TRIGGERING - Concerns a child - TRIGGERED

This post concerns a child and is very triggering. Please do not read this post if you think you might be triggered.



Today I stopped by the local Exxon to buy a Pepsi. The cashier asked me if a man had offered to give me his child. I said, "No!", and asked what her what was happening. A man who is impaired has been trying to give his autistic son away to anyone who would take him. The cashier told me she didn't know what to do.

I told her to call 911. She said the man wasn't allowed in the store but that she had given cupcakes to the little boy because he was so hungry. I told her the little boy would be on the store's video then and the police could find him that way.

She promised me faithfully that she would call 911. I went down the street to my friend's business and called the police. Not one person called about that little boy but me. The cashier didn't call.

The boy is 6. The police took the little boy to his paternal grandmother, who is going to turn around and give the child back to his father. The police came and had me write a complete report. I told the police that if I hadn't called and the next day the news said the little boy was dead I would always think it was my fault.

I've been told over and over that the reason the Exxon employees didn't call the police was because they didn't want involved. Well, it's about time people step up and get involved! I was one of those children that everyone ignored even thought they knew perfectly well what was happening to me. I was one of the children whose father tried to give her away.

Jan

Oh, Jan, so triggering to YOU. How horrible that these things happen in broad daylight in our "normal" cities now.

I'm so glad you called and hope the police alert social services or someone that tracks the boy so it doesn't happen again. What was he trying to give the boy away for? Money? There's got to be someone who cares. I'm glad you weren't autistic and eventually got away to your own life.

{{{boy}}}
{{{Jan}}}
{{poor Exxon employee not knowing what to do}}}

Oh jan...im so sorry you are going through this.

But its nice to see wonderful people in this world such as yourself. Dont feel guilty. You did all you can. and thats all anybody can ask of us.

Take care and be strong.
Colleen

(((((((((((((((((((( Jan & child )))))))))))))))))))))

My dear friend...you are an angel here on earth. Three times in the past few months you have been in a situation with a child and you have done everything in your power to help that child. This earth is blessed to have you...these children are blessed to have you.

My heart goes out to that little boy and others like him. My heart, love and appreciation for all you do goes to you with much respect and admiration.

I'm so sorry this was so triggering and hurtful for you to go through, yet you handled it with such love.


sabby

I am so glad and tremedously proud of you, January! And I applaud your instinct to call the police despite the promise made by that employee. (Didn't you just know they wouldn't do anything...so typical of people these days).

I so agree with you that people need to stop looking the other way when instances of abuse occur.

Let's hope that someone will continue to watch over this babe.

Thank you, Jan!

(((((((((jan)))))))))))I am so sorry you went threw that as a child......someone should have helped you.
you did the right thing
you are so right ppl need to step up to the plate and help the children, My son has PDD a form of autisum
I never would have traded him for anything.

what on earth is wrong with ppl

(((Jan)))

Very proud of you!

Jan, you are that little boys Earth Angel, you did marvelous
proud to know you
Angie

Oh Jan ,,,,,,, ((((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))) These are the things that touch some very deeply,,,,,,,,, Children are first and at this time of year more so ......

(((((((((( Dear Hearts )))))))))))))

Thank you, each and every one.

The policeman asked me what I would have done if the man had given me the little boy. I told him I would have locked the child and myself in the car and dialed 911. The policeman tried to make sure I understood that if something would have happened to that child, it would not have been my fault if I hadn't called. I appreciate his kindness, but I don't believe it.

One of the things I am thinking about is that since the child is autistic, maybe he doesn't know his father is trying to give him away. I don't want anyone to be autistic, please don't misunderstand, but maybe there is a bit of mercy to be found there. Otherwise, he will feel that he is just a thing, not a person, and that no one cares about him.

Who will speak for the children? Someone must speak for the children, for they have no voices...

Jan hon I am so glad you were there. you are a true angel. really hon when things happen you seem to be in the right place at the right time.

But Be, it's all wrong. How many children go unoticed. How many adults don't want to get involved...

I did find out tonight that the police will not reveal my name, phone number or address to the family of the little boy. That part's good.

(((((((((((((((( jan ))))))))))))))))))

There are no words for what I'm thinking and feeling right now because it's too much.

You did the right thing and we can pray that that little boy will be taken care of. I'm proud of you, sister. I know how upsetting this is.

KD

((((((((((Jan))))))))))
This makes my heart hurt so ... It's hard to believe that some people actually do things like this ...

I'm so proud of you for calling .. that couldn't have been easy, esp if it was triggering for you.

You are a good person

Jacq

((((((((((( kimmy & jacq )))))))))))

Thank you both so much.

I want the world to get to the point where no one has to be thanked for taking up for a child. I want the world fixed where no child falls through the cracks.

I talked to a dear friend tonight who has devoted his life to working with children who are mentally and/or physically challenged. I told him I just don't understand that father, and my very wise friend told me he didn't understand either. That made me feel a bit better.

My friend explained that the police couldn't do anything because the father had not suceeded in giving his son to someone. If he had given the child away, the police could have taken the child into protective custody. Believe me, the policemen were just as frustrated as I was and by the time they came to talk to me they had found the child.

I want to mention that when I am highly triggered the head injury causes me to not spell things correctly and I can't find the mistakes. Please overlook any and all mistakes I've made in typing tonight. I am very embarrassed by it but I just can't help it.

Hugs,

Jan

You really have a heart of Gold ! I am so sorry you have gone through this before.

I know you are a angel. It really gets me how people toss,
kill, abuse,etc.

People need to get involved,with these kind of issues.

Bless you for taking care of this little boy.

((((jan)))) geez. some people who don't want to get involved should be slapped silly. i had found out about a girl who was physically abused by her dad years ago, and i called the child protective services. i kept my identity a secret because i was terrified that the father would come after me (he actually went after a neighbor who he thought called the child protective services on him). gee, i was scared, as i was only a teen at the time. i am so glad that you called, jan. this happens more often than you think......where people either said that they will call, but never did, or think that someone else will call. i know how difficult it is for you. take care of yourself.

That is really heartbreaking. ((((((((January)))))))) Sending you strength.

((((jan)))))- for noticing a child
everyone needs to be noticed
everyone needs love and care

((((((((((( Dear Hearts )))))))))))

Thank you one and all for the encouragement. I got very little sleep last night wondering if the little boy was safe and warm.

Our society tries so hard to get us to recycle things, yet some people throw their children away. It's hard to tell how many generations of abuse has occured in that family. I thought about that, too.

Thank you so very much for caring.

Hugs,

Jan

January,

I'm so sorry that you went through this as a child, and I'm so happy that you called the police! I'm the "troublemaker" because I call the authorities when something is going on. If I cannot fix the situation, I make every effort to get ahold of someone that will. But I must confess it's gotten me in trouble.

A few years ago, I got a frantic call from Florida (we're in Wisconsin) from a mother. Her ex had custody of their daughter who was a friend of my daughter. He and the teen had gotten into an aguement about her oversleeping. He pulled over on the freeway on the way to Milwaukee and kicked his 14 year old daughter out of the car. Her mother called and asked if I could go to a gas station about an hour from where we lived. Another motorist had picked her up hitchhiking.

When I picked her up, I notified the police that I had her, at her mother's request. The problem was that the mother was not the custodial parent. The father was freaking out. I told the police that I would NOT turn her over to her father, she was welcome to stay here, but I was not going to force her to go with her father under these conditions. They threatened to charge me kidnapping.

Eventually the two calmed down, the police negociated with them both and she agreed to go home with her father rather than spend the night in a foster home. When he came to pick her up, instead of saying "Thank you". He said "If you EVER take my daughter without permission again, I'll have you arrested."

I told him to get out of my house and never return, that Sam was welcome here anytime she wished, and if he excercised a bit of common sense, none of us would have been in this situation to begin with! How was I the bad guy?