im overreacting

im overreacting ....thats me...the drama queen....

im sick of people saying its stress.....

im sick of people saying im overreacting....

i am a camels hair close to losing my freaking mind and smashing my head against a freaking wall

((((((((((((( inny honey )))))))))))))))))

Breathe with me......slowly, evenly.......I'm here with you inny....breathing away.

Is there any way you can tell people what it is that is bothering you? If they don't have knowledge of the real triggers (not that everyone should) then maybe they are in their own ways trying to help you hon. I know it doesn't help....but they don't know that. If this is the case of what is going on. I could be completely thinking incorrectly here.

Talk to us inny.....let us know what we can do to help you.


sabby

thanks sabau (((((((((((((((((sabau)))))))))))))))))))

according to alot of people....mostly in real life

the lumps on my chest are from stress....

getting my period every two weeks for 5 months is stress....

everything is from stress...they say i am overreacting

well you know...it makes me angry cuz if they were in the same perdictiment as i am in...they would feel the same way...scared....and when people just cast it aside as stress...it makes me feel like its all my fault.....that nothing is really wrong with me its all in my head.....

It's not all in your "head". The lumps are real, they are right there and too frequent periods are there too. They're all very real. You can't "control" what your body does, how it responds to stress. A lot of illnesses are stress-related.

The doctors are just not able to help you and, I assume, don't like feeling that limitation.

What's that adage about stupid questions? It's better to ask a stupid question than have to fix a stupid mistake? Better to overreact than underreact! You have a right to your fears and feelings.

((((((((((((((((( inny )))))))))))))))))

Everyone and their bodies react differently to different stimuli. Like Perna said....stress can do many different things to a person physically and emotionally.

I want you to know that I understand your stressings and that you DO have a right to feel the way you feel. Maybe once you can get your mind around the idea that stress may be playing a big part in your physical ailments, you can work on finding ways of dealing with your stress that will help make your life more comfortable.

In the meantime hon.....know we care and are thinking of you!

xoxoxo
sabby

((((((((((Perna))))))))))))))) thank you for making me feel better. Well I am going to the gyno on the 17th...so she might have answers and be able to help me...since she is a specialist...

(((((((sabau)))))))) Thanks for your support, I appreciate your kind words..I will try to remember i have a right to be scared

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((((inny)))) Don't you just love it when people say the word "just?" I try very hard not to use it and am careful when I do.

Stress can kill. But there isn't alot an outsider can do to lower your stress levels. You have to do that, and it's often a constant type effort.

Being mindful of what you are doing when you are doing it will help. Don't be running a zillion things through your mind, even though you might have that much to do. Make lists if that helps you be able to not have to keep everything in your mind...

Work on staying grounded and mindful. When someone occurs that you sense yourself REacting to, try to RESPOND to it instead. Take control, talk to yourself good self talk (say, "I know this is upsetting me. What can I do to control more of the situation than become overwhelmed?" ) If there's nothing you can do, you need to put it aside. If it's at night and there's nothing you can do right then (I mean, you can't call anyone to straighten out a bill, or file a complaint etc.) then put it on the list for the next day, and leave it there.

((((hugs)))

(((((((((((((((((((((InACorner)))))))))))))))))))))


Linda

((((((((INACORNER)))))))))))
Perception is reality. You are not overreacting, others are underreacting and not helping you when you need them. Take care of yourself!

(((((((((((InA)))))))))))))),

I know how stress can make us very very sick.....but the sick is a reality & needs to be taken care of even if the cause is stress.

Three years ago, I went through a horrible trauma when my Mother was dying of cancer. Stress always causes me to feel nausea that I can't control....to the point where I can't eat & when it continues long enough, I can't even get fluids down without getting sick to my stomach......just how my body reacts to stress. I ended up loosing so much weight I only weighed 93 lbs & landed in the hospital the night right before my Mother died. I had to have IV nutrition & my GP put me through about $60,000 of tests to figure out what was wrong with me. They did find that my cortisol level was way out of range & it's always something that is effected by stress.

There ended up nothing they could really do to help me either....very horrible place to find ones self being that close to the possiblity of dying (according to the hospitals pdoc) & nothing anyone could really do to change it.

The thing is that they were willing to check out everything that might possibly be a physical problem like they need to check for you.....make sure those lumps aren't really something & that there isn't really something physically wrong that is causing your period to come that often. It is important to rule out everything even if it might be associated with stress, the chance that there is really something physically wrong should not be overlooked just because they want to pass it off as stress.....don't let them do that.

If it really is nothing than at least you can strike that off your list as something to be stressed over. Your stress list is large enough.....they need to do all they can to relieve you from the stress of something physically being wrong.....then you can focus on trying to lower your stress level to handle what real stresses you have going on in your life.

I am back to stress effecting my nausea right now & it's very difficult to deal with.....so I can truely feel for what you are going through right now.

My prayers are with you,
Debbie

(((((Inny)))))

((((Inny)))

I don't think you are overreacting either.
It took Docs 30 years to find out something
that was wrong with me.And I nearly went blind
because of it.
Keep searching for those answers.
You actually helped me in a big way
in chat when I was being misunderstood.
Your advice was the best and I treasure that.

((((((((((sky))))))))))) thank you so much for the stress management tips...your right...i do dislike the word just lol....

(((((((((bpd))))))))) your hug has meant alot to me

(((((((((soliaree)))))))))) i like how you say others are underreacting....maybe ill print that out and send it to everyone who thinks that im overreacting

(((((((eskielover))))))) i cant begin to imagine how horrible and definitly tramatizing that was for you....you are so very brave...at least i can eat....wow.....i hope you feel better...i am sorry its coming back....perhaps take a class of yoga or meditation?? Or maybe talk to your doctor before it goes out of control... i dont want to see you get hurt like that last time you talked about

((((Zorah)))) my sweet friend ....thank you for your wonderful hug .....you always make me feel better

((((((((Julia))))) i cant believe you almost went blind!!! I am so glad that i am of some help to you....you help me so much and i am glad to be there for you when i can.

Thanks again to everyone. I needed this response like you all gave me......it made me feel alot better...and stronger...i was getting roughed up by the whole experience...Isnt it ironic when people tell you its just stress and your overreacting....that they themselves are just causing more stress by saying that? I sometimes would like to say to their face...and you wonder why im so stressed out its causing me to be sick? lol...thank you again...you all have warmed my heart...