[Katieissweet]

Someone got a hold of my naked pics and show them to everyone maybe 100 people or more,they were full body face shots ,somehow I did not care in the slighest and I thought to myself even if these got on the Internet i wouldn't care in the slighest.
I just never feel embarrassed about anything and don't really understand why.

[healingme4me]

It can be considered exploitation regardless of your being an adult. If you're not concerned, I don't know what to say but be careful, there's some really unsavory types of individuals on this planet and something like this could be unsafe.

[cryingontheinside]

Something like this happened to me in the past. It did bother me though . it is exploitation.

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[ScientiaOmnisEst]

I still don't understand why people take naked pics in the first place. o_0

But, if you're not bothered by it, I guess that's great for you. But do be careful - the fact that those pictures are out there can be detrimental. If can affect things like your getting a job, being approved for certain things, and can be just plain dangerous or annoying if anyone finds out who you are in more detail.

[Katieissweet]

Im going to check if their online,but I don't think so who knows,I mainly took them to preserve my youth.

[eskielover]

I would think exercising & staying in shape would be a better way of preserving ones youth. Pictures are only a snapshot in time...& when that time is past & one no longer looks like that, it hasn't preserved anything only a memory.

[Takeshi]

So, you say 100 people saw it 'at work'. Thanks for the trigger icon btw, this does bother me to some extent. (No, scratch that, to the maximum extent!)

You didn't mean to share those pics. People (I prefer individuals over people at any given time...) need to respect boundaries. I'd hate to see the unsavory display of human behaviors.

The work situation for you could still be unsafe, I hope you keep that in mind.

Do you still like those pictures, Katieissweet? I hope you do, please keep 'em safe.

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by eskielover

I would think exercising & staying in shape would be a better way of preserving ones youth. Pictures are only a snapshot in time...& when that time is past & one no longer looks like that, it hasn't preserved anything only a memory.

I agree. +1

[handheart]

Well i think its good that it not affect you,it was worse if you was depresed or you was crying that your picture naked are see by people .Too many people care about what other people say

Originally Posted by Katieissweet

Im going to check if their online,but I don't think so who knows,I mainly took them to preserve my youth.

I'm not too PC about stuff like this and I can really, really commiserate about the desire to remain a visual record of your youth.

I think you're attitude is quite healthy. I understand why I feel such body shame now, presently, but it's nothing that I felt in better days. I'd really like to have more photos of myself or old lovers as a positive reminder of happy times. I lost tens of thousands of photos and slides during a period of hospitalization. So many memories gone, wiped out. I had a couple of hundred slides scanned on a drum scanner and, miraculously, the disks and tapes were retained by a friend.

The absolute worse thing that can happen has already happened and if they get on the Internet, so what? Being naked doesn't make you a bad person, for goodness sake. Whoever passed the photos around could probably be charged with a few light misdemeanors, but that won't change anything.

I'm weird about the whole nude photo = violation, etc., thing anyway. These aren't photos taken without your knowledge, you had a good and healthy reason for wanting and there's only one bad guy/girl around.

Lord help you if someone sees naked photos of you. Because they'll have... well, they'll have seen naked photos of you and - look! A squirrel!

I'm trying to think where it 'fits' on the anger scale but I can't even get to 'somewhat annoying.' Taking out the larger and more comprehensive and compiles life scale, I can pinpoint it as 'something that happened one time,' just above 'the stale bagel that I didn't eat one time.'

My thoughts. Which are mine.

[Melodysmooth]

It's fine that you don't mind that people saw the photos, shows that you're comfortable with yourself and that's good. But, one thing is for them to see and another thing is for them to see and start reacting about it. You mentioned 100 people, that's a lot of different types of people. What if these people start to harass you or just become annoying about it, would that bother you? I hope no one does, just saying people can be immature about these things, even adults. I think when we hear the word 'naked' we automatically relate it to nudes/sex, but I think we all forgot to mention maybe these were regular candid photos, nakedness can be use in many forms to express many things.. art,beauty as well ~

Originally Posted by eskielover

I would think exercising & staying in shape would be a better way of preserving ones youth. Pictures are only a snapshot in time...& when that time is past & one no longer looks like that, it hasn't preserved anything only a memory.

Um, no to the first statement. You're mistaking trying to maintain health with the desire to maintain a record of your life. Preserving memories using journals, cameras, etc., are excellent ways to provide a reminder of the continuity of a life, particularly when memories begin to fade.

"Only a snapshot" is bad, but "only a memory"? It's by memory that we become sentient beings. Is there anything that you know that you were able to preserve without memory? Are you even able to think without relying on your memory?

Odd as it may sound, there are people who put some effort into using nothing but photos to maintain a life history. A life history shared with friends, but particularly family. "Here we are in Eygpt, where I became pregnant with you." There's nothing wrong in using photographs to preserve or enhance or even rekindle memories. There's nothing wrong in using nude photographs to preserve or enhance or even rekindle memories.

Somewhere, I think, I have photos of my right leg a couple of days before amputation. A grisly and grotesque photo. But a record of the complex feelings that I still have about being nothing but a torso. If you don't understand why someone would want to preserve a memory so ugly, I suppose that I can respect that.

It seems as if - and I may be completely wrong - there's an immediate reaction in some of these replies that equates nudity, or nude photos, with something bad. That there's not enough body shame in someone who would allow, even desire, to capture their body at a moment in time when we might even like the way that we look. I can"t speak for the OP but, personally, I liked my body for most of my life. I liked that other people liked it, too, and that I often returned the degree of satisfaction. I was never a narcissist, I liked to stay fit but didn't spend hours at the gym everyday. It never occurred to me that being comfortable was abnormal.

But that doesn't seem to be the prevailing attitude in the replies. I think what makes some of the replies creepier than others is in blaming the OP instead of the person who circulated the photos. "She was wearing a tight, short dress, judge." That changes everything, case dismissed.

To the summation - the four things that baffle me about your message:

1. The implication that memories are somehow of lesser importance than ____? What? That's the blank that I can't fill. If something is "only a memory" then the implication is that memory is less than, what? Cracker Jacks? Arm wrestling?

2. The idea that there is something perverse in creating a contemporaneous record - a "snapshot" - that can be used to create a memorable continuum for personal use or to share in the future, after the time/event is passed.

3. The thinking that nudity, especially when recorded by camera, is shameful. That preserving the memory of your body at any particular time is wrong. That you can preserve memories of you 26-year-old body best through, something that I don't understand, exercise? Having Dorian Gray spot you?

4. The idea that the victim got what they deserved. That the OP, being guilty of preserving an image of themselves at a specific time of life and lacking shame, is as or more guilty than the person who distributed the images.

I just don't "get it." I don't see how these four observations can be justified, but I'll remain open minded.

[Katieissweet]

Im very tribal( mixed race ) I think that's why I don't care about being naked Hehehehehe,my g.g grandmothers etc would have all walked around naked and still do to this day in the tribe im from.
Only a few people mentioned it to me and I honestly didn't care.
I more posted this thread because I don't seem to get embarrassed about anything at all,but I have dreams like that too where im naked in the park and don't care guess im a free spirit.

Originally Posted by healingme4me

It can be considered exploitation regardless of your being an adult. If you're not concerned, I don't know what to say but be careful, there's some really unsavory types of individuals on this planet and something like this could be unsafe.

Sometimes this place brings out the worst in me. I've been warned and I don't want you to think that I'm attempting to attack you personally, or belittle you in any way, so I hope that you understand that I feel the need only to rebut a couple of your ideas. For the OP and for my sanity.

I don't know much about the current laws concerning the unauthorized, non-consensual distribution of nude photos. Around the office or electronically. Unless accompanied by slander, etc., I don't think, and I'm only guessing, that something such as criminal exploitation would be out of the question. Civil invasion of privacy, I think, might be in the cards. Theft, depending on how the photos were obtained, etc. I'm assuming that state laws vary and I don't know of any fed codes that would come into play. If there's a lawyer here, I would just be interested to know of and laws.

As you observe and as the OP wrote, they don't really care about the distribution of the photos. I think that a very healthy attitude. I've left electronic trails, including nude photos, all over what became the Internet. I'm more embarrassed by available published text that can be found than any photos.

That's why I feel as if I need to ask about two things; the warning to "be careful" and why you think that "something like this could be unsafe." You seem to have bypassed the most probable and predictable end result and jumped to the warning that a Ted Bundy office boy might be in the wings.

Most probable end result? People will see photos of the OP naked. Since that's already occurred, the worst conceivable/predictable end result is that the photos would be posted to some website on the Internet. More people, possibly, might see photos of the OP naked. Unless the OP is a Kardashian or has some kind of astonishing physical attribute I doubt that any photo would go viral.

So I'll ask: your exhortation to "be careful" implies that danger is lurking and that the OP needs to take some action or, at least, be wary of... what? Being kidnapped and sold as a sex slave? I can guarantee that I've no innocence remaining when thinking of the evil that people may do. I don't see, either, how "something like this (100 workers seeing naked photos of a fellow employee) could be unsafe." Unsafe because...? Statistically 10 out of 100 office employees are potential rapists who target those whose naked photo they've used?

I don't buy into jumping into non-specific scare mode without visiting the most probable consequences first. Since those consequences have passed without incident, what do you see to fear?

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by ciderguy

Sometimes this place brings out the worst in me. I've been warned and I don't want you to think that I'm attempting to attack you personally, or belittle you in any way, so I hope that you understand that I feel the need only to rebut a couple of your ideas. For the OP and for my sanity.

I don't know much about the current laws concerning the unauthorized, non-consensual distribution of nude photos. Around the office or electronically. Unless accompanied by slander, etc., I don't think, and I'm only guessing, that something such as criminal exploitation would be out of the question. Civil invasion of privacy, I think, might be in the cards. Theft, depending on how the photos were obtained, etc. I'm assuming that state laws vary and I don't know of any fed codes that would come into play. If there's a lawyer here, I would just be interested to know of and laws.

As you observe and as the OP wrote, they don't really care about the distribution of the photos. I think that a very healthy attitude. I've left electronic trails, including nude photos, all over what became the Internet. I'm more embarrassed by available published text that can be found than any photos.

That's why I feel as if I need to ask about two things; the warning to "be careful" and why you think that "something like this could be unsafe." You seem to have bypassed the most probable and predictable end result and jumped to the warning that a Ted Bundy office boy might be in the wings.

Most probable end result? People will see photos of the OP naked. Since that's already occurred, the worst conceivable/predictable end result is that the photos would be posted to some website on the Internet. More people, possibly, might see photos of the OP naked. Unless the OP is a Kardashian or has some kind of astonishing physical attribute I doubt that any photo would go viral.

So I'll ask: your exhortation to "be careful" implies that danger is lurking and that the OP needs to take some action or, at least, be wary of... what? Being kidnapped and sold as a sex slave? I can guarantee that I've no innocence remaining when thinking of the evil that people may do. I don't see, either, how "something like this (100 workers seeing naked photos of a fellow employee) could be unsafe." Unsafe because...? Statistically 10 out of 100 office employees are potential rapists who target those whose naked photo they've used?

I don't buy into jumping into non-specific scare mode without visiting the most probable consequences first. Since those consequences have passed without incident, what do you see to fear?

Words don't need to be used. Unauthorized distribution of someone naked can be a criminal act. I live in massachusetts.

Why not be careful? It was unauthorized to begin with. And yes, there's creeps in this world. Why not suggest caution?

PS...because I took an internet safety course through the DA's office is how I know.

Originally Posted by Katieissweet

Im very tribal( mixed race ) I think that's why I don't care about being naked Hehehehehe,my g.g grandmothers etc would have all walked around naked and still do to this day in the tribe im from.
Only a few people mentioned it to me and I honestly didn't care.
I more posted this thread because I don't seem to get embarrassed about anything at all,but I have dreams like that too where im naked in the park and don't care guess im a free spirit.

You're healthy. That's all. I'm troubled by those who call the healthy sick.

You're also lucky to be a part of a culture with no body shame. I would imagine that you don't find many teenaged girls with eating disorders in your 'tribe.'

Good for you.

You should visit Germany. A lot of clothing optional urban parks and zones and no one cares.

[Katieissweet]

I had heard the Germans were real naturalists,I don't think im a nudist but I was really confused why I was not embarrassed.

And yes in my tribe the pondo,no eating disorders.

Originally Posted by ciderguy

You're healthy. That's all. I'm troubled by those who call the healthy sick.

You're also lucky to be a part of a culture with no body shame. I would imagine that you don't find many teenaged girls with eating disorders in your 'tribe.'

Good for you.

You should visit Germany. A lot of clothing optional urban parks and zones and no one cares.

[Pikku Myy]

I went thru two years of teraphy of which one part was to take picture of myself, so I could learn/visualize how to smile again. Not always about youth hugs and hope things calm down. Horrible thing someone did to you.

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Words don't need to be used. Unauthorized distribution of someone naked can be a criminal act. I live in massachusetts.

Why not be careful? It was unauthorized to begin with. And yes, there's creeps in this world. Why not suggest caution?

PS...because I took an internet safety course through the DA's office is how I know.

During this course, did they just say "be careful" with no examples of what to be careful of or how to be careful?

If "Unauthorized distribution of someone naked can be a criminal act" in Mass, is it this a state statute? Can you cite the charge?

You realize, don't you, that the person who actually snapped the photos is the owner and as the subject was consenting and of legal age, if he or she distributed the photos no laws were broken?

From a single Google search, the best information that I can find reads, "Only the state of New Jersey in the United States has a criminal offence that addresses this conduct (Non-Consensual Distribution of Intimate Images) specifically." - N.J. Code of Criminal Justice (tit.2c) §14-9c

The Massachusetts Privacy Act does a good job of citing what is and isn't protected but I can't find a thing about non-consensual distribution being a criminal act. Did you receive a handbook citing criminal codes? Or take notes?

I'm sure that the office of a State District Attorney wouldn't attempt to deceive anyone; I would just think that they would be more forthcoming with specific suggestions rather than "be careful" and suggesting that it's a criminal act without providing information about charges, liability, etc.

And, as I said, in the unlikely event that the distributor was also the photographer any liability would be exist.

Yes, there are creepy people around. I have difficulty imagining what harm a creepy person might cause with a collection of photos of a naked adult, but I'm more evil than creepy and I'm not terribly creative. Could you suggest something?

I'm not sure that I'm clear on what living in Massachusetts means in this context? Did you mean New Jersey? I know that I can get confused sometime when I'm typing faster than I can think.

Originally Posted by Pikku Myy

I went thru two years of teraphy of which one part was to take picture of myself, so I could learn/visualize how to smile again. Not always about youth hugs and hope things calm down. Horrible thing someone did to you.

This is a bit off-topic but my shame concerning the state of the single whole tooth and three rotting stubs in my mouth not only prevent me from smiling but cause problems when I attempt to talk.

I'm glad that I've a number of photos, taken in younger days, of my smiling face. I feel horrible, like swamp scum, when people that I used to know find me and, inevitably, write, "I remember your beautiful smile." I know that they mean well but it makes me feel awful about myself.

One thing that really blows is that I spent $20K during my manic spending spree on crap and with half of that I could have had high-quality denture implants. My continuing and ever-worsening stupidity still amazes me at times.

I would like to smile again. Maybe laugh. That sounds nice

Maybe you're proud of your nakedness. Also, as a female there is less of you showing, your genitals are pretty much obscured, so it's really just breasts when you think about it.

[Yoda]

I have skimmed the posts so hesitate to criticize strongly but it does seem that some posters are shaming the OP for having such pictures taken in the first place. Personally I am okay with my body and my sexuality (but realize they are two different things). I made a sex tape with my BF years ago and trusted that it would be private. I am certain that would draw criticism from some folks here but I, like the OP, would prefer my private moments remain private but I'd not all up in a tither if people did see it. Culture in the US is more uncomfortable with nudity than some other cultures, (in the UK, I think)?

[cryingontheinside]

Originally Posted by Yoda

I have skimmed the posts so hesitate to criticize strongly but it does seem that some posters are shaming the OP for having such pictures taken in the first place. Personally I am okay with my body and my sexuality (but realize they are two different things). I made a sex tape with my BF years ago and trusted that it would be private. I am certain that would draw criticism from some folks here but I, like the OP, would prefer my private moments remain private but I'd not all up in a tither if people did see it. Culture in the US is more uncomfortable with nudity than some other cultures, (in the UK, I think)?

I agree that nobody should be shaming the op for this . the person who showed them is at fault here. I have had pictures taken by the father of my children years ago. He showed his friends , my friends , our neighbours and his work mates . he also put them on the internet. This personally did cause me shame at the time it happened but I'm really glad for the poster not to feel shame. With me I did have it thrown back in my face years later so I was affected with what happened to me but I sincerly hope this doesn't happen here and that you the op can just move forward from this .

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[Tauren]

If that happened at my company, every single person who shared the picture would be fired and possibly arrested. If those people are still working there it sounds like it's tolerated, which where I live would constitute a hostile work environment and lead to epic lawsuits.

[Lazarus16]

Katieissweet, you're just very comfortable with your own nudity. Some people have inhibitions in regards of many things, you, in this particuliar case, have very little. It's perfectly okay and entierely natural, we're all different and everything is relative. That's a part of your psyche and I wouldn't worry about that. Internet models and couples upload pics and videos on websites such as Pornhub or Youporn and feel no shame so you're not alone feeling this way. Some even feel empower. Like I said, we're all different. If I were you, I'd keep taking pictures, tasteful nudity can be an art and make for pretty amazing memories.

Personally, I like to take pics of my body every month because I work out a lot and I think of my body as a piece of art. I can't find back that video of Arnold Schwarzenegger when he was a Mr. Universe but basically, here's what he said :

''Bodybuilding is like art. In paint, you use brushes and colors to produce paintings. In bodybuilding, you use exercises and blueprints to build your body. Like a sculptor, using clay, to build a nice statue. Our body is our work tool.''

These days, a lot of people think of nudity has a bad thing but tastefully, it can be magnificient. It doesn't have to involve sex or porn, the human body is a beautiful wonder and a true piece of art. I see it with some of my friends, last time, they asked me how my workout was going. Told me that I looked bigger, I wanted to show them my six pack, how big and hard it was and they were scared as if I wanted to rape them, I was just showing my abs. lol Why ask if you don't want to see? It's as I said, some people have inhibitions and they get uncomfortable, in certain circumstances. It's okay, even if sometimes, it's very illogical.