[Rhapsody]

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TALK! Open UP! Do not try to burry those feelings, it can kill you!

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What happens when you don't want to open up and when you decide to keep the secret?

1.) Keeping the secrets, hiding thoughts and burring feelings alive consumes enormous amount of energy. Very often, almost whole available energy is spent to keep the secret and to hide feelings. The secret and buried feelings are slowly draining your energy and may cause serious health problems like: clinical depressions, cystic ovaries, schizophrenia, tumors of sexual organs, vaginal cancer, cervical cancer, breast cancer, prostate cancer, sarcoma, leukemia, sleeping disorders, suicidal thoughts ...
Many of those who were abused in their childhood, and were unable to talk about it, retain many problems due to this trauma:

2.) Psychological problems: Fears, panic attacks, sleeping problems, nightmares, irritability, outbursts of anger and sudden shock reactions when being touched. Little confidence, and self-respect and respect for one's own body may change. Behavior that harms the body: addiction to alcohol and other substances, excessive work or sports, depression, self-destruction and prostitution.

3.) Self-Mutilation: Self-Injury, Delicate Cutting, Self-Abuse

4.) Social problems: Have little confidence in other people. Fear of loss of control in relationships.

5.) Sexual problem: While making love problems often occur. The partner may be confused by a certain remark, touch or behavior that brings back memories of the abuse. Patients sometimes don't want to make love at all anymore or make love less. Sexual relation problems may occur, together whit pain while making love, not wanting to make love and problems in getting aroused. Problems with the orgasm and coming also occur.

6.) Physical complaints: Abdominal pain, pain while making love, menstrual pain, intestinal complaints, stomach ache, nausea, headache, back pain, painful shoulders, in short all kinds of chronic pain may occur. The pain is often inexplicable.

7.) Eating disorders like anorexia, bulimia, compulsive eating are also very common.

8.) Denial and repression: deny or repress the harmful event(s); don't want to talk about or avoid certain situations.

9.) Re-experiencing: experience the event(s) again; unintentionally they are confronted with memories of the abuse, for example through nightmares, sudden memories or unexplainable physical problems.

10.) Over irritation: are easily affected, hot-tempered, jumpy, excessively alert and don't fall asleep easily.

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TALK! Open UP! Do not try to burry those feelings, it will kill you!

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The sad reality is that some people don’t feel ‘safe’ opening up, due to their past and/or personal experiences. Sometimes suffering in silence is preferable to facing rejection once more.

Not to mention how some also know how to kick someone that is already down, thus shutting them up more.

It then takes a lot of time to re-build trust and hope.

Exactly.

Click on blog link ONLY if want to know more. Clicking on link means you are accepting responcibility for your own wellbeing as no one is forcing anyone to click on link.

http://myself.psychcentral.net/2006/...-mine-tonight/

myself, I'm sorry this has happened to you. I'm fairly new here & I guess I haven't read any of the remarks you are talking about. I hope people can rethink their comments & realize we all write about our own unique experiences. What works for one in regards to achieving wellness may not help another. We have to decide for ourselves what is helpful or not--taking some responsibility for our own recover--that's Just MY opinion!--Suzy

[JustAPixie]

[biplol]

(((((Rhapsody)))))
I can only say this:
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[biplol]

Well, it was supossed to say:
THANK YOU (in a nice purple color) lol Oh well!

[Rhapsody]

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biplol said:
Well, it was supossed to say:
THANK YOU (in a nice purple color) lol Oh well!

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This is for YOU:

<font color="purple"> Well, it was supossed to say:
THANK YOU (in a nice purple color) lol Oh well! </font>

ENJOY!!!

[biplol]

Thank you so much!!!!lol

[radio_flyer]

Umm I don't know what to say. Other than I guess maybe the reason I have stomach problems and headaches could be either stress or I bury my feelings. I get lost with feelings and such. I can remember this friend that was going through some problems and she would cry and cry. Those tears would just flow. I do not know if I was angry that she could cry. Or if I was jealous she could turn on those tears. I just did not understand how she could cry because I could not cry. Thing is she moved on and is doing good and I am stuck or I don't even know the word I am .. I have secrets and I don't even know what they are and I don't even know why I know I have secrets.. ..Maybe I just think I have secrets. I don't even know what is important or are just silly feelings... Maybe I just don't get it.. Maybe someday I will get it....

It looks like the material you posted is from a book.. And if it is, what is the name of the book.???Looks like something I'd be interested in reading

[Rhapsody]

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It looks like the material you posted is from a book.. And if it is, what is the name of the book.???Looks like something I'd be interested in reading

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The INFO I posted is not from a book, but rather from different reading materials that I have used over the last ten years of working on healing ME, from the inside out...

BUT - if you are interested in reading a book that contains this type of INFO and RESOURCES to HEAL look into buying the book that I posted in the Rate & Review section called: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die.

This book is AWESOME!! - IMO...
Plus this book came highly recommended by my T - she did more for ME in 2 years than my other two T did for me in eight straight years of constant therapy, 2-3 x a week.

Good Luck..................................... ((( hugs )))

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

Suzy -

Thanks and yes that is my point Im not responcible for other people being triggered when they CHOOSE to read my posts knowing full well what I write triggers them. You don't always see these comments the moderators and administrators try to delete or edit such comments as they can and other times the person who makes those comments can if they choose go back and edit their post that contains those comments. But sometimes the person the comments are directed against are on line when it happens so the damage gets done. Those of us that this is happening to and Im not the only one. Im just the one that is being vocal about saying Im not taking the blame anymore I Just don't feel comfortable putting "MY" experiences out here. because every time I make a reply to someone some else jumps me be it publically or not here or not for how wrong MY experiences are.

By the way my capitalization is not because I am being defensive or switching on line or am yelling at anyone. I told a moderator that I would capitalize my I statements because I know that even though I do use - I - statements in my posts for some reason people are not "seeing" them or just willfully are passing over those I statements and centering on the fact that what I am posting about is not their experiences so they go off at me.

My capitalization is just my way of making those - I - statements that I already use more visable. At times I may even use the bulging eyeballs smilie to point them out so that there is NO question that I am talking about MY experiences not others.

And yes we all have to do wh at its best for ourselves wheich is why I have disclaimers also that I will start capitalizing within my posts saying - IF WHAT I HAVE POSTED IS NOT WHAT YOUR EXCPERIENCE WITH THIS IS THEN USE WHAT CAN HELP OUT OF WHAT I WROTE AND PASS ON THE REST AND MOVE ON TO OTHER THINNGS THAT DO HELP YOU.

Hang in there

and Rhap -

I too thought you were quoting from a book because there was no I statements in your post that I could see. Thans for clarifying