[desirae]

Okay, everybody has their frustrations, and I was hoping with this thread we can get some stuff out on the table and get them solved. I know, for some reason, no names, or personal beefs between people should be mentioned....I agree with that. But if anybody feels the need to apologize or generalize a problem then we should.

I'd like to start off with my problem. My problem is I feel as though I'm sometimes invisible here, like nobody seems to care to support me, when I make an effort to support others. I also feel like sometimes my head gets bit off by mods and other members. That's just how I feel personally.

Now if this gets locked or deleted....I understand, I just wanted to say this....thanks.

[bebop]

Des I know how that feels. I think you have shown alot of growth in the past few months. I know sometimes I don't respond to your post but those times I really don't know how to. I think you are a wise young woman that has alot to give. I am really sorry you feel inviso at times. ((((((hugs)))))

[Rhapsody]

Hmm -

I am not for sure that I want to touch this one at the moment, even though I think what you are doing here is some thing that needs and should be done.
For now I wait and remain silent, as to see what the Mods / Admin think on this one before I reply any further.... for I do not need or want any more forums conflict.


LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs ))))

[desirae]

I understand

((((( desirae )))))

I'm sorry you feel invisible and uncared for.

I see you and appreciate you.

i am reluctant to just openly vent any frustrations, but hope you know your not invisible! You are appreciated here.

[Gemstone]

{{{{ Desirae }}}}}

I'm sorry you feel invisible. It hurts.

I feel the same way here sometimes. I feel like an outcast. I'm not part of the "in crowd". I feel ignored.
Sometimes this place hurts me more than helps me.

I didn't realize so many people felt ignored. There was another thread somewhere on the same lines as this. I feel really bad about people feeling ignored. I'm sorry if I didn't respond to your posts when you needed somebody to.
Des and Gem (anyone else who feels left out), try not to take it personally,
you know what they say-it's the squeaky wheel that gets the oil. Unfortunately not everyone who needs oil feels comfortable squeaking about it.
((((hugs)))))

[kimmydawn]

Possibly this thread would give us a good opportunity to discuss what we do obtain from PC as well, and what keeps us coming back?

Now if this gets locked or deleted....I understand, I just wanted to say this....thanks.

I would like to see that *not* happen as well...as is always the feeling. That is within the capability of the responders here. As I've stressed many times, having our voices heard through our posting is literally "at our fingertips". If we check our posting with the guidelines, this should be an informative thread.

Desirae, I hope you feel less invisible. That's not a good feeling anywhere.

KD

[Liv28]

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[Liv28]

Oh and (((((((DES)))))) I am sorry you are feeling this way..I see your posts all over the place and know you are a great influence on many many people..it would be a shame for you not to see this..and an even greater shame for people to ignore this!!!

[Sujin]

I have to admit I have felt ignored in the past when I have made a post and I didn't get many replies. Now I feel (and I just came to this realization a few days ago) that not everyone is going to relate to something I have to say, or even know what to say. The same for me, if I read a post and I don't know what to say or I can't relate at all, I don't say anything. I leave it up to those who can and will post something that may help the person in question.

I don't really have any beefs with PC. I think this is a wonderful site, and the only thing that bothers me is when everyone is in a state of upheaval. I realize we will not always agree on things, but hopefully we can come to a respectful understanding of eachother.

(((((((Desirae))))))) I hope that this feeling passes for you.

Sujin

Liv, you can't take it personally because there are so many people on here who are feeling ignored. NO, it's not b.s. but thank you for your support.

[Liv28]

Jax..ignore me..I let my emotions get the best of me sometimes..and thanks..

[mrb020377]

some times i dont reply to a post because i am not sure what to say.. i sometimes feel if i add what i really think, i will compound a problem.... does that make sense.... so half the time i end up pming the person with my thoughts.... so that it isnt misconstruded

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((( desirae )))))))))))))))

I just want to say that I always appreciate your posts. I tend to talk more in PM so if you ever want to talk to someone feel free to PM me.... or if not that is ok too

I understand feeling invisible.... it sucks,

Take care,
Fuzzy

Not a problem-I've been there.

[wisewoman]

Hey Des, I am here with you even if I am silent I am here.

[Fuzzybear]

[SerenitysWave]

<font color="purple"> I sometimes feel that way too.... but then I think about the times I didnt post and think why.... and realize others may have the some troubles too....

Like trying to compile my thoughts and put them into words.... That can be difficult for me and then I get frustrated with myself.....

Not understanding what is being posted and therefore not sure what to say in response....

Sometimes I fear that what I may say might be taken wrong or might be offensive, so I just decide to leave it unsaid....

Not in right mind set to be responding...

Trigger material...

There are all kinds of reasons I may not post, and that helps me to understand that others probably go thru those same feelings and thoughst and I know its not out of lack of support or concern... Not sure I am explaining this well at all....

But please know that you are cared about and appreciated here.... (((((desirae))))))
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[Sabrina]

Desirae, you are not invisible to me. I appreciate you and your posts.

[Maven]

Desirae, I'm sorry you feel like that sometimes. I do comment when I feel I can add something. However, I admit I don't read every post, and respond to fewer, often because of limited time on my part. I should be working on some things as it is, but I want to respond to posts here and elsewhere, so I try to cut down so I have more time for things I need to be doing (like switching all my accounts over to my new emails). I don't mean to ignore or hurt anyone; it's just something I have to do for me.

[desirae]

I just wanted to say that I didn't mean to point anybody out and say "hey you ignore me you jerk", it's not like that all, I just wanted to say I sometimes feel that way when I post personal problems. It may be that nobody can relate, I understand that, but just knowing people are there helps.

Mainly what I wanted to do with this thread was start a problem solver for everybody, not just me. I wanted everybody to be able to say hey, this bothers me about PC, and make some suggestions as a team.....I didn't intend for this to be all about me....I'm sorry that it seemed that way, but I do appreciate everybody's concern and sympathy.

[Rhapsody]

I would love to say.... Hey this bothers me (or hurts me) when someone does this on PC, but then it would involve talking about the issue and from what I see that is not allowed.... because someone is bound to have a problem with it (take it personally about them) - and then I would fear trouble starting up and a Mod / Admin getting after me if someone was to complain.

Big Sigh! - I feel trapped with no way out............... hoping PC will be a SAFE place again.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[LMo]

For what it's worth, I have the same issues myself.

But, that's the nature of online public forums. If this were real life, then we wouldn't get all of our friends and colleagues together to watch two of our friends who were in a dispute with each other. We'd try to handle it privately. And of course, neither person in the dispute would want the other person to talk about it with the shared friends out of fear it would be misconstrued and that they wouldn't be able to defend themself.

It's the same thing here, if you look at it that way.

If we stick to the guidelines, we should all be ok. Hang in there