[angel04]

If I hate my pdoc with the fire of a thousand suns, do you think I should stop seeing him????
Ok, that's a rhetorical question. I know I should but if I stop having regular check ins with him, I lose my therapist too. She is only allowed to see me if I have a pdoc in the same hospital so I'm going to recommend to my pdoc that he transfer me to a collegue. I hope I don't get the petulant, nose-out-of-joint reaction. I really hate this guy. He is totally unsupportive, belittling and pretty dismissive of my feelings. I wonder sometimes how he got those nice diplomas that he has on his walls.
anyway, I just wanted a rant. I'm having a stressful week.
thanks
angel

"man's belief that he is the only intelligent being has not done him good" JRR Tolkien

[FearsomeAnna]

Angel,

Absolutely change pdocs. What help is he to you if he belittles you and dismisses your feelings? Certainly that won't help you feel any better. We have a right to be treated with respect and dignity as well as the right to be listened to. Even if you do get a petulant, nose-out-of-joint reaction, well tough ***** to him. It isn't him that has to get treated, it's you so you do what you feel is best for YOU.

some of it's magic
some of it's tragic
but i had a good life all the way......
~jimmy buffett

[darkeyes]

I would highly suggest you stop seeing this guy if you hate him so much and find him of no help to you, what is the sense of seeing him, eh?
I would do what you mentioned, see about getting a different pdoc, there is nothing unusual that 2 people may not "mesh" and that may be a sign it is time to seek out another, after all it is your well being that is most important.
Rant? Rant all you want here, it is healthy to get things off your chest, reduces stress and chances of developing high blood pressure
I wish you lots of luck with this, let us know how it all goes

DE

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[dexter]

If the pdoc reacts badly to a request for a change then that is just another reason why you should change. he should have your interests at heart, and if you feel you are not "gelling" with him he should have no problem transfering you.

Since the pdoc and the t work within the same system maybe you can talk to the t about this and maybe she can arrange a transfer for you with less grief. you may prefer to face the pdoc directly, just offering another possible choice.

good luck!

-- The world is what we make of it --
-- Dave
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[bptoo]

I'm with the rest here Angel. If the man is causing you negative emotions like this, it's time to move on. I've been real lucky with my Mental Health providers, but I've changed other doctors because I didn't think we saw eye to eye, or they weren't acting in my best interest. If it's possible, I'd try to put a bit of a positive spin on things when you talk to him (I know how sweet you can be). Just tell him that you don't think that the two of you have the type of personalities that are conducive to a healthy doctor/patient relationship. Or at least if you can say something like that without laughing. Hell, I couldn't even write it without laughing... Ahhh, you'll figure out what to say. Just know that it's time to get someone who will work with you, OK?

Much love sweetie,
Greg

"Children seldom misquote you. In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn't have said."

[Fuzzybear]

Angel, I know you live a way away from me, but this sounds like the same doctor I used to see. Grrrrrrr! I hated him too. I hope you find a doctor who deserves to be called doctor soon. Good luck!

Take care,
Fuzzy

[angel04]

thanks all. I'm just a bit worried that he'll say I'm just 'reacting" to the absense of lithium now and being irrational or some other symptom of hypomania and tell me I'm too 'unstable' to make a reasonable decision about the change of doctor. That's the kind of crap I get out of him lately. "oh it's just the bipolar talking" or "you're only becoming manic, you aren't rational" Yes, he actually says that to me but the thing is, this is the most rational I've ever been in my opinion. I'm thinking very clearly and that's why i want to change doctors. I reconize that this is an unproductive relationship. Isn't that a GOOD thing????
Pdocs confuse me.
goodnight
angel
ps., thanks everyone for the great replies. thanks bptoo for suggesting this site. It's been wonderful so far.

"man's belief that he is the only intelligent being has not done him good" JRR Tolkien

[Rapunzel]

You are right. He should not be treating you like that. It is your right to choose your doctors - they work for you. His attitude reminds me of when they used to lock people up in a psych ward because they overreacted to something one day, and put them on meds that had side effects, and never let them out saying that the symptoms (which were the side effects) were still continuing. Yes, it is a good thing that you are recognizing what is going on, what you don't like, and you know what you want to do about it.

<font color=orange>"Everyone has a need for significance; and if we can't make that possible, or even probable, in our society, then it will be obtained in destructive ways." -Rollo May</font color=orange>

[FearsomeAnna]

Angel,

I'm bipolar as well and I have to admit that I can tell when I'm getting manic - I also have a support system around me to tell me if I'm getting manic. Do you have such a group and if so have they noticed anything out of the ordinary?

Just wondering if you covered all your bases - that said, that pdoc is a total a**hole if all he can say in regards to your opinion is identify your disease as the cause. I highly doubt that an oncology patient's wish to switch doctors would be chalked up to "oh, that's just the cancer talking". When are docs gonna realize that we are so much more than our disease?

Grrrr!! Is there anyone else there you can talk to FIRST so that you have a bunch of people backing you? If you can get your T behind you, etc, then I'd say you shouldn't have much of a problem.

Dammit, now I am mad!

some of it's magic
some of it's tragic
but i had a good life all the way......
~jimmy buffett