[pegasus]

Just asking.

Please don't be offended.

Why can't I put a moderator on ignore?

[Fuzzybear]

I've also wondered that and wanted to do that sometimes. Bad me

(((((((((((( pegasus ))))))))))))

[Perna]

Because they're a moderator. They have to be able to communicate with you if they have a problem with your post, or important messages from DocJohn they've been given to deliver, etc.

[pegasus]

Surely Admin can do that???

[Fuzzybear]

I also wonder why it seems we arent allowed to be "triggered" by any mods and if/when we are to apply the self care tools that are so encouraged here.

[pegasus]

Yeah, I'm not trying to be nasty or anything, just would like to be able to do self-care.

I'm happy for Admin to be able to contact me, so why can't that be arranged?

[Perna]

Admin technically could do everything here but there's a whole lot of everything; lots going on behind the scenes trying to balance a whole lot of people with a whole lot of different needs, interests, etc. Like Muffy's post to help her friends, you never know when someone has had a crummy bus trip and arrived at your door in a crummy mood and sometimes, we don't know that WE have had the crummy bus trip and are being crummy to those around us. Looks reasonable to us but ye olde "independent observer" :-) would see something different?

You can react to mods, Fuzzy, by not reading what they have to say when you see their name. Allowing them to "exist" even when you're triggered, hurt, or angry with them doesn't take too much extra? Play in a "safe" area for a bit that isn't controversial and don't go where they hang out?

I had a hard time in group therapy once and I'd been complaining to my individual therapist often about it and finally she looked thoughtful and said, "I don't know much about group dynamics but I don't think they're out to get you". I literally hadn't realized that, had been acting like they were LOL. Mods and Admin aren't out to get us, they're just trying to keep the peace in situations that are probably good practice for being US diplomats in the Iraq :-)

Is there such a thing as a membership fee? I was inquiring one day about communication challenges and a person in chat asked if I was a registered paid member?

[pegasus]

Perna, I truly appreciate what the Moderators do here.

All I'm asking for is to be able to use the ignore button. Admin can still contact me anytime.

It's not much to ask is it?

[Perna]

Yes is it a lot to ask. The Admin appoint the Mods and they do it because they need the help to run the site well. All the mods need to be able to contact all the members when necessary as part of their "duty". The software, in many places is an all-or-nothing affair; you can have all mods or none; they can't turn off a mod just for a single member's benefit.

[Perna]

No, Ingridave, I don't know of any fee! It's a "free" site to use and enjoy.

[lenjan]

Mods are here for the good of the community. It takes a lot to keep the place running. Most of them have jobs, kids/grandkids, etc, to attend to besides spending mega-time volunteering (key word to remember) at PC.

Most of them also have their own mental health issues, or they wouldn't be here. So it takes a team of them to spread coverage over as much of the day as possible and when one is ill, etc.

I encourage you one day when Doc is listed as "viewing a PM" to pay attention to how long his status remains that way. It's often more than an hour at a time. Admin is ultra-busy as well, so mods help them out.

You can't put one on ignore because ALL of them need to be able to communicate with you, since all of them can't be online at the same time.

If one bugs you, just don't read their posts. I've done it now and then myself.

Candy

[pegasus]

I truly understand the wonderful and sometimes difficult job that all the moderators do here. I appreciate them, yes I do. I also understand that they too have lives and are volunteering.

All I was asking for was to be able to put one moderator on ignore for self-care reasons. The moderator is great but due to my own 'stuff' I was hoping to be able to put that one moderator on ignore. Psych Central is an essential part of my life and usually helps me to feel better. I just wanted to be able to do better self-care. Admin are always able to contact me and also tell me off if needed. That's ok.

I guess nobody is going to understand my point of view on this.

[Fuzzybear]

I've had to put a moderator on "ignore" and the only way I've found to do that on the board is to read in threaded mode. Then don't click on their posts. I do understand being triggered by things that don't mean the moderator is doing anything "wrong".

[pegasus]

How do you read in threaded mode Fuzzy?

[pegasus]

Oh! I see! I'll try that! Thanks ((((( Fuzzy )))))

[Fuzzybear]

[Zorah]

Hi Ingridave2, there is no membership fee, and you can't seem to get into chat without being a registered member, so no idea what they were talking about.

[bebop]

no this is a free sight. no fees or memberhips money at all

[darkeyes]

I'd suggest you take your question up with Doc John,KD or Jan.
You'll recieve your answer, I'm sure.
Thanks,
DE

[pegasus]

I spoke to kimmydawn about this a while ago and she gave me some tips but couldn't do anymore than that.

I sent a message to DocJohn ages ago and never received a reply.

So you see I have already done that, it's an on going problem for me. I'm not just trying to be awkward, it took a lot for me to post the original question. I didn't want to offend anyone but hoped someone would be able to help/support me with this.

[DocJohn]

The problem isn't really a technical one, but one of where do we draw the line... If a member has a problem with a moderator (and being triggered by reading his or her posts), wouldn't it be possible for a member to also have a problem with an administrator too? Or someone has a problem with all 3 admins at the same time and ignores all of us?

So if I say, okay, we'll allow ignoring of moderators (which would make our job a little more difficult, since we rely on moderators to take care of most of the daily issues that arise), I'm sure I'll get a PM asking for that to be extended to admins. And then suddenly everyone has to play messenger to get messages from an ignored moderator or admin to a member, and vice-a-versa.

We need the community team here and for better or worse, they cannot be ignored at present. I'll certainly bring it up as a suggestion to be discussed further amongst the team to see and understand if we can find an implementation that wouldn't make everyone's jobs here more difficult. But it's not something that's going to change any time soon.

As for the community charging members, no, there is no charge for the community, there never has been one, and I can say with some degree of certainty that there never will be one. All we ask of our members is that they do remember that the community is a part of a larger information site about mental health, and to visit the site from time to time as they'd like. The site is supported by its advertisers as well, so occasionally recognizing that helps us too.

Thank you for your continued support,
DocJohn

[gardenergirl]

It's always more complicated when mods also post as members. I can see how it would be important for all the mods and admin to be able to communicate with all the members if necessary within their role as mod or admin. Perhaps it's the personal posts that pegasus wishes to be able to ignore in order to take care of herself. Though it's an additional complication, if somehow posts made in the role of mod and posts made personally could be distinct, maybe that could help?

gg

[Zorah]

gg

but maybe too hard to implement, idk, it would depend on the software, but a very good idea

[gardenergirl]

Thanks Zorah. I like the Dylan quote.

gg