Are you frustrated with yourself?

I am frustrated that I don't seem able to put any effort into anything.

A good example of this is I haven't put any effort into my profile for a renting/house-sharing website I am on. I could sit here for the next 30 minutes to try and write a detailed profile for myself. But instead I am just going to browse the forums and listen to the radio.

This is why I never get anywhere. And yet I don't think I can change. I'm 36 so maybe I'm not too old to change but I feel like I am incapable of change anyway.

Who else experience these feelings or can identify them?

When my depression is kicking in I can't put any effort into anything. It's one of the first signs for me to know depression is rearing up in me. So maybe it's something like that?

I feel the same way. I'm 26 so there's time to change I guess. At least that's what people keep telling me. It's like I just can't maintain the effort that I do put into things. And now I'm just so lost about what I want to do with myself, and I don't have any motivation for anything. It's very frustrating indeed.

Sometimes it's not just lack of our motivation, but also lack of anything in our life that motivates (gets us interested).....sort of like the chicken & the egg.....which comes first?

I get totally frustrated with myself. I refuse to just live to work (even just around my house & farm)....I get distracted & then sometimes can't get refocused or I have something else that takes a lot of energy that I'm focusing on or trying to keep clean & then I don't have the energy for anything else.....life is tough I'm finding out & it's tougher when you have to do EVERYTHING yourself.

The worse is getting undistracted.....I have to put limitations (usually amount of time) on things & then follow through & go onto something else....but then I can end up with a lot of half done things & nothing gets finished......can't win sometimes.

I can totally relate to all of this but don't know the answer. I am currently in a deep depression and can't find joy in doing anything, even the things that used to be what I was driven to do. I can't even eat, or get the interest up to go prepare food for myself. Totally unmotivated, stuck. I know that this is depression because I feel very unhappy, negative, unworthy. I am on a new med that isn't working, and it has been tough to get help from my p-doc because he is booked.

In the past I still felt lack of motivation unless it was for the few things that really interested me. I realize I was still depressed then, too, just not to the same degree I am now. I have always lacked self-esteem, been extremely self-critical and lacked confidence to do more with my life, not even really knowing what I wanted. That was part of it, not even having the dreams and interests. I don't know the answer, other than that the meds I'm on now aren't working at all, and the one I was on before maybe was helping me be a little more functional, but I would not say I was operating optimally at all.

All the time.

I stay frustrated with myself. I can't get motivated to get anything done, even enjoyable stuff.

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I sometimes get very frustrated with myself as well. Typically when I get into my anxious cycle that can go on for months. It is a horrible feeling IT. Huggles to you friend

I've developed perfectionist tendencies which frustrates me to no end. I'm a graphic & web designer, and although I've been doing it for 20 years, I still get discouraged if what I think up isn't perfect the first time. I start doubting myself and go into avoidance mode; avoiding the work and the client, which just makes the situation worse. My mentality becomes "Well, it wasn't perfect, so it'll never be perfect, so why bother trying?" The stupid thing is I know better, and yet, I can't get over that mental hurdle, and continue spinning my wheels. Frustrating, indeed.

i am so depressed sometimes i can't do anything too. my meds help for awhile, but they wear off too soon. i started clozapine 3 years ago and its helped more than any other med. just a suggesstion.

Can you find the effort needed to make a small list of things you need to do? Having it right in front of me in words I understand helps me get things done. And I feel really good when I get to cross something off that list. Today I replanted a tree that I have been wanting to do for months/years. Now if I could just fill out that form that has been sitting in front of me for 2 weeks.

I found this today or IT found me. I thought of us both. Take a quick look and enjoy your frog.

The moment I feel as you describe I reach for my cognitive distortions diagram Category: Negative Thinking - Sticks & Stones Counselling and start working out what is going on - I find it helps amazingly.

Oh yes, I do constantly frustrate myself! One of my biggest most serious aggravations is this:

I will not do what I know will help me break out of depression, anxiety, fear and just an overall belief that I am a failure and that I will never amount to anything. I act as if all methods have been proven to be a failure. This is such a trap for me, a vicious circle of a dog chasing his tail endlessly! Yet, I am locked into this maddening pattern of thinking and am governed by my emotions. It is a stupid mess that keeps me wrought up!

I go through this on a daily basis. I tell myself that today will be different and I will MAKE myself do the things I need to do, but it never happens. I procrastinate and find any excuse to do something else and then I'm angry at myself. I have to literally force myself to get anything done. It's a horrible feeling.

Yes I have typed my tasks into an organiser but I just go back to bed and don't do them.

I am going to try this app now, it's basically a game apparently where you can get rewards for performing tasks. I hope it works.

http://www.habitrpg.com/

That's the website.

Go Old School IT! Don't type into an organizer! Get a real piece of paper. WRITE your lists down. Make more than one. Plaster them around your room.

I am off. I need to cross something off my newest list.

Second those who said procrastination is what makes them frustrated.

I am definitely frustrated with myself. I have been in a downward spiral for several years, medications work for a short while and, then, it's back to the same old. I have no motivation to even remove my butt from the couch... all day, every day... I even sleep on the couch. My mind is filled with things I want to do, things I should do as a wife and homeowner, but when it comes to execution - Nothing! I have been reading on this site about the benefits of adding certain medications to antidepressants I'm already taking, which is 300mg of Effexor XR - I'm going to inquire about the success of adding Remeron or Abilify - maybe if I can get my mindset healthier, the motivation will follow. Good luck to everyone. If you have tried anything that you found worked, please let me know. Thanks to all!

All the damn time. I feel so many emotions and it's embarrassing. Also I've been traumatized a lot, and the emotions that creates is embarrassing too.

I feel like this could be lack of motivation. I struggle with motivation myself everyday. I'm currently in a career path that I absolutely hate for the last 3 years, and I know I need to make changes and do some reasearch, talk to people and do work on this, yet I don't take any steps to start doing this...mostly it just kind of feels like another job or task that I can't be bothered with even though it's really important...

absolutely, 100% agree... not motivated to do ANYTHING, enjoyable, necessary, whatever! it has caused bad consequences on top of everything else!

I've never been a "driven" person, but I used to actually get stuff done (chores, working out, etc). Lately it's been like pulling teeth to get me to do anything. Even things I used to enjoy like workout out, keeping my vehicle spic and span, and so forth. I think it's a combination of being overweight, depression/anxiety, and just the stresses of everyday life. It makes me so mad and frustrated with myself.

I used to get things done effortlessly when I was younger. Now I can't do anything it seems.

I am frustrated with myself. I'm either too depressed, too anxious, too shaky, too agitated, etc. there doesn't appear to be a time when I'm just okay.

Best wishes,
Gayle

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