[Kendyll]

OK, so I'm at this point in my life where I can keep doing what I had been doing (which hasn't been working so good for me) or I can start trying to build a different life. This shouldn't be hard, right? If I don't like what I've got, then I should be doing something different.

But I don't want to!! It's been two weeks since I realized things have to change and I haven't done ANYTHING.

OK, it's my XBF. We broke up in May. It really sucked, but then I started believing that this was OK, and that I could have another life, a better life without him. I could believe in myself, and build the life I want to have. I even started dating a guy I met on a business trip (if you can date from halfway across the country). That was great, except the XBF started calling and texting around end of August, and then we started seeing each other again, kinda, maybe.

I don't want to be with him anymore. I don't want that life with him - it's all the old stuff that doesn't really work for me. We've been YEARS on and off, and it DOESN'T WORK!! So why t'heck am I still seeing him?

It's comfortable. I may be weird, but he's used to it and it doesn't bother him. This other guy may not work out, and at least the XBF wants me...but it's the same old crap. Why can't I just let it go and walk away?

[SeptemberMorn]

You haven't had your fill "up to here" of the old stuff. Like you said, it's comfortable, it's something you know. You don't have to DO anything.

To start building the life you want, or at least a different one, you have to change paths. It requires an action; one that you're not used to making. It's the unknown out there. It's a challenge.

You at least know the rut you are in forwards and backwards. The new path is uncharted territory, full of unknowns and uncertainties.

Question is, just how comfortable are you in the same old rut that you know doesn't lead anywhere you really want to go? It's that first action that will start you on a different path. It doesn't have to be an earthshattering action; just a tiny one. "Look out! That first step is a doozy! Everything else is uphill!"

[nothemama8]

sweetie get out of the rut you'r in and enjoy

[DePressMe]

Relationships are never easy...staying in the same rut and accepting the old boyfriend is cutting yourself short. You deserve to be happy and be in love with somebody who loves you back. Do you believe that?