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#1
Jan 21, 2013, 04:55 AM
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Almost like an effort to be nice to people/family esp? Im not sure what this is about- also question sometimes if i'm just a bad person-unfeeling, selfish.. dont get me wrong i can be nice but there a lot of times i don't want to be..
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#2
Jan 21, 2013, 05:13 AM
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Hello, InfiniteSadness. Why do you think you have a difficult time being nice to people?
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#3
Jan 21, 2013, 06:40 AM
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I find that when i am stressed or tired my niceness disappears and the monster appears like a cloak engulfing me trapping the niceness somewhere deeeeeep inside.
like i know i should be more patient and understanding and grateful for help but simply can't be, so i get sharp and frustrated and impatient, and end up huffing or snapping at my carer and doing the task myself (and wont give in till it is done) eventhough i know i am unable to do it right or will end up even more tired by doing it ! |
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#4
Jan 21, 2013, 07:55 PM
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I find it hard to be nice to friends/family mostly because I have to fake being nice to d-bags at work all day, very draining. The joys of working in customer service
 A low attention span makes tolerating people a bit of an effort too.
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#5
Jan 22, 2013, 05:01 AM
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When I was growing up I was always told "I you haven't got something nice to say, don't sat anything at all".
So most of the time I am nice. If I am angry I will push it inside. Being nice is easier than dealing with the fall out another persons rejection. Silence is golden? There is a high price for holding the emotions inside. Not funny when family know all the buttons to push. |
| beauflow
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#6
Jan 22, 2013, 07:25 AM
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I find being nice is boring and I don't have the personality to be noticed when I'm being nice. I have to say something stupid or controversial or different to get attention. So nice is not easy for me either.
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| InfiniteSadness
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#7
Jan 22, 2013, 10:52 AM
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Nice =/= good.
You can be good person without being nicety nicey nice all the time. You can be smiley and nice backstaber. It's the intentition and the deeds that do count. To me nice people are those who smile all the time, never cut in lines or swear and would never do anything inapropriate (no matter how appropriate is a social construct for most of the part, hence vague and shallow). Good people may use the word f--- a lot, have "questionable" love life and be sometimes rough, but will stand up for what is right (it's actually nicedness which often prevents people from standing up for themselves and others too...). Nice people care about what would neighbours think. "good" people say that only God can judge them and believe God doesn't care for etiquette.
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| beauflow
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#8
Jan 22, 2013, 10:54 AM
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Just depends on my mood....
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#9
Jan 22, 2013, 12:07 PM
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I was always told I was the "nicest person in the world", my mother was also considered that too so i guess i had to be that way,without any thinking. When i got sick mentally i was like a lion roaring all the time cussing people out and embarrassing them too. I was doing it as i didn't want to be "Nice" anymore as i got older.I can drive you nuts!!!That's why i'm here.She taught us to keep everything inside especially when we were angry, that is hard to do. Once you learn to let steam off it is so much better, as I've learned.
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| beauflow
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| InfiniteSadness
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#10
Jan 22, 2013, 12:16 PM
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To me nice people usually come across as fake. I like people who are genuine, who say sad things when they are sad and happy things when they are happy. I no longer participate in polite conversations because they don't seem to lead to any sort of connection.
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| InfiniteSadness
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#11
Jan 22, 2013, 01:22 PM
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beads try to treat other the way we wuold liek to be treated...BUT,,,,,,,we does not trust peopls adn does not have nearso muhc patenic with ppls as we do wiht beads so yes, we definitely havenuor not nice mometns................
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#12
Jan 23, 2013, 04:35 AM
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I feel like I dont have that much "good" left in me... sadly. im miserable.
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| beadlady29, beauflow, yellowted
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#13
Jan 23, 2013, 05:27 AM
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I feel like I dont have that much "good" left in me... sadly. im miserable
i understand x |
| Anonymous37913, beadlady29
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#14
Jan 23, 2013, 03:01 PM
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i find it hard to be mean. i hate it.
since 2010 ive been practicing being mean. so far it has worked out really well for what i want. but cost me a lot of people. but at least i can say whats on my mind now.
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Jan 23, 2013, 10:46 PM
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Well I always try to be polite and I try to avoid looking angry or something. It only gets hard when people are rude. Then I whip out the sarcasm... in a nice way...
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#16
Jan 23, 2013, 11:18 PM
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I am usually very nice. However, I can be snippy or grouchy or impatient sometimes. I have been trying to keep things under control.
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| beauflow, NoCake
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#17
Jan 24, 2013, 09:23 PM
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At times yes, it's difficult for me to be nice to people. But most of the time I can remember that it's far more beneficial for me and everyone involved if I'm at least civil even if I can't always be a ray of sunshine.
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