[gilly121]

Following on from my first post the other day about why I am here I seem to have taken a bit of a back step which I am sure is only because I have taken the bullet and admitted that I have a problem. But what problem??? Do I have a personality disorder? Am I depressed? Is there even a name for it???? Please help me I'm going to crack up.

[(JD)]

IDK but compulsive liar and attention seeker seems plenty to work on imo. Have you read in the addictions forum? I would think your behavior might fit into that forum for the time being.

What kind of medicines do you take, and how often are you in therapy? If neither of those, tell us at PC why you feel you need help now, please.

This is a support site. I don't mind giving you support as long as you don't jerk my chain. If you come here honestly and do your best to heal, we'll do fine. There are many members here that are very caring, and lying to them would hurt them greatly...also, they give much energy... we don't mind giving attention, but it's good if you can learn to give it back too.

TC!

[Lexicon78]

Have you thought about seeing someone to get a definite diagnosis?

[gilly121]

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What kind of medicines do you take, and how often are you in therapy? If neither of those, tell us at PC why you feel you need help now, please.
This is a support site. I don't mind giving you support as long as you don't jerk my chain. If you come here honestly and do your best to heal, we'll do fine. There are many members here that are very caring, and lying to them would hurt them greatly...also, they give much energy... we don't mind giving attention, but it's good if you can learn to give it back too.

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...in that case I think I'm better off just going - I haven't lied to anybody on here and have never intended to - I came to get help and to break my behaviour cycle and did say in my introduction message if people thought I wasn't welcome then say so!!! - I'm not out to bite anybody or break anybody's chain..... I thought this was a place where EVERYBODY had a problem of some kind - obviously didn't realise I had to fit the criteria..... maybe it should be stated in the rules!
As for GIVING advice/support/attention whatever you wana call it - that was my intention too - just didn't want to appear overpowering as a newcomer - what a bummer of a no win situation.

We all deserve a chance in life - obviously I don't in here though

> I haven't lied to anybody on here and have never intended to

sweet. you have as much of a right to be here as the next person. welcome to pc. hope you come to like it here. i reckon you will find friends and support if you stick around :-)

[Lexicon78]

gilly please don't leave....

[eskielover]

Please, Sky wasn't saying anything wrong.....It is important that you understant that professional help is the best way to get the understanding of what is going wrong with you.

The people here at PC are all here to get & give support on their road to getting better & healing. As we work through our problems, the support here is wonderful. But what you need to understand is that this site is here to support us on our path to the healing that our professionals pdocs, therapists, or psychologists are also helping us with. We don't have the professional answers that are necessary but we can provide the support needed to walk the path towards healing.

I hope you understand that we are not telling you that you aren't welcome....just telling you that we are only here to support....not to cure....& we are here to help you on your road to get better, not to allow you a place to lie or seek attention.

Hope you find it a good place here.......you will find everyone cares.....but this isn't a place for lies or attention seekers....but we are very glad to support you on your path to stopping your lying & attention seeking.

We care,
Debbie

[desirae]

Nobody here can really tell you that, but we can lend a listening ear and hear you out. If your really interested in a diagnoses and seeking help then I recommend a professional.

You did a very noble thing admitting this problem and Sky is right when she said this alone will be a lot to begin with. One step at a time.

I just want to reiterate something that Gilly said before:

> I might as well get straight to the point and tell you that I am trying to deal with a problem that I know I need to stop but I just can't. I haven't told anybody about my problem because I am scared about what the future will hold and mean.

Sounds to me like she took a fairly huge risk in disclosing her worries about her behaviour to us...

I think I'd be a bit afraid if I thought I acted as a 'liar' and 'attention seeker' too. In fact... I used to see myself that way. I did. And clinician's judged me to be that way too. I didn't mean to be bad :-( But I felt like I was bad an awful lot :-( Thought that I was a fairly horrible human being. Thought that there was no way in the world that other people could accept me.

I asked in the other thread what you meant about the lying...

Sounds to me like... You really want to change your behaviour but you are having trouble. You know what... Sometimes even seeing / admitting that there is a problem can be a HUGE step. Maybe it is a huge step that you have taken.

A therapist could help you sweetie. A couple dx's spring to my mind but never mind those (they never helped me and I don't see them helping others unless they need the dx to get treatment). I think a t could help you to figure ways to better get your needs met.

I hope you stick around.