Discussing and cussing Hot Topics............

in my mind, it is perfectly okay for us to discuss and disagree upon almost any topic that comes along. look how far we went with the Dateline thread. we all learned a lot from that thread. we learned more about the net and pedophiles.

however, i do think we need to draw the line at making fun of someone's response or just down right trying to draw them into an altercation. stating our opinions and our beliefs is healthy. i always learn something from reading about how a fellow poster feels about a "hot issue".

and more than anything else, i appreciate the fact that John lets us do this. i commend him for allowing the discussions to go as far as they do go and also for him coming in and commenting. and when he disagrees with how we're handling ourselves, it is in a gentle way. never a "i'm the decider" way. he's fair. even when he and i disagree, he's fair.

xoxoxo pat

I agree.. I don't like it when someone makes me feel bad or it feels like they are attacking me or pointing their finger at me.. why can't we all just get along... shakes me head

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I agree.. I don't like it when someone makes me feel bad or it feels like they are attacking me or pointing their finger at me.. why can't we all just get along... shakes me head

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Hmm -
Some ppl still need a certain amount of control (in all areas of their life) to remain SAFE, to have the feeling of being safe.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

i didn't start this thread to re-hash something that happened on another thread.

i gently started this thread to remind us that we can have our differences and that it is okay.

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i gently started this thread to remind us that we can have our differences and that it is okay.

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A gentle reminder is a good thing...Now I feel like I am being bashed.... I am going to start crying again....... My feelings are sooooo hurt... i am crying sooooo hard... sobbing

never a "i'm the decider" way.

LOL, this made me laugh. Have you ever watched the Daily Show?

I'm staying away from the Wal-Mart thread. I remember a thread awhile back that had to do with a certain fast food restaurant. I remember the way that one turned out.

I am glad they allow this kind of conversation here. I just hope people can handle it.

radio-flyer, i can't keep you from thinking that i bashed you. however, i'd like to point out that our relationship in the past would never indicate that i would do such a thing. i'm sorry that you're crying but i think you digressed from the intent of my thread. pat

When someone sends a person a nasty, ugly pm... does that count???? Somebody was very mean to me in pm and I don't know what to do....... I have never sent a mean pm to anyone....I am crying so hard because I thought this was a support place... If I don't agree with everything that is said here, I am called a basher... I am soo confused... I make one comment and all of a sudden I become the villain... And what was said to me in pm was the most ugly words said to me.... I am crying sooooooooo hard...........

i didn't think that we were supposed to discuss PMs in our posts. i may be wrong, but i think that is a rule.

again, i'm sorry that you're hurt. but, in the spirit of that discussion, people have their right to their opinions and feelings.

we all have different styles of posting. sometimes it helps to remember who we're reading and how they ordinarily post. i come across very bluntly and forthright. that's me. others do the same. some are timid. some are afraid to even post.

take into consideration that there are hundreds of individuals here and we all think differently. otherwise, this place would be hellishly boring.

pat

please remember why i started this thread. it was to gently help us be respectful and it wasn't put here to bring up differences, etc. pat

Yes I think your right... pm's are not to be discussed ... I was just so shocked with what was said that I didn't know what to do.... I made a mistake by mentioning the pm.... I am sorry again...... crying sooooo hard

perhaps taking a break from this would help you. sometimes i just walk away and get a fresh perspective. pat

Being respectful, in my opinion like it or not, is about being able to read a differing opinion and not instantly post a knee-jerk reactive reply towards the poster instead of the opinion. I've gotten really good at reading, replying, previewing, and canceling a post. If a mod steps in and says take it to PM, then that's what I'm going to do. If I have a problem with a poster, I contact a mod with my concerns before put them on ignore.

As many times as it's been said, there are numerous ways to keep ourselves from being triggered. If you feel like you could be triggered on any particular day, maybe the best thing to do is not enter the forums. I know there have been days (occasionally weeks) where I've had to take a break because I felt worse after coming here. I know I'm not the only one who's been in that situation.

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When someone sends a person a nasty, ugly pm... does that count???? Somebody was very mean to me in pm and I don't know what to do....... I have never sent a mean pm to anyone....I am crying so hard because I thought this was a support place... If I don't agree with everything that is said here, I am called a basher... I am soo confused... I make one comment and all of a sudden I become the villain... And what was said to me in pm was the most ugly words said to me.... I am crying sooooooooo hard...........

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I am so SORRY you are having to deal with this..... when this happened to ME I took it to the Admin & Mods.
And YES.... this is still a supportive place, it is just that emotions some times get resonated and then things are assumed that should have never been.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

It appears that this thread is bringing to the public forums a personal issue of some kind, so I'll be locking it for now.

Thanks,

KD