[AmadeusApple]

I hate my job so much.
A long time ago I posted about my call center job and I am kicking myself in the face (figuratively) that I left and went to work in retail.
My boss is a freaking JERK.
And a bit delusional.

He has in his mind that the whole time I've been working there I've been trying to hand my shifts off to other people, even though that's only been happening for about a month because I've been ill.

He pretty much suggested that because I've been ill for about a month that I'm faking it.

He tells me that I need to grow up, and get my own place... which may be true, but may not necessarily be feasible. And definitely wouldn't be possible with what he pays me.
I cry when he's being a jerk to me, and that also means that I need to "grow up."

He doesn't even have the nerve to fire me, so he schedules me for 8 hours in a full pay period.

He makes me sign out for a break if I need one, but smokers get a 5 minute paid break every 2 hours. Discrimination much? Having me sign out for 15 minutes saves him about a $1.75 (dear me, such money. Unfortunately there are no break laws here, so it's perfectly legal for him to do that).

He never schedules people for enough hours so that they can get the company's insurance.

He acts like I've never worked, that all I've done the whole time I've been there is sit behind the cash register.

He doesn't follow through on telling on scheduling me for two days in a row off. Well, I guess he does now since he scheduled me to work one day.

Yes, I'm searching for a new job.

He flat out tells me that he wouldn't have hired me if it hadn't been for the recommendation of someone I didn't even know that was hired after me (the delusional part enters in here...)
And tells me I'm the worst employee he's ever had.
I'm not sure how this is supposed to motivate me in any form... or if he's just trying to push me out the door without firing me. Believe me, I'm working on going out that door as soon as I can.

..... ok, I feel better now.
Had to get that out.

ah crappy bosses...

did you bring him a dr note?

what i did with my crappy bosses like that was i just smiled at them..every time they did something annoying & tried to be a jerk...i smiled.

none of his business where you live...let him know that. period. you could be living in the biggest cardboard box as long as you show for work clean & ready to go none of his business.

get a little notepad & document when you ask for a shift change etc. date & time..exact words. then what he says.
when he makes comments that are wrong..do same. says you are the worst ever. yup..

when he asks why just tell him you feel the need to remember everything...when he says you can't do that at work...say fine. just carry a piece of paper & do it.

you do not have to show it to him.

you need the job but not the bs.

he isn't there to motivate you...basically he needs you to work your shifts what ever they may be & do your job.

it sounds like if you aren't full time you probably don't have many options..but i would get a dr's note for sure to get him off your back...& don't cry...nothing says weak like crying...it shows him that you are fodder for his abuse.

if you need time off for dr appts etc present him with appt cards so that he can see that..just don't go in & say...i won't be here on _________

good luck..sounds like he is a jerk with poor people skills...but you also have to remember that he is running a business & needs to have employees present to do so..

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by AmadeusApple

I hate my job so much.
A long time ago I posted about my call center job and I am kicking myself in the face (figuratively) that I left and went to work in retail.
My boss is a freaking JERK.
And a bit delusional.

He has in his mind that the whole time I've been working there I've been trying to hand my shifts off to other people, even though that's only been happening for about a month because I've been ill.

He pretty much suggested that because I've been ill for about a month that I'm faking it.

He tells me that I need to grow up, and get my own place... which may be true, but may not necessarily be feasible. And definitely wouldn't be possible with what he pays me.
I cry when he's being a jerk to me, and that also means that I need to "grow up."

He doesn't even have the nerve to fire me, so he schedules me for 8 hours in a full pay period.

He makes me sign out for a break if I need one, but smokers get a 5 minute paid break every 2 hours. Discrimination much? Having me sign out for 15 minutes saves him about a $1.75 (dear me, such money. Unfortunately there are no break laws here, so it's perfectly legal for him to do that).

He never schedules people for enough hours so that they can get the company's insurance.

He acts like I've never worked, that all I've done the whole time I've been there is sit behind the cash register.

He doesn't follow through on telling on scheduling me for two days in a row off. Well, I guess he does now since he scheduled me to work one day.

Yes, I'm searching for a new job.

He flat out tells me that he wouldn't have hired me if it hadn't been for the recommendation of someone I didn't even know that was hired after me (the delusional part enters in here...)
And tells me I'm the worst employee he's ever had.
I'm not sure how this is supposed to motivate me in any form... or if he's just trying to push me out the door without firing me. Believe me, I'm working on going out that door as soon as I can.

..... ok, I feel better now.
Had to get that out.

I wish I had a better understanding of the psychology of work situations, but I will offer what I have observed and maybe some others will add their thoughts and all of it will help you going forward through your work-life. There are some people in managerial (supervisory) positions who will say and do all sorts of things that are not right, blatantly unfair, potentially actionable, and most likely to get them a punch in the snoot someday. But because there is no one to stop them, they will continue to say and do these things. A boss telling you to "grow up" and "get your own place" is being entirely too personal. If you are a minor, you should be telling your parents what is going on. What happens if you stand up to this person? Does he talk to you in private or in front of other people? If you don't know whatever protection you have as a worker where you live, please find out as soon as possible. I hope you find a good job soon.

Toxic Work Environments totally SUCK ... !!! ... Sorry you're in one ... I'd utilize my free time to look for another position with another company ... I know jobs are tough to find right now, so don't let this one go until you find another ... Then once you're free and clear of this AssTwit ... Write it off as a life experience ... At least you know where you stand on what you will and will not tolerate out of another human being ...

Sincerely,
BC

[Open Eyes]

Depending on where you live, often a boss will want an employee to quit so they cannot collect unemployment. It sounds like he is so cheap that he wants you to quit. Try not to give him any more of your private life so he can critisize you about it.

Your boss may be an unhappy person himself, not happy with his job either and takes it out on others.

Sorry you have to deal with his issues. Do your best, try to not give him anything else to pick on and look around for another job if you can.
((((Hugs))))
Open Eyes

[beta]

Gosh! It's none of his business whether you need to grow up or not! It sounds as if he's just a bully who likes making people feel bad, so you should really change the job!!! Really!

Not only is he being mean to you but he is also abusing his position of power to treat you in humiliating ways. Don't even consider looking for faults in yourself. You might have plenty of them but it is NOT your boss' business to judge your personality. If he's not happy with the work you are doing - he can just fire you, not make a fool of you.

[CastlesInTheAir]

Bad boss. I would actually say that's borderline harassment. Kill him with kindness!

-Trish
"Don't curse the rain, without it things don't grow. Instead find the beauty in it."

true..smile at a crappy boss...it makes them crazy...don't accept what they are saying but smile...be nice.

what can they say? you smiled back at at them???

it's one of the things my crazy mother taught me to do...fight the good fight....someone is treating you like crap at work, neighbor etc..document (ok well uncle sam taught me that part) & smile....a crazy lopsided but big goofy smile...you do your work so your performance is fine but you smile.

makes the bullies insane....& then they start making critical mistakes & then you own them.

[fortythree]

First, I am so sorry - and I've been there - and it's hell. Having bipolar disorder, it was often hard enough just to get myself there in the first place.

One store manager came in and during his first year, somehow found reasons to fire or force out every employee who had been there for seven years, since the store opened.

One restaurant manager expected me to fill in and do my supervisor's job after he quit. I wasn't trained for my supervisor's job, but he still was furious when I made a mistake. As soon as a new supervisor came in, he cut me from 40 hours to 8 hours. Two four-hour days.

Other managers would have treated both of these situations differently. It's entirely a personal thing.

One thing that helped me: when I was at worked and feeling anxious or upset, I would breath in four counts and out eight counts. It did help and no one notices.

Hope you find something better soon. I'll be thinking about you.

[AmadeusApple]

Originally Posted by stumpy

he isn't there to motivate you...basically he needs you to work your shifts what ever they may be & do your job.

This is true, but demotivating me serves no purpose for either of us.
There's no pep talk or a feeling of wanting to improve if you're being yelled at and being told you're the worst employee someone has ever had.

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

Depending on where you live, often a boss will want an employee to quit so they cannot collect unemployment. It sounds like he is so cheap that he wants you to quit. Try not to give him any more of your private life so he can critisize you about it.

I suppose I should have seen that coming with the pay rate.

I'm definitely ready to return to my roots in the call center.
Hindsight would be a very nice thing.
If I had been thinking logically I should have seen the hindsight in a situation where someone pays $7.50 an hour, though.
I never thought I'd say it, but I truly regret leaving my other job for a job I thought would be more emotionally stable.
Perhaps I'm just so emotionally unstable that there's no such thing? Heh.