In either case you can enjoy the few that you have without having to worry if maybe you should have more. As we go through life we see friendships fade, and we find opportunities to make new ones. It's just how it is.

You may have hard time making friends right now because you are shy and sensitive at this point in your life, and you do not feel confident interacting with people. If this is how you are right now, that's ok. But you may change.

And there could be other reasons people have so few friends. I know people who had almost no friends in high school because of the highly competitive, cliquish and mean environment, but as they moved to a college everything changed, everyone was ok, and they discovered that making friends was easy and natural.

So when you feel lonely, do not "console" yourself with stories that you are born to be lonesome loner, that you are doomed to live friendless, or try to "explain" why you are alone by berating yourself for not being good enough. These are not true, and even thinking them hurts, and if you believe them you will tend to act accordingly. Instead, I would like to encourage you to relax into now. Accept that it is, what it is, but also allow things to change tomorrow or next week, next month, next year.

And you'll always have friend here. Yes?

[ace18]

I have barely any friends, but I don't think it is any way a testiment to anyone's character. Sometimes I feel like its all for a reson--like a inner self journey to feel ok by myself and grow from within without being codependent to anyone else.
Just because you don't have friends now, doesnt mean you will never have them..most things are worth the wait. Take this time to focus on yourself and what YOU enjoy to do!

Originally Posted by Sunna

Hiya Happycheeks. Yes, it is ok. You have just a few, I have just a few, many many people have just a few. Some are ok with it, some wish they had more. In either case you can enjoy the few that you have without having to worry if maybe you should have more. As we go through life we see friendships fade, and we find opportunities to make new ones. It's just how it is.

You may have hard time making friends right now because you are shy and sensitive at this point in your life, and you do not feel confident interacting with people. If this is how you are right now, that's ok. But you may change.

And there could be other reasons people have so few friends. I know people who had almost no friends in high school because of the highly competitive, cliquish and mean environment, but as they moved to a college everything changed, everyone was ok, and they discovered that making friends was easy and natural.

So when you feel lonely, do not "console" yourself with stories that you are born to be lonesome loner, that you are doomed to live friendless, or try to "explain" why you are alone by berating yourself for not being good enough. These are not true, and even thinking them hurts, and if you believe them you will tend to act accordingly. Instead, I would like to encourage you to relax into now. Accept that it is, what it is, but also allow things to change tomorrow or next week, next month, next year.

And you'll always have friend here. Yes?

Thank you for your reply. I do have friends here and always will

Originally Posted by OurLadysTears

Growing up I use to have a few close friends and those are the people that I have kept in contact with throughout the years, but it is very distant. At this point, I wouldn't even consider them friends anymore. I literally have no one that I am close to or no one that really knows me. I consider myself a loner too. I stay in every weekend when others have things to do and people to see. It gets lonely and I'm sure at some point it will have to change, because humans just can't function normally without some sort of close human interaction. I'm not ready for that change yet and maybe you aren't there yet either. Take these moments to sort through your feelings and realize what you have to work on to change. In the meantime, we are all here for you and friends! *hugs*

Thank you. At least I'm not alone

[filensave]

I have friends, people I can hang out with when I am at school, or at one of my after school events, and we have fun, but I don't have a close friend that I can tell anything remotely personal or serious to. I used to but they've either left or I deal with their problems so much they know nothing about me anymore. I feel lonely and sad about it a lot, it would be awesome to have someone to talk to but I guess its better to have no one than people who don't care, notice, or aren't really there for you. I just keep hope in me that in college, or my job, I will find someone to just be a great friend. Meanwhile PC helps a lot

Welcome to the Community, Erin. I wish you well.

[Rose76]

I've always believed that my depression is a symptom, not a primary disorder. I am depressed because I am lonely. Like you, I've had few friends in my life. I believe I suffer from social anxiety. Also, I think I am a loner. The two are not the same. A loner is not someone who doesn't want others in his/her life. But a loner does tend to want contact with others to be on his/her own terms. Friendship takes a lot of compromise. Loners don't care for that very much.

Friendship comes only at a price. One price is that a friend will, sooner or later, become annoying. And that will happen recurrently. To maintain friendship, one has to accept that and be willing to put up with that. I tend to avoid what annoys me. So I tend to avoid people. Partly it's anxiety that I will face rejection or negative judgement. But it's also due to my judgement of others. To a great extent, I kind of don't really want to be bothered. It's a lot of work to nurture a friendship. I am kind of lazy, in that respect.

I think being human means needing friendship in your life. In my case, I think I have to be willing to make more of an effort. Also, I have to not let my over-sensitive reaction to any negative feedback control me. It's okay for others to get annoyed with me. It's inevitable. I'm human. All humans are annoying from time to time to anyone whom they spend much time with.

[loveangelmusicbaby]

hey im brand-new here. i feel the same way but the few friends i have are either potheads or dont ever attempt to make plans w/ me :I sigh..

Originally Posted by ace18

I have barely any friends, but I don't think it is any way a testiment to anyone's character. Sometimes I feel like its all for a reson--like a inner self journey to feel ok by myself and grow from within without being codependent to anyone else.
Just because you don't have friends now, doesnt mean you will never have them..most things are worth the wait. Take this time to focus on yourself and what YOU enjoy to do!

Thanks for your advice

Originally Posted by filensave

I have friends, people I can hang out with when I am at school, or at one of my after school events, and we have fun, but I don't have a close friend that I can tell anything remotely personal or serious to. I used to but they've either left or I deal with their problems so much they know nothing about me anymore. I feel lonely and sad about it a lot, it would be awesome to have someone to talk to but I guess its better to have no one than people who don't care, notice, or aren't really there for you. I just keep hope in me that in college, or my job, I will find someone to just be a great friend. Meanwhile PC helps a lot

Pc does help ^_^ I have good friends on here.