PC is suppose to be a support site. A site for people who suffers from mental illnesses and every hurts that goes around it.

We come here to give and get help, understanding, support.

A lot of people are hiding here for different reasons. Bondaries are up. Protecting self is high. Silence is a coping skill?

I know we can get a lot of imformation just by reading. But if we all do that we might as well just make a search on the internet.

I think that if we all just read and not post, reply, give and get, this site will eventually vanish. What I'm saying here it is by participing together in something that we do make it work and that we do feel like we have a place where we can belong. PC can be this but only if we all do this together in a respecting way.

There I said it.

Have a great day everyone!

[jmo531]

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I do agree.

[Fuzzybear]

[January]

Different people are at different points in their lives. I have been so upset and down before that I could not participate and took a sabbatical. Perhaps the folks who don't participate are in the same boat, or they just don't know how to communicate how they are feeling.

Some of us jabber more than others! I'm one of the jabberers!

Hugs,

Jan

[BlueFaith]

Yes, most people here communicate as much as they can. And some don't feel comfortable enough to post at all. I can understand that. Everyone gives in their own way and in their own time. It's ok with me if people don't post. I know there were times when I could read, but didn't know what to say. And there were other times when I was not emotionally or mentally able to respond at all. I appreciate everyone here for doing what they can. And, I also just happen to be one of the "jabberers" here, too!!!

Love, Jenn

I didn't post this to judge anyone.

I don't judge anyone and I certainly don't have the right to do that. I just would like this site to work.

If my post is upsetting people and you feel you are being attack, it certainly is not the goal of this post. I'm sorry if you are taking this the wrong way.

Just forget about the whole thing. I am just trying here. That's all.

[Fuzzybear]

I didn't see it as a judgement! (not sure that anyone else who posted did either, I think they were stating their opinions respectfully ....... not always so easy to do ...)

Know the feeling of trying......

Peace,
Fuzzy

[BlueFaith]

I didn't think you were judging anyone time0. I was just stating my opinion, as Fuzzy said. I didn't take it as you judging anyone, honestly. You said that you would just like this site to work. And I'm just saying that I think it DOES work. Nothing more, nothing less. And, I certainly don't feel attacked by you... heck, you're one of the most caring, sweet people I know around here.

Love, Jenn

[DocJohn]

I also didn't see you judging anyone, time0, or anyone attacking you or feeling attacked...

The truth is, hundreds of people visit our community everyday. Some choose to make it their home for a time, to get or give support, and others choose not to.

Some of those who do become members, well, we hope they find a way to share with others when they feel ready to do so. Some people might be here for days or even weeks before opening up even just a little. It's scary to do so, and you want to feel like if you do open up, someone isn't going to come down on you or misconstrue your post. After being hurt by others, it can be hard to take that first step (I think we all know what that feels like).

I do hope people see that most of the people here are caring, thoughtful and open people who come here to help others (and themselves).

Take care,
DocJohn

"It's scary to do so, and you want to feel like if you do open up, someone isn't going to come down on you or misconstrue your post. After being hurt by others, it can be hard to take that first step (I think we all know what that feels like).

I do hope people see that most of the people here are caring, thoughtful and open people who come here to help others (and themselves). "

Exactly.

[Fuzzybear]

I third that

[hillbunnyb]

One of the biggies for me, in feeling safe here at PC, is that I trust you all to give me "the benefit of doubt" ie, room to be where I am in a given moment. To trust that you won't take it personally if I am not posting responses. To trust that you know I care about you from the times when I can post and say it in words.

For me PC is a safe place to learn how to take care of myself without falling into guilty thinking. My limitations are so intrusive to 3D relationships, mostly because others can't/won't imagine the insidious weight of what I'm dealing with..... for instance: being upright hurts me. My "stuff" goes downhill from there..... who wants to go there with me? Too depressing/scarey to contemplate.

But, here at PC, we've all got our "stuff", understand "stuff", accept that "stuff" is unpredictable. "Stuff" is what this site is made of, "stuff" is not only acceptible, it's expected. How cool is that?

TimeO sweetie, you don't have to "take everything back" you didn't do anything wrong. There is no problem. You are not in trouble. I value your opinions. OK?

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{Time0}}}}}}}}}}}} I see your post as a gentle ENCOURAGEMENT to those who haven't found the courage to post yet or to those who have stopped posting for one reason or another.

I know for a fact that you have been at a place where you can't find the courage to post and have shared that fear with me in private. You have found your courage again. For you, it's been an ongoing battle to find that courage and start posting more and to continue posting regardless of how your posts have been interpreted. I applaud you for having the courage to start this thread!!

[Fuzzybear]

I think it's a good thread. I also applaud you for starting it!

As you know I share some of your struggles

Bearhugs,
Fuzzy

--- with Tomi and Fuzzybear!!

mandy

[Lexicon78]

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[radio_flyer]

I guess I am guilty for being a "silent" member here.. Being here almost three years with 313 posts. I have many problems but what I have found that talking about them makes it worse for me, so when things get rough for me, I peek in here and somehow get grounded just by reading. I don't have many answers to a lot of the problems folks post about here is why I don't respond. I guess that is a poor excuse. Maybe I am just the quiet type.. I am harmless tho.

I like this place. A lot of wonderful people here. Maybe someday I can participate more. Time will tell ...

Maybe you nailed it about me with your comments, "Bondaries are up. Protecting self is high. Silence is a coping skill?." Seems I am all three. Anyway, your post is a good post, made me think about why I am here .

[Fuzzybear]

I often feel like hiding myself even though I have made a lot of posts

I just typed out quite a long post, but realised it sounded "paranoid" so deleted it.

I am glad you are here though!

Take care,
Fuzzy

[jmo531]

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[radio_flyer]

ty ((((((((( fuzzy )))))))) and (((((( jmo )))))

[ozzie]

I've done more posting than anyone here. I'm not bragging, just stating a fact. I was pretty good at giving support. I'm not very good at asking for it. When I do ask for it, I frequently feel let down both here and irl. So.....I took a break.......because I wasn't in a position to give support. I think a lot of us need to do that at times. I'm not even sure if my break is over........

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

Same here Ozzie.....I know of a few posters who feel let down and frustrated at not being supported back...I am burnt out on supporting ..that's why some of us are very quiet anymore

[eskielover]

I know that right now, I don't know from day to day when I am going to wake up with an anxiety attack that has me frozen. I have so many things that need to be done but IRL, it was exactly 1 year ago when my Mother died from cancer & the visions I lived through last year are haunting me minute by minute right now. It scares me when I wake up & can't do anything but pull the blanket over my head & stay there all day. I have responsibilities that I have with feeding & caring for 37 horses daily & when I can't get out of bed, someone else has to take over & being a responsible person, I then have a horrible guilt feeling on top of the anxiety attacks.

It is too tough right now to do much of anything. I hate to replay what I am going through.....it has been heard enough......I have a hard time supporting when I feel full of my own issues.

I would imagine others may be in a similar situation.....but silence is about all I am good at right now.....being wrapped up in my own world.

Your post is good....& wish that we could all be in a good place all the time......only I think that is impossible with all the issues we all have.

Debbie

i think it can be hard to find a balance between give and take.

if you give give give all the time...
if you put others before yourself all the time...

then burnout is inevitable.

if you take take take all the time...
then other people will reach their limit...
and they might come to avoid you, however.

balance can be tricky.

sometimes...

other people don't support us in the way we might need / like.

sometimes it is because of their stuff (and they are unable to at that time)

sometimes...

it is because they really don't see that that is what we are needing.

give and take...

it is hard to find that balance...
it is something i have to be mindful of in my interactions too...