Someone thanked me once...

for being able to ask for what I need. I'm going on that possitive note and I'm going to ask for attention on my posts in Grief and Loss. I'm having a really tough time and I need some validation and encouragement. I'm not usually one to ask but rather than do what I did last time and pitch a fit, I'm just going to ask politely.

Thanks in advance.

PS There is more, also, in DonAlexa's "I don't get it."







<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

Sorry, my pea brain doesn't get the connection to your title on this and your need for attention... but that's me

I am sending you love September Morn... remember the looters, don't let them get to you, don't waste your energy on them...

you will do your best in handling all this, and making all those decisions for the younger ones.. and doing your best is the best you can do... remember...

we are often told we aren't allowed to ask Why? I think we can ask all we want, we just don't get any answer, usually...

put one foot in front of the other...

sorry I can't be more help right now, I am having my own "mood disorder" problems....

<font color=blue> meditation is a true way to connect to the Source </font color=blue>

Being able to ask for what you need is a good thing - something I have been trying to work on. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{Tomi}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

<font color=orange>"Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm. - Winston Churchill "</font color=orange>

I feel like a grief expert through the fire trials. I am so sorry for your loss and all of the chaos and confusion you may be feeling. I am also sorry that you can't protect your kids from the pain. It is so unreal to lose on we love suddenly. My expereince says to remember all of the things you can as a family and tell the funny stories and put out pictures of him. "Remember when" is so helpful to me. Expect nothing from yourself right now and accept how you feel. I am so very sorry. I am also sorry for the family stuff. Hope it gets resolved. Peace to you my dear lady.

Sky, I guess once, I did the right thing instead of whining or getting angry and all I did was ask. So I'm asking again for some response to my thread in Grief and Loss. That's all.

Your words are really appreciated. You're right. I'll eventually do what's right but somehow I can't do it quite yet. It's people like you and others here that have helped and will help me get centered again. You've helped me more than you know. You, too, just like Jill (Peanut) show great strength in your words that just reaches out from your post.

Take it easy on yourself and do what's best for you. I'm rooting for you!




<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Susan}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Thanks for the much needed hugs. How about we help each other along this journey, eh? I'll watch you be sweet, caring and helpful and you watch me learn to ask for what I need in a clear manner instead of throwing fits, ok? Of course, YOU don't throw fits, but I'm thinking you do without.




<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

Indeed, you are wise, Wise Woman! I've been going through the pictures I have of Neil and pictures without him in them, but of some times we shared together and I can almost feel him next to me. Strange how that can be comforting as well as painful. Chances are good that I'll never look down at the ruins of the "baths" that used to exist on the shores of San Francisco. I'll certainly never walk the streets of the Castro District with him guffawing at the shocked look on my face. But that time was special shared between two accepting friends.

Yes, you bet I'm going to put a picture or two of him out where we can all see it. I'll remind John of always being "Little Johnny" to Neil.

Thanks again. Your words allowed me to bring those memories up and talk about them. Thanks for helping me embark on my grieving process.





<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

I remember hurting really bad when I lost a friend who was 15 years old to throat cancer. I was 16. Nothing could be said to me to make me feel better, however, being able to talk about my feelings and having somebody to listen was what helped me get by.
When I lost my father in Law 3 years ago, I thought I was going to loose my sanity, he was my best friend, my father figure in this country and the most important man in my life besides my dad. It hurted so much I couldn't even talk about it much ... and I am very talkative.
It is ok to cry, it is ok to lose it ... it trully is ok. An more than anything is it ok to be mad at God ( he understands ) and anybody you feel you need to be mad at .... My life savior was that book I read (Don't take away my grief). It really helped me start breathing again.

Please know how much we care, how much we appreciate you and how priviledge many of us feel to have the opportunity to be here for you the same way you have been here for us so many times. All of our love to you.

gab

Thank you, Gloria. I'm going to buy that book today. The last time this happened, I totally lost it. That's when the panic attacks and depression started so I can't say that I went through the grieving process. Looking back, it seems as if I lost about 5 yrs of my life. I just don't remember much except being in hell. I don't want or need that to happen now.

Thanks so much for your kind words. They mean so much to me although I feel that I don't deserve them.




<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>