Help--Triggery

I remembered that someone was triggered by all caps so I didn't use them! This really is an all caps situation, though! Sorry if I don't post to anyone right now but I'm really too upset to do that at this point. Something really awful, terrible, and horrific happened tonight.

We were all having a good time at my dad's. It was me, my bf, my dad, my step-sister, her 2 little boys, and her bf. I was actually beginning to think that it was gonna be a nice get-together. Boy was I ever wrong! My step-sister and her oldest child, who is 8, were playing around. She was too rough with him. As usual. She hurt him and he started crying. Then she started to scream at him and said if he was gonna do that then he better go outside. Well, the poor kid couldn't stop and couldn't get up as quick as she deemed necessary. So she started screaming at him more, calling him names, threatening him...all of that. She was holding him down, hurting him more and more. Both she and her boyfriend were telling him to quit acting like a baby. What the hell are you supposed to do when you're being abused...laugh? I'd be crying too. Well, it just went from bad to worse. I couldn't take it anymore. So I went into the next room, the laundry room, and started crying uncontrollably. I couldn't stop. That poor little boy, my nephew, was only playing and being a child. He was later told to apologize and he had no idea why he was apologizing. I sat right there and watched everything...he did NOTHING wrong...she's the one that should've apologized. When her bf told her too cool off she wouldn't and they started fighting and eventually took it outside for about an hour. That's when I collected myself and ran straight to that little boy! I held him in my arms, asked him if he was ok and if he needed anything. If I could've I would've taken those children and ran away from there right then and there! I have no license, no vehicle, so that's an impossibility.

I am so afraid of what's gonna happen to those kids when they get home. I can't get to town until Tuesday and I'm gonna go in personally and report all of this. I can't allow this to go on...not with anyone's child. It is the public's responsibility to report this kind of stuff. People just want to turn their backs on this kind of thing a lot of the time, but I can't. He's my nephew, and a child. He needs to be protected...both of the children do.

I'm not very good at dealing with this kind of thing. If anyone has any websites or anything like that that I can look at could you please put them in your post or PM them to me?

If someone even raises their voice to me, I start crying and back off...I get so scared...so I wouldn't be able to defend anyone, let alone myself. I just can't handle this kind of thing.

Hi,
I don't really have any websites or resources handy, I'm sorry.

But what an awful experience. I'm so sorry that you had to witness that. I'm sure it was horribly upsetting. Still, your nephew is a very lucky boy that you were there and could offer him comfort and love. Imagine if he went the whole night without you showing him he's okay and he is loved. You did a very good thing there. (((((Lexicon)))))

I hope that when you get back you are able to take care of what you need to do. It sounds like a terrible situation to be in. Take care of yourself, too.

gg

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lexi}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Welcome to the club; mine! I was witness to an abuse similar to what you witnessed. It was my daughter and her then four year old boy. I had basically the same reaction as you did. I went outside and cried uncontrollably but I couldn't go to my grandson then.

Do what I did. Report those parents! They are acting out their own anger issues on that little boy and possibly his sibling. Those children need a voice that will stand up for them! You be that voice. All you have to do is make a phone call to your local Child Protective Service or Family Services.

Each State has their own laws and the Agency names vary but you can look it up in your phone book. I didn't make my call anonymous because I was ready to testify if the need had arisen, but you can make your call anonymous if you choose.

Good luck! I'm behind you all the way!

http://www.childhelpusa.org/

Try this site. You can report abuse and neglect through this site.

Lex,

I am so sorry that happened. I am sorry for the child because I know how he felt , and I am sorry for you because I can see how upset you are over this. You did the right thing by holding him in your arms and reassuring him that things are going to be ok.

Hearing this is very upsetting but I am so glad that you will be handling this.

Big Huggles to you and your nephew!!!!!

Hey Lex...
Glad you were there to support your nephew and let him know he is loved.
I hope you and your nephew are both okay this morning.

(((((((((((((( Lexi ))))))))))))))))))))
((((((((((((( Nephew ))))))))))))))))))

Report those people, Lexi. You're doing the right thing. Sometimes doing the right thing is so scary, but you can do it. I believe in you.

Hugs,

Jan