hard decision to make

I now have one more stress in my life. Hubby and I have to make a very hard decision and I don't want to make it. We have been praying that God open doors for him to leave the company he has been with for 5 yrs. I settled my workman's comp case 3 weeks ago but still waiting on the check.
Well it seems his Dad sent him an application for a place in Kansas and he faxed it to them today. They called him and told him he seemed perfect for the job as warehouse mgr and want him to come in for interview. Here is where it gets tough. My grandson has asked me not to move back to Ks since he would miss us to much. Hubby's dad is all alone there and will soon be 81. My Dad is 77 and his health is declining. If we move there I can save my money for quite some time I think. Here it will not last since I would have to either rent a place or buy one. oh I don't know what to do! I told hubby to call the lady back in the morning to find out the pay and if they will pay moving expenses. please help me!!!!

Oh Be! (((((((((((((((((( Be ))))))))))))))))))))

Hon, you have to take care of yourself financially. Whether your father likes it or not, perhaps he will move with you. If not, you have to remember he is a grown man who can make his own decisions.

Your beloved grandson can visit on vacations and you can call him often. I know it's not like having him right there with you every day, but you and your husband must look to your futures, your welfare and your financial stability.

Lots of hugs,

Jan

Be, they just asked for an interview. It doesn't mean he has the job, or that he has to accept it if they offer.

I'm not the one to advise you on the rest, but as PC's Official Anxiety Queen (well, Jenn and I take turns between Queen and Princess ), I can tell you that you will just drive yourself nuts worrying about it before you have to. This is total "cross that bridge when you come to it" territory. Go take a nice hot bath and try to relax till you have more info.

Love, Candy

Jan you are right hon thanks!

Candy you are right too! They already told him he is perfect for the job as of right now but you are right that I shouldn't worry so much right at this minute! thanks hon!

Hmmm I don't go with any decision that is a required "right now" decision. I learned not to do that in my life. I'm amazed at what will happen when I delay and wait (on God?) If it's meant to be, it doesn't have to be right this second. Plus, if he is perfect for the job, then of course they would pay moving and set up expenses..unless they are looking for quality without having to pay for it.

What would be the perfect scenario for you all? Can you write it out, is there one that works for all? Then ask God for that... and trust Him for it.

If as parents age you will be having to take care of them, then plan in that direction. No sense in getting all settled somewhere when you know within a few years you will have to change the plans.

Plus, I've been in jobs where they hired, moved and after they were all squared away by the "perfection" they fired, moving a cheaper worker in to maintain the wonderfulness Then again, nothing is ever set in stone. I personally plan to move every 3 years; that I've been here 7 is amazing.

Calm, and trust. If you can't make a decision, then don't.

Where would you two be happier? (That question helps me make decisions. Sometimes new places or things help me feel there is a new start on life.)

Do you two choose a place to live *mostly* on familiarity/family or finances? If finances are the determining factor, then why not keep searching for other places to live/work? If familiarity/family are weighted more in the decision, then which place KS or GA has more of that?

Aren't there more choices than KS and GA? Where is your dream home located?

Hey . . . Jacksonville, FL is pretty nice and isn't too far from where you live. (I lived there.) Have you researched jobs there? They are the fast growing city in FL and has plenty of jobs. There's a few military bases, decent beach, two interstates run through downtown, largest city landmass in U.S., and it has a football team/stadium. Real estate keeps going up there; it'd be a good investment. It's a southern, slow paced, metro area. You can be country and still get to the big malls and theatres under 30 minutes drive.

sky no the decision is not one we have to make right away as of right now. thank goodness. it is just going to be very difficult when the time comes.

Jennie his dad lives in ks all alone now since his mom died in April. I think that is one of the biggest things right now. if the money is right there won't be a problem with me coming to visit my family often here. I don't care for Jacksonville too much! sorry lol

(((((((bepop)))))))

In the end only you can make the decision, I'm so sorry I don't have better advice for I do not know you well enough. I hope that when the time comes your prayers will be answered and the right door will be marked with a big sticker saying "ENTER HERE"!

All the best...

((((((bebop))))))) you have a great attitude i'm sure decision is very stressful. congratulations on the workers comp issue being resolved! that's one less worry.