Vette???

Missing you and hoping all is well.

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Heather

"Life is the art of drawing without an eraser."
~~author unknown

Hey man, just a word... or two... or three? No, not THOSE three Vett...

We just wanna know you're OK, friends can be a pain in the butt sometimes. But we're such a loveable group

bp

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

Thank you Heather and bp for thinking about me. I haven't been in a really "good place" lately. A bit overwhelmed with the situation I have created in my life. Still awefully heart broken over the loss of my true love and best friend. And terribly frightened to be totally honest with you.

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Take good care of yourself and if ever you feel less frighten to open up, we will be here for you.

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We are always here for you - never forget that ok? Please take care.


Heather

"Life is the art of drawing without an eraser."
~~author unknown

Heather...

I know you are there for me. I truely appreciate that. I am simply heartbroken as a result of the loss of the relatiosnhip as was in. And, to make matters worse she dispises me, which I can understand intellectually. But, on an emotional level she does not have any understanding of the pain I am going through. She treats me like I don't exist, like we never spent any time together. We were together over 2 years. I wanted so much to spend the rest of my life with her. And now this women ignores me, shares the most intimate details of my life with her friends (some that work with me).... the guilt and shame keep me up every night... I am tormented relentlessly with nightmares (all nightmares relating to my acting out or involving terrible things with my children) Sleep evades me yet all I want to do when I get home is crawl into bed. I worry endlessly about losing my job over this as she intimated that retaliation could be in order. I know I did wrong and deserve to be punished. I brought all this on myself.

Hey Vett,

I'm glad you checked in, thanks for that. I hope you don't mind that we're going to chech up on you once in awhile? I know this pain you're going thru hurts like hell, and a lot of us here wish we could take some of it on ourselves to make it a bit easier for you, but we can't. But I'm betting you that someday, someone or something is going to come along and fill that void that you have in you right now.

I think the first step you need to take is to stop beating yourself up over this. What's done is done, and you can't change it. But what you did doesn't make you a bad person, you made a bad choice. Unfortunately, sometimes we pay heavy prices for bad choices. But until you can start to cut yourself some slack, you'll never be able to move on. You're good people, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that.

And someday you'll meet someone, and your hearts will be a perfect fit. You'll know all the right things to do, and the wrong things. And if I'm right, I expect an invitation to the wedding...

We really do care about you, you know?

bp

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

Vett, I hate to rub salt in the wound, but have you thought about how much pain she is in?? She didn't just blow you off and the relationship you had. I'm sure she feels very betrayed. Granted, she's shown her pain in some immature ways, but maybe you need to think about how she's feeling and not quite so much on how you are feeling. It helps a whole bunch when we think of others some and not quite so much of ourselves.

I just brought that up in hopes that it helps you get out of yourself a bit.

I really hope that things start getting better for you real soon.

Sept...

I think of how she is feeling each and every day. I worry so much about her. I just wish there was something I could do for her. But, the best thing to do is to make sure that I am not in her life any longer. So that is what I am going to do.

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I wish there was something I could do or say to make things better for you. I do know that when you do come out of this you are going to be so much stronger than you ever were. You need to reach inside and tug on that strength that is hidden in there. Look at all that you have gone through your whole life. You are here right? Draw on that strength vette - I know you can do it.

Just another quick thought here too....some women - and I am stressing "some" - get pleasure out of seeing a man hurt, down and out. Do you think she is keeping this going because she is getting something out of it herself? It is giving her the control that obviously is enjoying or she would have moved on too. That is petty to me vette - I know a woman like that and it drives me batty. She gets enjoyment seeing her former bf in such pain. I don't know how people like that sleep at night.

You are a great person vette - please draw on that strength you have deep inside you. There is going to be a very lucky woman out there that is worthy of you. Keep working on you and soon you will find her.


Heather

"Life is the art of drawing without an eraser."
~~author unknown

Heather...

Do I think that some of the things my ex girl friend did were purposeful to hurt me? Absolutely. There was no reason for her to tell all her friends. And, no reason to make sure that I knew about it. Further, she has made it very clear that retaliation is possible. At one point she even billed me for all the expenses in our relationship and if I didn't pay her she was going to blow me in to my boss. So clearly she does have an evil streak.

People behave out of character when stressed. What is frustrating to me is that it is OK for her to act inappropriately when stressed but I am still the villain. The actions I took were a direct result of severe stress and depression. Admittedly I pushed her to her limits I am sure. But, I had no malicious intent. And, I do love her so very much. But, all that gets lost. I guess it is the bigger person that can look past the mistakes and see someone's inner beauty. To be able to stick with it for the long haul. What is frustrating to me is that I was good enough to be with her to be her companion when she needed me but then I became expendable. I guess I got what I deserved. And, this one event more than any other has changed my life. I am just so very tired of living with this pain each and every day.

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Oh man....evil streak is right . Billing you for expenses??? Oh vette....gosh I am sorry.

I hope that you are staying in touch with your doctor? Are you on medications? Maybe it is something to look into and if you are...maybe a change is in order. I believe that if something is not working...change it......famous words of Dr Phil It is true though. Let me know if there is anything I can do ok?


Heather

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life - it goes on."
~~Robert Frost