I am never going to get out of this mess...

I feel like I am never going to get out of this mess.

Today, after finally hoping I was going to be stable at least a bit financially, We found out our missing roomate who has not come home for two weeks is not coming back and not paying his rent this month.

I now have only a few days to come up with his 300.00 when I only get 362.00 every two weeks.

I have no idea what I am going to do.
Social Assistance was supposed to get back to me yesterday and they have not. I left two messages and noone has gotten back to me and I am almost out of medication again. Does it ever end?

Really really feeling like I have been slapped in the face AGAIN.

From what you say it sounds like you didn't have anything in writing from the other person who has left? Hopefully you won't have to go through this again, since it's a hard lesson to learn. Is there anyway you can advertise to find a replacement? Maybe once social services responds, there will be some emergency monies available. Good wishes!

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well, no i didnt, the thing is they were best friends and were sharing a room - so thats the only reason we had three people to begin with.

I cant get another person unless I share my bedroom or she does.

I hope I can get ahold of social services again.

grrrrr. Squeaky wheel gets the grease... keep their phone ringing!!! TC

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How about talking to your landlord. most landlords understand when thing like this happen and eith go after the roommate that ditched out of his responsibilities or helps the person left holding the bag make up the difference in payments. for example the last time I had a roomate she ditched out of her payment and left the state into a domestic violence shelter so that she could not be located beyond DV's door. So the landlord and I talked I didn't wnt another roommate and the landlord needed his money. we came to an agreement since I was the one that advertized for the roommate it was like I was that roommates landlord. Since she could not be located I had the same responsibilities that a land lord would when their renter ditch the bills for the rental unit still had to be paid. But he took into consideration that it was a renter leaving in the night kind of thing and allowed me to make $10.00 payments on top of my usual rent until it was pait off and at that time I was on welfare with bimonthy grant payments from the local DHS so I paid my rent in two payments half on the first and half on the 15th. That way I was able to remain in the rental unit and pay back the rental "arrears" from my ex roommates ditching out on me. After that anytime I recieved a new roommate I made sure the persons name was on the rental agreement and that rental agreement spelled out very clearly that each of the renters was responsible for paying their part of the rent directly to the landlord of the building and that I would not be held responsible for the other persons portion of the rent. Basically meaning that the landlord was renting the place to two tennents not one tennet and that tennent renting out space to a roommate.

If the person vacated the property for example in the middle of the month the landlord already has that persons payment and I didn't have to take over full payment for the rental until the first of that next month. If the land lord didn't have the persons payment and it was after the first he had to go after the other person not me because my responsibility for paying my part of the rent didn't start until the 1st of the next month.

Now I don't get roommates and don't put myself into rentals that I would not be able to afford without having a roommate. Saves me ALOT of stress and problems.

Oh Rainbowzz!

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See if you can talk to your landlord. Can you possibly go down to social services in the morning and talk with someone? It might get help for you faster. Please let us know how you're doing.

Hugs,

Jan

thank you all, you bunch of darlings.

I am going to go down to social services in the morning in person. I need to get things done.

I guess the hardest thing is I JUST let my guard down and was thinking how great it was going to be to have things settled, and then wham, right back where I started.

One thing I can tell you is, sue that jerk who left you high and dry! You're entitled to the rent he owes. Don't let him get away with it.

I'm so sorry that things aren't going well for you...once again!

Please try to hang in there.

oh my god, guys the man they assigned me to is MEAN

I was in tears on the phone.

This morning when I called i was told he only works from 9-11 in the office. So, I kept calling and I left three messages. Well when I finally got him he tripped out on me on the phone giving me this "this is how our system works and I dont appreciate it when you leave multiple messages because it JUNKS UP MY MACHINE!" SO anyways I explained why and he said "I know but still one message is enough" Well, I have been leaving messages for three days and noone has gotten back to me!

Anyways now he scheduled a visit for this afternoon which means that I will be here alone with him and I am freaking out because on on hand if I dont let him come out, I might not get assistance. IF I do i will be here alone with him and god knows what could happen. I am really really really scared.. he was so mean whats he going to be like when he sees my horridly messy apartment

I havent slept yet and Im having really really negative thoughts, everything is spiraling out of my control.. I dont mean to rant guys Im sorry im just panicking..

Hang in there hon, leave the door open when he comes, grab a neighbor, borrow a dog....... I hope you pass inspection, I wish there was some other way to get help....... breath breath breath. Keep us posted ok?

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I am a bit calmer after a good cry. It always works out that way. I mean it wouldnt be so bad if I had of had some notice, but I dont. The house is destroyed because i just havent been able to keep up with housework.

but maybe that will work to my benefit. I mean they certainly cant reject me based on housework can they?

I will be sitting as close to the door as possible. Im probably completely off my rocker (actually, i know im off my rocker - thank god for a sense of humor) and he probably is harmless I just (and dont any men take this personally) have a huge issue with men in positions of power and the thought of being interrogated by a man about this in my messy house is just frightening.

I am getting by though. I should probably try and rest a couple of hours so I may not get back until after this afternoon but who knows, if I cant sleep I am going to try and at least do other things.

It just seems like its getting worse, not better

a small cloud with silver lining.

Cory is getting off work early to come directly here so i will not be alone when the guy gets here in case he is unnecessarily mean to me.

Thank GOD.

I literally entertained the idea of running away breifly I was so scared. At least this way I will know if it goes badly and i fall apart I have a safety net to fall back on. Corys smart, he knows what to do when I have a... spell, we will call it.

Still scared though and just .. ugh.

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I am so glad Cory is coming to be with you. A lot of us who have been abused are afraid of people in power even if they are in a good mood, much less a bad one.

Please let us know how your interview goes. I'm sending good vibes and prayers your way.

Hugs,

Jan

well its over.

he was an old man, with beady little eyes, and I didnt like him one bit. he was unnecessarily harsh and kept complaining about how he couldnt make exceptions because of the huge caseload he has and how it is my responsibility to find a fax machine as he couldnt accept my emails for stuff they needed.(in this case, a bank statement) well, I dont have a phone and all i have is the net, so every other worker has done that for me - but whateve. I felt too that he was sort of looking for reasons why I shouldnt get assistance, everytime I would try to answer a question he would rudely cut me off and throw something at me to counter it.

I will write more later, but it is over for now. I do have to go in at ten am tomorrow morning (ugh) Thank you EVERYONE for listening to me. I made it through the day. Boy, social services is definetly not there to make you feel better, I will tell you that!

Rainbowzz, find out who this guy's supervisor is then file a formal complaint! They're not supposed to treat you like that! This guy is WAY off base!!!

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I thought how he acted was unnecessary. I mean, I understand our system is overloaded and he may be frustrated but I am a human being who feels badly enough about having to ask for help in the first place, and i think I deserve a little bit of tact and I also think I should be treated with dignity. It wasn't as if I was witholding information or working against him - in fact I even said if there is anything you need id be happy to try and get it.

he said that I am right on the line for medical coverage. I get 724.00 a month from EI and apparently that is too much, even if I am labelled completely disabled. Around here they allot 285.00 a month for rent for a single person, and 190 for bills and groceries. So 475.00 a month to live off of. For disability it is a bit different, its like 535.00 for rent and 190 for bills and groceries. But, god, those are horrible amounts and I dont see how anyone could live off them. My rent alone is 370.00 now that my third roomate is gone. And to be honest, around here, thats really cheap for rent.

It really makes me sad to think that folks like me who WANT to do well keep trying and the system is set up for failure. I mean, I am not desperate or homeless yet, I know but what of all the folks who are? God...

Yeah, the system ain't easy. There are people who want to help, and there are people who don't. I know there are people who don't want to take responsibility, and they have to deal with those people, but their methods often end up hurting people who are responsible but have mental problems. They can't comprehend how stressful our conditions can be.

Rainbowzz, what is EI? I am not familiar with that terminology.

If you are disabled, you could possibly be eligible to rent an apt that is used only for the elderly and disabled. They are not the most fun places in the world, but they are govn't subsidized. It might really help you. If you need more info, send me a pm.

Hugs,

Jan

EI is canadas version of short term disability (employment insurance) they provide short term disability and also benefits if you lose your job.

I am not sure we even have government subsidized housing here, but good point nonetheless. Send the info anyways Jan, It cant hurt!

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