[anarchy]

hi everyone.i hope your holidays are going well...well the first of the year is coming and that was the day i set aside for starting get some help for myself.fast run down on myself if you have not seen my other post.i have not seen a doc since 1984 and that was for a check up.i was removed from the public school system at the age of 14 or 15,i have no family who cares or i want get involved with.i do have a girlfrien/wife who i love greatly and have been with for over 16 years.(only++in my life)i have a problem with reading and i am in need of physical and mental help for sure.i have put it all off long enough and have just been given to other reasons to live for.my grandchildren.NOW,,what im scared about.what to say and what not to say ,do i have to tell them every little thing thats bugging me at first.i am scared to death of doctors and i hope i can hold it together long enough to get some help.i have a bad habit of telling people what they want to hear just so they would leave me alone ..meds is another problem,,i hate putting chemicals into my body.i dont drink or do drugs and i hate it...mabie thats whats wrong with me..lol..i do have a little will power left in my body to see this thru,,but i am scared about getting the run around and passed off to someone elce.so,,with all this being said..i feel a little better..talk about getting off track.thats another problem for another day..so any input you have i would love to hear..you no,,the do and donts,say this not that..thanks again everyone and take care...

just try to relax and be yourself when you go to the docs, stressing about seeing the doc is not going to help, can your wife/girlfriend or someone else you trust go with you to the appointment for moral support?, if you dont want them to go in to the docs with you they can wait in th reception area whilst you go in, good luck in whatever you decide to do, by admitting you think you have a problem is half the battle, good luck and keep us informed

[Boopers]

Hi Anarchy,

Do you have a doc in mind? I mean, is there one that you think you would feel comfortable with? That would help for starters.
Also, like Mellors said, it would be nice if your wife/girlfriend could go with you for moral support. They would even let her go right into the doctors office with you, if you wanted that.
The thing you must do is, be honest. Honesty with your doctor will mean the difference between a good diagnosis or a bad one. If you don't tell him the truth, then he won't know how to correctly give you the answers you need to know.
I don't like taking meds either, but I have to. I would rather take meds than suffer the consequences.
Remember, be honest with the doc. It's only fair for you and him.
Good luck and let us know what you find out. I hope you will find that it isn't as bad as your mind is trying to tell you it is.
Take care,
Linda

you can do this........sounds to me as if you've thought long and hard and you're ready to take that first step. we'll be with you.

i agree with the two posts above about having support with you at the office.

i don't like taking meds either, but if yuo ever saw me off of them you'd know why i take mine..........xoxoxo pat

[SeptemberMorn]

Good for you that you're seeking help! I finally made that decision myself.

IMO, you need to be completely honest with your MD so you can get the proper care. If you leave out things, or make it seem it's not as bad as it is to you, you may not get what you need.

There's a chance that you may "get passed around" if your doctor prefers you see a specialist with some of your problems. And, yes, sometimes you need to keep reminding your doctor that you want something taken care of NOW. Don't forget they are human, too, and can forget or not hear you completely on something. Sometimes they forget to tell you or don't think they need to tell you why they think something is more important than another.

I've never had any trouble with a doctor allowing my husband to be in the room. Take your girlfriend with you if you think her presence will help.

Good luck! Don't give up!

[biiv]

Hi Anarchy,
I agree with the rest that you need to be honest with the doc so you get the right help. that said if you are very nervous about going (as you sound) then perhaps it might be a good idea to write out a list of what you want to bring to her/his attention before you see her/him and to prioritise the list so that you get the most important things said first? also so you dont forget anything!
the other thing is that if you dont tell him every little thing at the first visit dont beat yourself up because you can always make another appointment! chances are a doc will pick up on one symptom that might mean you have a certain problem and then ask more questions to assertain a diagnosis and those questions may cover a range of the other 'little things that bug you'.
bear in mind though as someone else said you may be sent to a specialist if the doc suspects something outside her/his expertise. all you can do about that im afraid is follow the steps until you finally get to where you can get the care you deserve.
good luck to you and well done for having the courage to look after yourself both for you own sake and for your girlfriends/wifes!
take care
biiv