[lostone]

I'm mad, I'm hurt, I'm frusterated,, My bf doesn't understand how I feel, he doesnt' understand the anxiety the panic, how can I make him understand? ]

He tells me to snap out of it, to grow up. If it were only that eas!!! He told me that he hopes I go crazy so that I can get locked up. This isn't the first time either!!!! Happy valentines day to me !!
I wish I didn't feel sick all the time, I wish I felt happy, but most of all I wish he'd understand , or at least try................

Sorry just needed to vent

[JustBen]

This really sucks, lostone. Sorry your boyfriend doesn't understand. A lot of people just don't get it.

[lostone]

no they don't and it does suck. Usually I can just overlook peoples ignorance, but this time IT HURTS.. it seems that he can see how bad I am struggling with this, and want to help me through this, but hes just making it worse.
I am really to the point where i just don't know what to do..should I leave ,,is he making it worse for me to be in this kind of negativity,,. hmmm, so much to think about, so much to overcome,, just feel hurt and down right now,,,

Thanks for your care and concern..

[Raynaadi]

Boys. Can't live with 'em, can't shoot 'em. Don't know else to say. =) Just try to remember that people who don't suffer what you suffer, don't understand what you suffer.

[Greenleaves]

(((((((((((lostone)))))))))))))

Sorry your boyfriend isn't supportive. Maybe encourage him to read about anxiety and panic to understand it more. If he still doesn't support you, you may have to ask yourself some questions. He should be a friend and a soft place for you to fall.

[DaveyJones]

You know, Jen, there may be a support group near you that can help...When I go to support groups at my NAMI chapter there is often someone who has accompanied their loved one with a diagnosis for just this reason. I've seen the look on these folks' faces and heard the questions they ask as they begin to realize that this stuff isn't imaginary, and that they have not been there for the one they care about. It's very powerful.

So, you might call your local NAMI (www.nami.org) or DBSA (http://www.dbsalliance.org/) and see what they have to offer. Good luck...this stuff isn't fun alone, and it's even worse with someone who is harrassing you about it.

DJ

[lostone]

Thanks DJ, I will for sure check those out!! I have to do something.. if he doesn't get it soon, I'm afraid of where we'll be, but thats a whole different subject!!

Anyway thanks for the advice and concern.. really means alot

[pegasus]

lostone,
I can't tell you what to do,but it does not sound like your boyfriend is very supportive at all!

You said, "He told me that he hopes I go crazy so that I can get locked up..."
That does'nt sound like someone who cares for you.

In my opinion I think you should seriously consider whether this relationship is any good for YOU.

Thinking of you.

[Lexicon78]

I don't know what I'd do if someone I loved and cared about said those things to me. It would kill me. I think pegasus made a good point that you need to look whether this guy is really right for you.

Although my bf is not the most understanding person in the world, he does try and does support me as much as he can.

If what your bf is saying is only a chip of what he says/does to you, please reconsider this relationship. It doesn't sound like he even cares that much about you, IMO.

Take care and do what is right for YOU.

[lostone]

TY all for your replies, for your concern. I know what I should do, its just REALLY hard when you love someone, and they don't even seem to care, 7 yrs is along time to be there. Knowing that I am suffering SOOOOO much right now, and that he is everything but supportive HURTS me more than I can say. Just don't know how I can do this....

[Rhapsody]

Dear Lostone,

The best way I found to help my husband understand my anxiety/ phobia and how it was truly effecting me was to open up and to be honest with him each time I had an attack (I held nothing back, the good & the bad).... and it helped to explain how it controlled my life and how its fear keeps me trapped - a prisoner with in my own house and mind.

Good Luck.... ((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

P.S.
VENT away and never worry about needing to....